I just left my OB's office and feel so frustrated. I turned down a VE at my last three visits (36w, 37w, 38w) with no problems, but caught a lot of flack from my favorite nurse this time. When I asked why have a VE since I explained I really didn't want to know how dialated (or not) I was, her response was "Because he/OB always does after 38w." What kind of BS is that? "Because I said so?" Are we in kindergarten?
When I asked the OB about what it would tell him -- trying to be open to the idea that there may be some additional reason that I wasn't aware of -- I was given some nonsense about it making a difference with when I should come to the hospital and to verify that she is head down.
This is my second pg. I have been having contractions off and on for weeks. Does it matter whether I am dialated and effaced? Nope. I will come to the hospital when I feel like it. I wanted to add -- "if at all!." (Sorry, that is petty of me. I know. But I have already told him at least a half dozen times that I plan on laboring at home until the last possible second - just like last time.)
As far as anatomy, for weeks I have been telling OB baby is head down, anterior, with her back to my left side, and with her hand up by her face. Each time the OB has agreed, yup baby is head down. (He doesn't seem to care whether she is OP, even though having been through back labor with DS, I care.)
All of a sudden it is "necessary" to do an immediate ultrasound to make sure she isn't breech.
What!?! I have no extra fat on my tummy. You can feel and see where all of baby's limbs are. Even down to the hand that I TOLD him was jammed up by her face.
I consented to the darn ultrasound. It was good to confirm that she has sufficient fluid still and placenta is high. But I still walked out of the office and just cried. Why am I a "bad patient" for asking questions? Why give me so much grief for something so meaningless?