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post #21 of 227
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Originally posted by Lea
I agree! I stay far far away from activism for this very reason.
I agree completely!

There is never an "inside joke" risk with us. I believe we are the most welcoming and inviting crowd at MDC. We people who don't know about cloth b/c we loooooove talking it up.

When I first came here, I didn't know from snappis!

I believe that we can foster the inner hyena that dwells in us all.

I also use "view new posts." If someone's post is not interesting to me, I just don't click on it. It is just that easy.


Jean
post #22 of 227
I have to say, I'm a bit bothered by this post also. So you mean that the women in here can't "get to know each other", we can ONLY EVER EVER EVER talk of diapers? Once you get "into" a forum, you usually just go there. I think knowing each other on a personal basis makes it more fun. Of course I don't think we should bombard the boards with this, but I think it's great to hear about someones DH getting a job offer, etc!!!

I agree with whoever said, just don't open the thread.
post #23 of 227
What if we had a chit chat area in diapering. I love the humor of the mommas here. I can't wait some nights to log on and get the latest and greatest info. There is always something new and exciting. I love to hear about what mail everyone got, who sniped who, who is instock, ect ect.
You guys crack me up. i post other places too, but some are very dry and I do not feel the "community" that I feel here. I just belong here! I hate to think I am making others angry with my jokes and humor. I try to stay OT but somethimes it is so hard! LOL
post #24 of 227
I love this diapering board and this community. I don't personally mind OT posts such as someone being pregnant because I won't see them elsewhere.
post #25 of 227
I'm sure I've had my share of OT posts here in diapering. I have tried to branch out and I do post in a few other forums, but really, we do have a sense of community here in diapering. I've made some good friends and even met a couple of the mamas here IRL.

I think an OT chat board within diapering would be great! <hint, hint>

Then again, I've thought to myself "what will I do when Finn gets out of diapers?!?! I won't be able to post here anymore!"

I'm sure branching out is good, but some OT posts within the diapering community, well, I just don't see what the harm is in that
post #26 of 227
Can I just say, that I don't think it is only a matter of annoyance. SO many times I have gone through the most recent new posts, spotted interesting topics, read them, and wanted to jump in -- only to realize the WHOOPS, this is an off-topic post in diapering, and since I'm not a CDing mama, and these posts are CLEARLY not open to me, but only the select group of mamas who have gotten to know each other here -- and then well, I feel out in the cold.

If you put your posts in the appropriate forums, then I will feel welcome to respond to them and to get to know you all. The feeling I get though, is that you are not too interested in my responses, or in getting to know me.
post #27 of 227

I really have no problem

with what anyone posts on the diapering board because I love to hear what every single mama who hangs at the board has to say even if it is not related to diapers. I guess I am the odd man out here and sorry your so frustrated.
post #28 of 227
well..
I have been apart of 2 different types of parenting boards for over 3 years now.. one a community of 10,000 registered members & another with about 150 active members & not a ton of forumns

on the large board people usually only posted on a handfull of forumns. I posted on 1.. the age group for my child
we talked about anything.. everything & whatever in between in that forumn

on the small board we do try to keep things in their apropriate forumn.. however they do have one main board that everyone knows their post will be seen by everyone

I have issues with the way MDC is.. it is TOO large to be so strict about where posts are.. I find it alot harder to make friends here..
Ive been here almost 3 months & could only tell you 1 or 2 usernames & their real names & most likely wouldnt get their kids names right

I guess it depends on what Mothering's goal is here.. to encourage friendships that last years or just have people hang out awhile learn a little about parenting & everything else & then move on

I myself mainly post in Diapering & now that Im not buying up a storm.. Im not as active / nor will I be

I was thinking about this the other day because I like this board because I feel theres alot of women I could learn from but felt discouraged because I dont really KNOW anyone..so checked out the members & clicked by top posters.. & was not one bit suprised that for a board that had been around awhile alot of members dont really stick around that long
post #29 of 227
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If you put your posts in the appropriate forums, then I will feel welcome to respond to them and to get to know you all. The feeling I get though, is that you are not too interested in my responses, or in getting to know me.
I am interested in ALL responses. Really. But while I understand this comment in theory it's too hard for me to get to other boards. I work part-time am busy with my husband's business and his youth pastoring and my 9 month old daughter. In theory it would be a wonderful place if we could all cross post. But to me these boards are way too busy for me to do that personally.

