Originally Posted by cee3
I wouldn't consider you judgemental for saying something, but I would think you were incredibly intrusive and I would tell you to MYOB. If it says that there's a lot of sugar, right there on the container, then why do you assume the mother can't read? Why do you assume she would make the same choices as you would?
The difference is that the parent is going to the doctor and paying him for advice. The parent is not asking you, another mother, what your opinion is. If another mom did ask your opinion, I think it would be perfectly reasonable for you to express it.
oh, ok. just to get things straight, by your accounts then:
A doctor, being paid for his/her services saying that artificial colors in foods are harmful=helpful advice.
A fellow mother, unpaid and unsolicited, saying that artificial colors in foods are harmful = judgemental.
then i think i'm going to go to medical school. then NOBODY can call me out on being judgemental, i'll have those magical letters after my name that gives me a free pass to dispense advice all day with impunity AND BONUS...i'll get paid for it. i'll be an M.D., after all, not "just a mom" that needs to mind my own business.
and to clarify about the conversation, it went something like...
friend: "oh, my dd is such a good eater, she eats TWO of these each day. isn't that great?"
me: "yes, it's wonderful that she likes that so much. they do have a lot of sugar in them though."
i'm open to criticism so if anyone has any ideas of how better to say it, by all means please share.
and between friends, if you know something that might be harmful to a child, to me it is wrong to keep that information from others. does it matter if someone knowingly makes certain choices vs. perpetuating a habit or out of complete ignorance? go on over to the vaccination forum or the case against circumcision and you can read story after story of mothers expressing regret over vaxing or circing, and "if only someone had told me."
: even on this thread alone, posters have mentioned that they didn't know until now how the ingestion of artificial colors can have some serious effects, or that carseats expire after a certain amount of time.