Weekly Thread? July 16

[Cujobunny]

I didn't see one...

I saw my midwife yesterday and my GBS swab came back negative WOO HOO! Baby is head down and head is in my pelvis. Also talked about delaying cord clamping and cutting and her standard is to wait until it stops pulsing

I'm feeling so tired these days - it's my last week of work and I'm soooo looking forward to having some time off before baby comes - ds will be in daycare still so I have some time to myself. I'm having difficulty getting enough sleep - ds goes to bed pretty late and I have to get up so early to go to work. Thankfully tonight my SIL is looking after him for a bit and my MIL is coming Thurs and Fri to help me out in the evenings.

[quetinha]

I have very few physical complaints... but each day I get dumber. I actually cried at work today because I thought the safest thing I could do was to take an online training class. I read a screen, got asked a question about it .. and could not remember. I miss my brain terribly and hope it comes back after the baby.

I bought diapers yesterday. My first step towards believing my life is about to change. I've been making all kinds of lists (thanks to the threads) but not really acting on them yet.

DH and I went to see Knocked Up over the weekend. I thought of it as an "educational" movie to help him get ready for the big day.

My SIL is having a baby shower for me on Sunday. Hope I remember to go!

[wendyland]

I went on leave this week. It's nice not having to go to work, but I'm kind of bored. I can't do too much, either, since my ankles are so swollen.

I created a sort of birth plan to give to my husband. I listed the interventions and how I wanted them handled so that he'll remember. I don't think the hospitals around here pay much attention to them, so I thought it would be better for him to have my list.

[Alohamelly]

My biggest complaint right now is that I can't sleep. It takes forever for me to fall asleep and then I get maybe 2-3 hours of solid sleep at the most. It's frustrating and I'm turning into a miserable person.

I'm 37 weeks today and so ready for this baby to be born. Especially since he's head down now.

I'm also have lots of contractions and lower back aches lately that hurt bad. Also when I walk, I get these weird, painful cramps sometimes and it stops me in my tracks. I'm thinking it has something to do with ligament stretching?

[SarahJoy]

i'm 37 weeks and 2 days! haha
had an appointment yesterday. still don't like my dr much but he's easier to deal with when i don't argue with him. haha. tested positive for GBS. boo. that just means i'll have to stay home instead of going to the hospital. haha. i don't mind that they want me to have antibiotics for it but i really do not like having an IV running the entire time, so i do plan on staying home as long as i feel like i want to. which was the plan anyway.

i can't sleep worth crap anymore. takes me forever and a day to get comfy. then i'm too hot. or too cold. or something hurts. or i have to get up and pee. yeah. fun. awake every couple hours.. i sleep better during the day than i do at night and regardless of if i have a nap or not it takes me forever to fall asleep.

had some crazy strong BH earlier today. but they're mostly gone now.

and i'm about to run out of my red raspberry pills! boo! forgot to pay attention to how many i had left and i have enough for 2 1/2 more days.. at least i still have my tea! mmmm!

and the back cramps! ewww. no fun.

[PiePie]

Originally Posted by wendyland

I can't do too much, either, since my ankles are so swollen.

the only thing that really helps mine is physical therapy.

[mama2walden&luna]

I'm doing fine, I had some wicked back pain this weekend, but that's gone. I'm on my Dr. Christopher's formula and EPO now, plus regular prostiglandin deposits and walking in the evenings. Any time now!!

I'm having a baby shower this weekend. My mom is throwing it for me. I had to help with the invitations b/c she was dragging her feet about them, so they go out 2 weeks late. I hope at least half of the guests can come.