I like the idea of a chit chat area within diapering if it has to be that way.

But I need a clarification is talking about sniping and auctions and whose instock etc OT? I don't get that if it is. To me those are directly about diapering even though it doesn't appeal to everyone.

And from a personal "business" perspective - I used to work for ParentTime way before it was Parenting and then Women.com. For them the boards were smaller and much more compact so it was important for them to keep the topics on target. For instance when Women.com was bought by iVillage they lost tons of members to Oxygen/MomsOnline cause iVillage was so vast that many people felt lost. I didn't go there either.

MDC is HUGE. Which is great for MDC but it makes it harder on the new people especially to fit in. Thus it makes sense that smaller communities within the HUGE whole would eventually evolve. Otherwise people are just going to come for info and when they have it leave not stick around. For the most part. Again just my .02.
post #30 of 227
oh & another thing that ticked me off..now that I went & read those threads & someone was making a complaint that OT posts wernt moved to TAO..

well.. I did try to make an effort in TAO awhile back...it was my daughters 2nd birthday & i had made a wonderfull signature that rolled thru pics of her from birth to age 2..I posted on her birthday & asked everyone to look at it.. not person replied

if I post OT here in diapering people have replied with care
post #31 of 227
OK, my first post, saying I found it annoying, was not very clear on 'what' I found annoying.

What I find annoying falls somewhere between posts that are OT and the fact that there's 'moved, moved moved' all the time, kwim? It's annoying that the mods have to spend so much time moving things, affecting their own time for enjoyment of the board, as Missgrl said in one of the aforementioned posts.

I do agree; this forum has an unparalleled level of comraderie amongst the posters. I like that. I mean, I did spend the bulk of my first 1000 posts here. Now I am branching out and spending more time in other forums ( ing the craft and dewing forum!)

Honestly, I held back on posting sewing questions or tips many times because they weren't strictly "OnT". I like having a forum that caters to the sewer (hehehe) in me; not the just the DIAPER sewer, kwim?

OTOH, I really do like to post "to" you ladies here, in Diapering, because I know the majority of you here. BUT if I have a gardening question or such, I'll post in gardening and then direct y'all there from HERE. i also experience the 'outsider' feeling in TAO and Activism et al. I mainly don't post there. I like the idea of a subforum for a diaper "Garden Party" chat sort of thang.

That brings us to the creation of yet another forum. Egads, there are so many. Here I can really see the point the mods are making about "introducing us around" at the party by directing our OT stuff out into pertinent forums.

just my two cents
post #32 of 227

Re: This is an official complaint

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Originally posted by Irishmommy
there was something like 60 pages of new posts, and most of them were for here, and unrelated to here at that.
Ahh, but you might be missing the magical, mysterious world of cloth diapering with this type of thinking!

Here are my thoughts:

Some people pick their diapering system and don't give it a second thought, save for a question or two here and there. In my experience, these questions are always answered thoroughly on this forum.

And then there's the rest of us--- those who are truly addicted to cloth diapering. You may be a frequent poster, lurker, old or new member, but the bond is the same. Somehow, we weave politics, art, health, environment, science, suffering, happiness, economics and more into cloth diapers. Crazy? Yes, but it works!

I love the diapering community at MDC and I wouldn't change a thing. (Except I'd like to see a few new smilies: prefold, Snappi, and hemp would be my picks!)

happy thoughts, happy thoughts
post #33 of 227
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OTOH, I really do like to post "to" you ladies here, in Diapering, because I know the majority of you here. BUT if I have a gardening question or such, I'll post in gardening and then direct y'all there from HERE. i also experience the 'outsider' feeling in TAO and Activism et al. I mainly don't post there. I like the idea of a subforum for a diaper "Garden Party" chat sort of thang
Ditto.

But again maybe I have just missed them but I haven't seen a huge amount of OT posts. But I've only been here regularly a couple of weeks. :

BTW Hi Kendall! Remember me from AM?
post #34 of 227
Okay, so supposing everyone starts posting about whatever is going on in their lives in whatever forum they feel the most comfortable in?

I spend the most time and feel the most comfortable in gentle discipline. SO -- when I adopt new kittens, should I go and post an announcement in GD??

