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post #1 of 14
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My husband can be so frustrating! I was presented with a good opportunity this morning. We owe my mom $400 from earlier this year when she helped us out with a tight spot. I'm in a position right now to pay her back. No problem there, right? But here's the thing. I found out that due to a printing error in their ad, Lowe's has KitchenAid mixers for $150 (you can't see that part of their ad online, but they are honoring that price). I talked to my mom, and she said that if I wanted one, I could deduct the price from what we owe her, and that would be my Christmas present. Now, I've wanted one of these mixers for years, but DH thinks it'd be a waste. I do kind of see his point, because I don't do a whole lot of baking really.

But.

I also want a new vacuum cleaner. My current one, I've had for four years, and it just isn't doing the job anymore with two cats. I want one of those new Eureka Captures, which is comparable to a Dyson from my understanding, but with a much smaller price tag. So I thought, hmmm, the vacuum cleaner is a little cheaper than the mixer, so surely DH wouldn't mind me getting that instead! But nooo....I don't think he's thinking about what I'm saying properly. I think in his mind, he's thinking that I'm going to pay my mom the full amount we owe her AND buy the vacuum. But that's not the case. I think this makes the most sense for us financially. What can I say to convince him that this is a good deal?
post #2 of 14
Personally (and this is just my opinion), I would pay off the entire $400 debt to your mom first. The mixer and the vaccum cleaner both sound like "wants" to me. The first thing I would do is pay off the debt. The vaccum cleaner would be next-save some money for that or ask for it as a Christmas gift. The mixer would come last, if at all, especially since you said you don't cook much. I have a KitchenAid mixer and while I love it, I don't use it a ton. My KitchenAid hand mixer gets a lot more use. Then again, I am just cooking for two most of the time!
post #3 of 14
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Originally Posted by Nicole! View Post
Personally (and this is just my opinion), I would pay off the entire $400 debt to your mom first. The mixer and the vaccum cleaner both sound like "wants" to me. The first thing I would do is pay off the debt. The vaccum cleaner would be next-save some money for that or ask for it as a Christmas gift. The mixer would come last, if at all, especially since you said you don't cook much. I have a KitchenAid mixer and while I love it, I don't use it a ton. My KitchenAid hand mixer gets a lot more use. Then again, I am just cooking for two most of the time!
The vacuum WOULD be a Christmas gift. Maybe I didn't word my post very well. We owe my mom $400. She's saying that instead of paying her that whole amount, I can send her $250, and use the other $150 for the cleaner, and that will be my Christmas present, rather than paying her the $400 and then just having her go out and spend an amount equivalent to the vacuum on me for Christmas. Which I like the idea of, because I do NEED a new vacuum cleaner - my current one doesn't get up all of the cat hair, and with a baby crawling around and a DH with allergies (and he's the one that wants to keep the cats : ), having a good vacuum cleaner is essential. I'd rather have my Christmas present now, and have it be something I can actually use, rather than get a bunch of little things that I have no use for and that are just going to clutter up my house. That's why I thought of getting the vacuum instead of the mixer - while that's an awesome deal for the mixer, and I know I'd do a lot more baking and such if I had it, the vacuum is much more practical.
post #4 of 14
I understand what you're saying, but I also agree with Nicole. The mixer definitely seems like a "want" and not a need, and honestly - all the vacuums I have used that were supposed to be comparable to the Dyson are most definitely not, so I would research it more and if possible, invest in the Dyson. And I personally would feel better paying the full amount back to mom, even if it meant she went out the next day and bought me the vacuum. I don't really know why, I would just hate the feeling that I only paid her back partially, even if it was a gift. I guess I would want to show her that even though I was in a tight spot before, I have worked to resolve it. I hope that's not upsetting to anyone because I'm not meaning it to be. It's hard to explain my stance on it really.