My mom and I are arguing though. Yesterday, dd, dh and I were at her house doing laundry (our laundry room is being remodeled). She was alseep (she has health problems, sleeps a LOT) and we were folding a load. It was right at dd's nap time, so she was getting testy. I told her not to play with the folded clothes and tried to talk to her/ distract her, but she was really mad and had a meltdown. When she has meltdowns, she won't let me near her for cuddles or anything. She just wants to scream and cry and get it out. That's ok with me, however she needs to handle her anger, ya know? At any rate, my mom came out of her room, glared at me, ignored dh's "hello" and scooped up dd like she was rescuing her. Dd got so overstimulated so quickly and so back into "play mode" that it was a fight to get her down for a nap. When my mom is around, dd thinks she doesn't have to do anything I say. It's a really bad thing that my mom has created with her. So she was saying things like, "go away mommy, I don't need you!" and pushing me and slapping at my face. So I started crying and got more and more pissed off at my mom. Finally, I got her to nurse and read a book and she fell asleep. My mom kept writing notes and taping them to ther outside of her bedroom door. They were all about how dd is so stressed right now with all the changes happening and how I am so tired and that usually I'm a patient mom and yadda yadda yadda. The fact is that she sees dd when she is tired/stressed because she never gets out of bed in time to see her before she gets that way. She's been holed up in her room for weeks on and off with one ailment or another (this is a usual thing with her, and they're never anything serious) and has seen very very little of "what's going on" with my family right now. She's basing everything she thinks on assumptions and never bothers to ask me any questions before she forms opinions. At any rate, she was wrong for undermining me and "rescuing" my daughter and she won't admit it. She never, ever admits when she is wrong.

Sorry this turned into a rant. I tried to keep it short.:

[QueenOfThePride]

I'm 36 weeks today. I think the baby is still vertex. Overall, I feel pretty good, no swelling, not too much body aches, just a little fatigued. I don't think labor is impending, since I feel so normal. Every time I come on here and see another baby born, I'm totally happy and excited, but also a little frustrated that my labor seems so far away.

It's weird that my belly just doesn't seem very big to me. I felt just enormous with my first. I even compared my belly pic with ds1 at 40 weeks with me now, and I seem a lot smaller. I hope this baby grows a lot in the next 4 weeks. My fundal height measurements are right on schedule, but they were for the first one too, and he was 9lb1oz.

[Lady Lilya]

I also feel like my birth is still very far away. I have been saying "about a month" for what feels like 2 months now. I am 37 weeks today. Just based on physical signs, I don't feel close. My feeling is that he will be born after 41 weeks.

[mamamoo]

I am still here, still pregnant, and still hoping she will cook for a while longer(at least 4 weeks baby!!).

[mom22girls]

Originally Posted by walden's momma

It's a really bad thing that my mom has created with her. ... At any rate, she was wrong for undermining me and "rescuing" my daughter and she won't admit it. She never, ever admits when she is wrong.

This is what my mom did with dd1 (plus a lot more) after dd2 was born, I think my mom set us up for a lot of sibling rivalry, by the way she talked with dd1, "baby can't have any ice cream..it's only for big girls like you" things like that ALL the time, when there wasn't any sign bad feeling on dd1's par. Also she says, "Mama says that's not allowed," instead of just saying, "that's not allowed," so I always look like the bad guy. I could go on and on.. I'm really torn about having her come over for the birth, because I'd like the help, dds would really like to see their Nana, but our styles are pretty different (my mom is a total slob, I'm a bit of a neat freak, mom is no-consequences, I like some accountability). So I'm weighing the stress/benefit factors....

[Alohamelly]

Originally Posted by Lady Lilya

I also feel like my birth is still very far away. I have been saying "about a month" for what feels like 2 months now. I am 37 weeks today. Just based on physical signs, I don't feel close. My feeling is that he will be born after 41 weeks.

Same here. I don't feel like I'm going to give birth anytime soon despite everyone around me telling me this baby is going to come early. I'm really really hoping he'll come at 39 weeks (like my DD did) cause my husband will be coming home right then and then DH will have almost a whole month with us before he has to go back to Korea. That would be the perfect timing! I wish there was a way to make your body ready!

[edenluna]

hello everyone! i am getting so excited with all the recent births in our DDC!

i am 38 weeks and 3 days.... everyone keeps saying i am going early, but my response is "well, then she better get here soon!" my body has been changing and things are different with the way i am feeling both physically and mentally, so maybe they are right??

i am getting back aches for the first time and this shooting pain from my hip on the left side when i am walking. my constipation of the last few weeks is gone, i am having a hard time sleeping for more than a few hours at a time, more BHs and more intense.... i went to the midwife yesterday and the head is really low....

my mother also arrived from the states on Monday, and she is here until the end of August to help out. it will take a little adjusting for my DH, although they get along rather well, it will be hard to have someone here for so long. i am just afraid that if the baby doesn't come soon she will be bored just hanging around the house with me!

