my 4 year old is driving me nuts!!!!!1

[starbound25]

Ok so I've been homeschooling "preschool" my 4 yr old but I am so ready to send her to a five day a week school because she is making nuts!!
She is just horrible for me lately. She fights like mad all day long with her 3 yr old sister who is an angel for the most part and even better when her sister is not around (taking a nap or something)
We do everyday schooling stuff, and then once a week we do a big craft I'll create and once a week at least we make a recipe together but as soon as its done she wants something else and something else and its NEVER enough so she gets mad and throws things and ends up in time out and it makes me not want to do anything with her!
She is wonderful when dad is the one watching her or when she gets to play with her stepsister all day (she is 13) thats when I"m not here, when I'm here she is awful. she turns on a dime! an angel playing so creative and wonderful one minute and a crazed screaming animal the next if something doesnt go right.

PLEASE HELP ME!!! What can I do, I dont WANT to send her away but I"m at my wits end with a 3 month old here and lack of sleep I cant take it anymore!!!

[Dakota's Mom]

Don't really have any advice. Just wanted to

Mine is five now but he's been acting like that for a while. Drives me up a wall. And if I complain about it DH just says, "Well, you chose this." That's because DS was in preschool and I took him out to homeschool. I know it's the right thing to do but it drives me nuts. Having a new baby in the house I'm sure is making it worse for you as well. Just remember, this too shall pass.

Kathi

[RedWine]

It could "just" (ha ha) be the age. If what you're doing is working academically (and it sounds like it is, since she always wants more), then perhaps she will mellow as she gets a little older.

[hsmamato2]

could be a number of things...
1- she's angry/jealous of younger sibs,and wants more Mom time..... which might mean more one on one time with her each day:
2- she's bored- and that's easier to handle
if she likes crafts, you could have 'craft corner' set up, a table,with drawers or something full of playdoh- craft supplies,etc,(with the obvious rules of cleaning up when she's done) so she could entertain herself and have access to this even when you're busy with the younger kids.....
my kids always like to have 'stuff' they can just pull out to keep busy-
I always like excellent videos/shows for bored kids when I just can't keep up....my ds has learned more than I ever will about animals from watching shows like Zoboomafoo,and Bindi the Jungle girl-almost anything Animal Planet......
Reading rainbow, Shari Lewis and Lambchop...all excellent diversions when Mom is busy.....
Oh...and for me, a big pile of dirt or sand in the backyard,and shovels and kitchen stuff to play with have always = hours of quiet playing....

[2 in August]

Yep, my dd is almost 6 and drives me batty too. Dh asks if I'm sure I don't want to send her to school. But I know school isn't right for her.

[Sneezykids]

My ds is almost six and wears me out every. single. day. He also acts better alone (w/o sister) or with Dad. He has really made me question my ability to do this (hs) but I know ds would be labled ADHD (he is) if he went to school, so I don't know which is worse (somedays!) somedays I do wish someone else could take over for a bit

One thing I'm doing is trying to be more structured.

Your dd could be acting out a bit due to the new baby. Try to get some 1:1 time with just her, movie, ice cream, etc.

It's so hard sometimes, just wanted to say you're not alone.