hope it's ok that I join in! My backstory....I have 5 kids, 4 of them born within 5 yrs of each other long ago (they are teens). Never had any issues. I also have a 15 month old and just yesterday, when I went to the bathroom and wiped, I felt something at the opening. It was spongy and I thought, "wait, even though I just finished my period, I don't *think* i used a sea sponge this time" (thinking I left something inside). Nope, just me, spongy tissue. It is right at the opening and i can push it back up. It doesn't go out past my outer labia at all. I don't have any discomfort sitting or anything and I think it was when I pushed for a BM.
DH and I dtd earlier in the week and neither of us noticed anything. Last night, to see if we noticed a difference, we dtd and both of us noticed. DH said it felt like a finger or something was there pressing against him. And to me, it felt slightly uncomfortable, like he was rubbing something raw. It is not at the top, but the bottom, so I don't know if it is uterine or rectocele (sp?).
Looking back, I realized it must have been coming for a while. PP, this is the only baby where I have some incontinence with twisting a certain way, laughing, etc. With my other kids, I had (and it never resolved) the sneezing/coughing incontinence only if I didn't tense before. This time, I can't feel it coming and even if I tense up, there have been times when I have all out wet myself instead of just a squirt. And I did that thru the pregnancy and PP with him. I have also had trouble with BMs sometimes. Like it never feels like I "finish" even though I am not constipated. I just chalked it up to the fact that it's hard to take a poo with a baby/toddler on your lap nursing/playing in the trash/screaming issues, lol.
His birth- he was small, 6lb 7oz and even though I got to 10, I didn't have the urge to push really too much. And when I pushed, it felt very ineffective. It was, unfortunately, a hospital birth (had to change plans at 36wks and he was born at 38) and though I was upright, there was a lot of yelling to push. I had had a huge bleed when I went into labor and so there were some concerns and it felt like my body gave up. Even though I was eating and drinking (in between pushing, even!), my uterus was exhausted. The doc practically went up there and pulled him out bc I was at the point at one time where I was pretending to push bc I just couldn't.
Not sure if that all played a part bc I did notice more incontinence and trouble with BMs even during the pregnancy, but never felt any prolapse until the yesterday. I had just chalked everything up to being older (I'm 40) and being my 5th baby.
I am working on getting the DVD rec'd on here for exercises (and ftr, I have never been able to do an effective kegel in my life. my body just doesn't seem to get it) and reading thewholewoman website.
I hope the exercises (and losing weight!) works bc I am not sure about a pessiary. I am really sensitive there (only can use sea sponges or all cotton re-usable tampons) so that worries me. Also, if it stays as such and gets better with exercise, I won't go to a doc.
Thanks for listening if you got this far, it helped to kind of talk it through! :)