[Twinklefae]

Originally Posted by Alohamelly

Same here. I don't feel like I'm going to give birth anytime soon despite everyone around me telling me this baby is going to come early.

that: Same here! My coworker has decided that it's the funniest thing in the world to tell me that I'll be having the baby tonight. It's geting old fast! I'm only 36 weeks at this point, and not ready! Plus I found out at my last doctor's appt that my doctor is on vacation from August 2 to 20. Grr. I'm going in for my GBS swab later this morning so wish me luck. (Think negative?)

Anyway, I'm starting to notice more aches and pains and my feet and hands are both very swollen. The only thing that seems to help is swimming. I can't wait til I'm done work, and complaining that I'm bored. I just don't have the interest in my work that I used to. Luckily it's only a couple more weeks.

[plummum]

36 weeks on Friday, but for most co-workers and family I have led them to think the baby is coming at the end of August (giving myself a two-week extension), so no comments yet.

I have found that while I am not tired of being pregnant, I am tired of preparing for the baby. We are having the house painted, starting in arghhhh! 3 hours!! (Still have to empty out some things from the dining room!)

I skipped bradley class last night - just felt like I have read and seen plenty about breastfeeding already, and won't need more info till I have a baby to latch with, and will have a doula and a midwife to talk to, and have put the local La Lache League meetings into my calendar.

Really I'd just like to stop going to classes and researching things, and enjoy my last 5-7 non-parent weeks. Fortunately only two more Bradley classes to go and I think I will just get any old sling, and not worry about a pump till I decide it's time to start pumping.

And am I really the only one hoping to go to 42 weeks to extend that "I'm still not a parent" time?

[momuveight2B]

I'll be 35 weeks Friday. Still seems like a long way to go but baby is headdown and has been for the past week or more.

Dh and I went to the all day Saturday childbirth class at the hospital and had a great time. Of course most of it was the party line to kind of get everyone in compliance with hospital policy and a great big all day advertisement for getting an epidural.

I am still trying to make sense of my last doctor appointment. We have been seeing a peri because I have some thinning of my uterus from previous surgeries. We were trying to talk to him about the birth. He is all for picking a date to do an induction or a scheduled c-section. Our concern with induction is that there is a risk of rupture and I would like to wait and give baby a chance to come on his own. Peri tells me that a scheduled c-section is no big deal, twenty minute procedure and will be up and doing great by evening. Well I can tell he's never had one because that is not what I hear from moms or nurses. Then he says he's willing to support a natural vaginal birth as long as we aren't overdue or developing problems. Then tells me if we don't want any interventions then wait and show up at the hospital when the baby is crowning.

So I don't know what to think or do.

[PiePie]

momuveight, it sounds like you don't want a scheduled c-section and that the recovery time he is estimating is not realistic.

[PiePie]

Originally Posted by walden's momma

I had to help with the invitations b/c she was dragging her feet about them, so they go out 2 weeks late.

been there, done that, and the shower(s) were lovely anyway.

[PiePie]

walden's momma, i think you were very patient with you mother. i don't know how you do it. my parents are lighting into me over co-sleeping...i had a fantasy in the shower this morning. i haven't discussed this with dh, but my current position is that my mom (or dad, but really it's my mom we're talking about here) gets one warning to stop criticizing my parenting practices, and if she does it again she is out -- no more visit until the next one. i swear i am so tired and irritable right now that if i have to endure one more criticism i will just lose it!

[momuveight2B]

Originally Posted by PiePie

momuveight, it sounds like you don't want a scheduled c-section and that the recovery time he is estimating is not realistic.

Absolutely not so if I go into labor naturally I will be staying at home as long as possible. We do have a seventy mile drive to the hospital though so have to be careful not to wait too long.
Once we get in the hospital the slippery slope of interventions really mess things up. Last time I didn't have a choice because I went overdue and developed high blood pressure so finally agreed to an induction.