Originally Posted by Jennah_Gole
my question was purely to figure out if baby wud be missin out on the benefits of the colostrum which is high in concentrated nutrition for the newborn and actually helps the baby pass his first stools and that aids in excretion of bilirubin which helps prevent jaundice among other benefits.
Ds was 2yr 2mos when dd was born. My milk came in almost immediately (I think it was w/in 24 hours). I had a huge issue w/oversupply (ds was in HEAVEN!-Milk again-Whee!) & dd had frequent vomiting for a while until I assigned them each a breast and achieved equillibrium. Dd had no issues w/jaundice or passing her first stools. She never needed any antibiotics until she was about 19 mos, but ds was prescribed abx frequently in his first year for bronchitis/asthma. IMO, both of your "babies" will get what they need, just as in birthing, your body knows what it's doing (barring extenuating health issues/circumstances).
Originally Posted by HardCoreMom
i'm nervous that when it comes time to tandem nurse, my toddler won't want to share. and he's pretty much had my chest all to himself, wherever, whenever, however. so i'm worried about his flexibility and understanding when he becomes second in line for the breast. i hope that tandem nursing helps smooth things over for us, rather than increasing a struggle.
but here's one of my big nursing-related concerns of late:
ds has always nursed himself to sleep. always. i don't think either of us would have it any other way. at the end of a long day, it's the perfect way to reconnect and send him into a nurtured, peaceful sleep.
I nursed ds throughout dd's pregnancy & he just weaned this May (shortly after I became pregnant this time). It was very difficult for me b/c he really needed to nurse emotionally and often & has a short tongue (difficult latch), but I knew weaning him would have been the wrong thing (he was only 18 mos when I conceived dd). I'd read all about adoring mothers watching as their nurslings gazed lovingly into each other's eyes and held hands-Not by a long shot here! However, I will say, despite the tears & shoving & dramatics, it was definately a worthwhile experience for me & I did end up w/one or 2 loving moments
There were times when being able to nurse them both at the same time saved everyone's sanity. There were times when needing to nurse both of them at once nearly cost me mine! In the end, I believe that both of my babies needed to nurse & we worked to accomodate everyone as best we could.
In the beginning, getting us all to sleep was the single worst thing about having 2 kids. It was the source of all of my trauma, guilt, anxiety, etc... The problem was that they had to go to sleep @ the same time from the beginning. Dh couldn't keep either one out of the bedroom w/o a major heart-breaking tantrum (my newborn, my firstborn-I am torn!). What ended up eventually working for us was tandem nursing for 10 minutes, then nursing my dd (infant) to sleep. If ds was still awake @ that time, I would nurse him again. However, by 3 mos, this routine changed & dh could keep dd up for those 10 mins & ds would nurse alone. Then I would still hold him while I nursed dd. Usually, he'd be asleep right after w/o a hitch. The big key was that he gave up his afternoon nap @ that time. At first I fought it, but it allowed us to do something in the afternoons and made him tired enough to fall asleep easily @ night. He never looked back at nursing to sleep.
A week ago, my biggest fear was that dd was weaning. I just wasn't prepared. She was never as serious a nurser as ds (there were definately times where dd nursed longer & more frequently than she did). One day she just said "no milk in the nurses mama!" & almost totally stopped nursing during the day. However, she's back in there this week. I find that I'm really interested to see what she'll be like as the big sister-the big nurser. Plus, I guess I do feel that they did do a lot of bonding over the boob after all
Good luck to all!