Originally Posted by shelbean91
Honestly, I really, really hate to say it, but the worst bosses I've EVER had have been female. I think it really sucks to have to come to that conclusion and males can be jerks just as much, but IME the women are WAY worse and that sickens me.
AMEN to this...here's our story---dd has severe SID and for several years had a feeding tube due to this (and reflux that made things worse) and dh works for a woman--but you know, and I hate to stereotype but here goes--this woman has never been married and has a cat and is very very large...she's very difficult and VERY unforgiving and harsh on all of her employees but especially my dh.
The first time he ever had to leave work due to dd issues it was a terrible issue and this woman is just as nuts as the boss your dh works for--she will (and still does) call our house and demand to know where dh is and talk to me like I'm her dog or something demanding to know where he is and then ranting about whatever the problem is that is work-related (like I have a clue as to what the heck she's talking about)--in fact, I've thought about getting caller ID just to screen HER calls!
These are the things you must must do--and we are doing this, so I know--
1) keep a record log of time your dh takes off and why and write down all details (like dr. appt at 3 with Dr. Bill for X)
AND document ALL conversations he has with bosslady over time off, expectations, raises, etc., etc., ---KEEP DETAILED RECORDS include comments, times, dates, etc. --everything he can think of...
2) keep a record log/book of any and all over time or extra time that your dh does to either make up for lost time or just in general for the company so that they can see that he fits the description of a dedicated employee
3) get a lawyer who deals with these cases IMMEDIATELY and get on line to find the BEST one in your area--google a search for support groups in your area on special needs and ask the parents in that group--that's what we did and we came out with a pit bull of a lawyer.
As nutty as this gal sounds, she'll back down if she knows your dh is serious. That should do the trick.
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU--you and your dh do not deserve this!!!