If she hadn't offered this - how would you have purchased the vacuum?
post #5 of 14
If you don't get the mixer now, are you still going to get it (even if it is a "want")? If so, saving the $ on the mixer might be nice. How badly do you need the vacuum? Have you tried out that new one, or better yet do you know someone who has one? Just wondering because I have noticed vacuums don't always live up to their hype. Finally, is there a possibility that the vacuum might go on sale before Xmas? If so, you could pay your Mom the $ and let her know if/when it goes on sale.
post #6 of 14
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Originally Posted by Stace View Post
The vacuum WOULD be a Christmas gift. Maybe I didn't word my post very well. We owe my mom $400. She's saying that instead of paying her that whole amount, I can send her $250, and use the other $150 for the cleaner, and that will be my Christmas present, rather than paying her the $400 and then just having her go out and spend an amount equivalent to the vacuum on me for Christmas. Which I like the idea of, because I do NEED a new vacuum cleaner - my current one doesn't get up all of the cat hair, and with a baby crawling around and a DH with allergies (and he's the one that wants to keep the cats : ), having a good vacuum cleaner is essential. I'd rather have my Christmas present now, and have it be something I can actually use, rather than get a bunch of little things that I have no use for and that are just going to clutter up my house. That's why I thought of getting the vacuum instead of the mixer - while that's an awesome deal for the mixer, and I know I'd do a lot more baking and such if I had it, the vacuum is much more practical.
Get the mixer and be happy. Seriously.
It is NOT your responsibility to use your Christmas gift from your Mom to buy a household item (the vaccuum cleaner). This is a special gift from your Mom, and while its not as practical, and believe me I am the queen of practical gifts, Dh does NOT get to dictate what your Christmas gift from your Mom should be.

Would you ever, in a million years buy him the vaccuum as a gift? Or, ask him to give up something he realy wants for a vaccuum? If so, then maybe he has a small point. If not, the buy the mixer and be happy everytime you see it in your kitchen!
post #7 of 14
Another vote for the mixer here. It's a gift, and seriously, what woman wants a vacuum for christmas? I know relationships that have ended over this. (well, close, anyway!)

That's a hell of a price for the mixer, and you'll use it. My DH thought I was crazy to ask for a $350 cuisinart food processor for our wedding. But I got it, I love it, and I use it several times a week. The picture of me holding and hugging the cuisinart is almost as happy as I look in the wedding pics holding and hugging my new husband a few weeks later!

But then again, I'm a succor for kitchen things. You don't even know how much we spend on food because I have to have the very best!
post #8 of 14
I'd get the mixer because the deal on that is just temporary. It seems like your decision is more about: mixer or vacuum? than trying to convince your husband (I sure hope he doesn't make you ask permission to buy things!).
post #9 of 14
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Well......I went with the vacuum. I had a really long conversation with my mom about it last night, and at this point in time, it's just the better decision for me. While I would LOVE the mixer (especially since I found out that Bed, Bath, & Beyond is honoring the Lowe's price, AND you can use one of their 20% off coupons, AND there's a $30 mail in rebate), the kitchen in the house we'll be renting next is kind of small, and I'm not even sure where I'm going to store everything I already have. Guess I'll just have to keep my eye on eBay and Craig's List in the future! Yes, the vacuum is thoroughly practical, but I've already used it and wow, it really is doing a better job than my old one! And Mom is thrilled that she doesn't have to try and think of something to get me for Christmas.
post #10 of 14
I was going to say get the vacuum. It is a necessity with the allergies & baby. What did your dh say?
post #11 of 14
Congrats on the vacuum!:
post #12 of 14
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I was going to say get the vacuum. It is a necessity with the allergies & baby. What did your dh say?
I think he's impressed....I vacuumed a small section of the living room and the stairs just to try it out, and he was amazed at all of the dirt and hair that it picked up!
post #13 of 14
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Originally Posted by *Isra* View Post
Congrats on the vacuum!:
Thank you! I'm loving it so far!
post #14 of 14
sounds like a big saving on the mixer. hmmm. hard decisions
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