Hi all, sorry I didn't come back and update after the rest of the weekend (life got in the way, darn it!)
The rest of the weekend went really good as well! Dh and I went out with J (biodad) and his wife for dinner that Saturday. The guys were both nervous, understandably, but the evening actually went really good. There were no awkward silences, etc... it all just seemed to flow. They both drank a lot, because they were so nervous, but neither of them got completely blotto, it just let them relax and they were even able to broach the subject of dd a little bit. I'm not sure exactly what was said, because after dinner dh and J disappeared around the corner from us (we were at a restaurant/bar) and talked for a couple of hours. J's wife and I talked about lots of stuff, it's easier somehow for her and I, you know? But I really do think that dh and J will be fine, it will just take a bit of time...
Then on Sunday dh and I brought dd to their hotel room (dd asked to meet them somewhere private at first). Funny thing... J wanted to make sure they had a big, comfortable room for us all to be in... so they ended up reserving the honeymoon suite!
That meeting went good, too. No tears, which surprised me. J had brought his photo album of pics from when dd was small, and she had both her scrapbook and our family one, so that gave them something to do while they got used to each other. Then we all went out for breakfast, then to a local nature area where we just walked around for a few hours. After that we went for ice cream to cool down a bit, then they headed back home (they live three hours away). All in all, a very positive weekend.
The plan was for us to go camping with them this weekend, but again, life intervened (my dh contracted viral meningitis 2 weeks ago). Since he isn't up to a camping trip, J and his wife are coming down tomorrow, just overnight, so they can meet the rest of our family. The three girls are all very excited about this -- M and J are both looking forward to meeting him, T to seeing them again. Dh and I are looking forward to it, too -- it will be nice to hang out with them and it will be more relaxed this time around. And, as it happens, dh and I have to go up to their city today, so we're having supper with them at their house tonight. Which is good, because it will give us a chance to talk about how the extended family is feeling about all of this (his mom had some reservations, my dad is... less than happy -- but we'll leave all of that for another post).
So yeah, that's it so far.
I promise I will update after the weekend.