Of course not. That would be silly, and it would exclude people, and it would confuse newbies and lurkers.

People log on and expect to find appropriate information in appropriate forums. Its confusing when there is a lot of OT stuff there.

And for whatever it is worth (and thats probably not much) I don't like the idea of a chit chat forum in diapering. We HAVE an MDC chit-chat forum that is open to everyone. A chit-chat forum in diapering would only be open to CDing mamas, and that would not be fair. If you have things going on in your lives that you want to share with only a select few, then why not send a couple PMs? Take advantage of the Buddy system?
post #35 of 227
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Originally posted by mamaduck
Can I just say, that I don't think it is only a matter of annoyance. SO many times I have gone through the most recent new posts, spotted interesting topics, read them, and wanted to jump in -- only to realize the WHOOPS, this is an off-topic post in diapering, and since I'm not a CDing mama, and these posts are CLEARLY not open to me, but only the select group of mamas who have gotten to know each other here -- and then well, I feel out in the cold.

If you put your posts in the appropriate forums, then I will feel welcome to respond to them and to get to know you all. The feeling I get though, is that you are not too interested in my responses, or in getting to know me.
Definitely see your point mamaduck. I don't know what to say about this. You're one of the funniest mamas I know and I do miss hearing your comments. By keeping our OT posts in diapering we're missing out on other wonderful mamas input, such as yourself. I do wish you'd have jumped in and posted, however I understand your feeling not welcome to post.
post #36 of 227
I don't think most of us mean we should fill up the forum with OT stuff. Again I just don't see that happening. But really what is OT? I am getting the impression that it's a lot different than what I thought.

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If you have things going on in your lives that you want to share with only a select few, then why not send a couple PMs? Take advantage of the Buddy system?
I don't think most people post something just for a select few. If that's true than yes a pm could be appropriate. But for the newbies especially is it really reasonable to expect them to pm something they don't know or no little about in an effort to get more info on something?
post #37 of 227
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Originally posted by Nikki Christina
oh & another thing that pissed me off..now that I went & read those threads & someone was making a complaint that OT posts wernt moved to TAO..

well.. I did try to make an effort in TAO awhile back...it was my daughters 2nd birthday & i had made a wonderfull signature that rolled thru pics of her from birth to age 2..I posted on her birthday & asked everyone to look at it.. not 1 damn person replied

if I post OT here in diapering people have replied with care
I also have this complaint aswell, though. I posted that I had bees in my house a few weeks ago in TAO and not one person posted to say, goly gee that sucks mama, sorry you're having a sh**ty day blah blah blah" Now if I'd posted it in Diapering I'd have had at least 5 responses I am sure. I guess it doesn;t matter in the grand scheme of things, but its just made me feel sad.
post #38 of 227
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Originally posted by mamaduck
I spend the most time and feel the most comfortable in gentle discipline. SO -- when I adopt new kittens, should I go and post an announcement in GD??
Actually, not to be smart alecy (this is meant sincerely), but you probably could post that and keep it on topic in gentle discipline. Kittens are a wonderful tool for teaching gentleness but are also challenging in the respect that children may need to be taught (disciplined) how to treat them with care.
post #39 of 227
I know I've expressed my disappointment about being required to post in other forums in order to participate in the Trading Post. I don't plan to be active on those boards, so I've given up and realized I won't be able to use the Trading Post.

This single forum is busier and requires more time to read than my other 3 whole communities combined. I have a lot of great friends online and communities to cover every subject matter other than diapering. The only community I have time to be involved in on Mothering is Diapering (and I guess Sewing now that all diaper sewing posts have been moved there)

I enjoy seeing any posts here that I wouldn't see otherwise. I don't notice very many off topic posts, though. I appreciate the fact that this forum is not strictly diaper-centric. It's really hard to moderate yourself SO strictly that you are constantly worried about whether others will be upset about what you're choosing to post and where.
post #40 of 227
LOL, good point Elena. BUT I think she meant to give a "what's new and exciting with me" example; you just dissected it :LOL

Yes, Hi Leah!!! Of course I remember you

Yes, there are chat forums. Why couldn't you/we/I just start our own clique in TAO, LOL!

I solemnly swear, to post on threads started by people I know in TAO so they shalt not feel the burn of a spurning

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