Yeah I just got home from the nicu too
Actually, it will be two weeks tomorrow since I brought my baby home from her 61 day stay in the NICU.
To say that "Wouldn't most moms be willing to stay in the hospital however long their baby was there? Don't most insist on it?" (your quote) is ridiculous.
In a perfect world the mom wouldn't HAVE to work, so therefor she could be with her baby 24/7 during the NICU stay and afterwards while at home. In a perfect world there would be no need for hospital births. In a perfect world there would be no premature babies.
But guess what? It ISN'T a perfect world, and some moms HAVE to work. Myself included. I could not be at my baby's bedside all the time! I had an emergecny cs for my 27 weeker, and after three weeks of recovery, I had
to go back to work! It sucks and isn't fair, but that's the way life is sometimes. I wish I could stay at home and not leave my dd, but that isn't the way it is for us.
It is irrisponsible, and almost sounds like homicidal, to say that babies in the nicu are better off at home. MOST of the babies in the worlds nicu's are very very sick, micro-preemie infants. Mine was born at 2lbs 2 ounces, and dropped to 14 ounces before gaining weight! With all of her medical problems, do you honestly think that she would have been 'better off?'
YES touching, nurturing, breastfeeding, KC, everything, is helpful. BUT it should, and does, come second to medical care that is keeping your child alive so that maybe one day you can take them home when they're healthy enough to do those things.
It is just too expensive, and detrimental to your childs care to have each LD room 'specialized' with all of this equiptment. Like an OP said, hospitals are already under-staffed as it is, and having to go from one room to another to care for several very sick babies is ludacris. You cannot expect two (or even one!) nurse to be assigned to you for just that reason. It isn't fair for your baby, or someone elses baby, the nurse herself, nor is it cost effective.
Sure money isn't everything, especially when it comes to your childs life. HOWEVER, my hospital bill just came in (and mind you I had THREE HOSPITALS, before finally delivering in the one my dd was in) for just my babies hospital bed. (Now keep in mind this was JUST to be in
the nicu stay.) $315,000
. That's not even all of it. And Guess what? My insurance wont cover a thing.
I apologize if I am coming off as a *beep*. But I am truly passionate on this subject as I lived it for a long time, and the images there will always haunt me. But I am truly greatful because I know without them I wouldn't be looking at my precious 5lb3ounce baby girl right now.
I would have KILLED
to have been in your shoes. I would have KILLED
to just have my baby in the nicu just for a couple of days for 'just in case' monitoring. To know that, 'yes my baby might be a little problematic, but you know what? I KNOW she will come out of here alive.' And I promise you, the moms on this board that also had micropreemie babies will say the same. The uncertainty you get from having a preemie in severe touch and go condition in the nicu is heart-wrenching. I understand that you feel like you shouldn't have been there. But I promise they had their reasons for keeping your baby there, whether it was 'policy' or because they felt it was nessisary, not to be just 'money hungry'.
Off my soap-box now