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post #21 of 93
Oh no. I haven't read any of the other replies, but I would be LIVID if someone did that. This is why I've been so obnoxiously vocal with family since the beginning about what my values are and what kinds of things I do and don't want in MY house.

I would say "no, thank you, our house is really too small for that. here are some alternative things he would love to have"

If it is really truly too late to cancel or return the order (although you should be able to return it once it comes) maybe you have a friend who would want it?
post #22 of 93
How about you keep it, appreciate the gesture, let your son play with it cause you KNOW he's going to have a blast with it, and watch him when he rides it?
post #23 of 93
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Originally Posted by Vypros View Post
How about you keep it, appreciate the gesture, let your son play with it cause you KNOW he's going to have a blast with it, and watch him when he rides it?
how about she not.
Kids move FAST, going down hill the move faster, into traffic no way I was keeping it at my house.
Plus if she has very little space, and the back is unsafe, it should go to grandma's house, he can have a blast there in a safer atmosphere.

My MIL who knows how I feel about hummers would have never made that gesture, I guess there's something about being the crazy b***h DIL, cause mine knows I'd sell/gift/donate it, and has gotten in line with my picks
post #24 of 93
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Originally Posted by jjawm View Post
I love the idea of having it at grandma's house, especially if you explain the danger of your street.

Good luck
Yes, do this. I would thank them, but then say that you don't have a place to store it and that there's no safe place for him to drive it...but that you thought it would be a fun toy to use at Grandma's. I say this as a person who absolutely abhors driving toys for kids, but since you have some drama potential with your ILs, just phrase it along those lines...
post #25 of 93
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Originally Posted by Hoopin' Mama View Post
I would like to add, I'm not fuming mad or anything. I'm almost laughing about it because the toy seems so crazy to me. I also giggle everytime I picture myself tackling the hummer when ds tries to drive it into the street.
Well that's good ... I'm mad for you though

And now that I see it's secondhand and can't be returned I guess the grandma house option is the best. I would have my dh (if it was me) tell her that if she can't take it it will be given away and to please check with us in the future.
post #26 of 93
I would just tell her as nicely as possible that it is not the kind of toy you want your son to have. I can't believe she would buy something like this without asking you. This would p*ss me off - I struggle, it seems like daily, with my mom buying ds crap. It really is disrespectful when I ask her over and over and over to not buy ds anything - but if she must it cannot be plastic, battery operated, etc....

I wouldn't keep it at home or at Grandmas.
post #27 of 93
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Originally Posted by Kajira View Post
how about she not.
Kids move FAST, going down hill the move faster, into traffic no way I was keeping it at my house.
Plus if she has very little space, and the back is unsafe, it should go to grandma's house, he can have a blast there in a safer atmosphere.

My MIL who knows how I feel about hummers would have never made that gesture, I guess there's something about being the crazy b***h DIL, cause mine knows I'd sell/gift/donate it, and has gotten in line with my picks
Have you ever seen one of these things move? They don't go that fast at all, even downhill. The wheels only turn due to the mechanics of the motor propelling it. When it is sitting still, it's near impossible to move cause the wheels aren't "loose".

And I don't get the hate for hummers here, which is why I think this is a big deal. I know they aren't environmentally friendly or whatever, but it's not like a toy for a two year old:

1. Is going to affect the upbringing you give them
2. Suddenly make it so that the child can afford a hummer when he/she grows up.
post #28 of 93
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post #29 of 93
I love your idea, but I also think you could paint it with all kinds of save the planet slogans and take it to Earth Day rallies... although maybe it would disturb your son if you graffitied "PLANET KILLER" on the back of it
post #30 of 93
wow- what a fun thing for the kids! My ds has a big thing like that and we moved to a condo type area and now we leave it at his great grandmother's so he can ride it on her big yard when we go over to visit.
post #31 of 93
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Originally Posted by Vypros View Post
How about you keep it, appreciate the gesture, let your son play with it cause you KNOW he's going to have a blast with it, and watch him when he rides it?

That would be nice, but not so easy knowing my son. If he likes it, which I think he will, he will want to ride it all the time. Not just when we are able to bring it out on the cul-de-sac under supervision. I see this resulting in some tantrum issues. My husband and I work around each other's schedule, so there is only one adult home at a time. Other things need to be done, like walking the dog, making dinner, doing laundry, etc. I know my child, and I know that he will want to play with it ALL the time. Well, at least for a week or two.
The way my house is structured, he can play with his trike, wagon, or sandbox on the patio while I am in the kitchen or outside doing laundry.
post #32 of 93
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Originally Posted by Vypros View Post
And I don't get the hate for hummers here, which is why I think this is a big deal. I know they aren't environmentally friendly or whatever, but it's not like a toy for a two year old:

1. Is going to affect the upbringing you give them
2. Suddenly make it so that the child can afford a hummer when he/she grows up.
To me, a Hummer, and by extension a child's replica of a Hummer, represents the excess and arrogance of American culture. That's not something I want my child playing with on a daily basis. I feel like if I let that into my home it's telling my child that this thing is something that I like and value ...

So yes, that is affecting the upbringing I give my child.

And about affording a Hummer, no, they may not be able to, but that's not the point. I don't want my child to WANT a Hummer, regardless of whether they can actually have one or not.
post #33 of 93
You're taking this much better than I would. IMO, if Grandma thinks this is a such a terrific toy for your DS, then she should be willing to keep it in her house for him to play with.
post #34 of 93
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Originally Posted by Vypros View Post
Have you ever seen one of these things move? They don't go that fast at all, even downhill. The wheels only turn due to the mechanics of the motor propelling it. When it is sitting still, it's near impossible to move cause the wheels aren't "loose".

And I don't get the hate for hummers here, which is why I think this is a big deal. I know they aren't environmentally friendly or whatever, but it's not like a toy for a two year old:

1. Is going to affect the upbringing you give them
2. Suddenly make it so that the child can afford a hummer when he/she grows up.
I believe Hummers to be environmentally irresponsible and unnecessary. I aspire to raise my child in an environmentally responsible environment. If he develops a love for Hummers on his own, so be it. I am not inclined to encourage him to think they are cool. I don't know why this seems so out there? Plenty of parents don't want to buy guns or Bratz dolls for their kids.

Anyway, space and safety is the real issue. The fact that it's a Hummer is secondary. And no, I haven't seen these things move.

Thanks for some of the good suggestions from most of you! Keeping it at Grandmas is first choice, where he can enjoy on safe quiet road and in a long driveway, keeping it here without batteries is second.

I am unsure why some folks responded like I'm the wicked witch of the west for not wanting this in my home. I have no intention of turning this into a family issue or being unkind to my IL's. I just thought this would be a safe place for me to vent. Also, I thought some of you might laugh. I mean, seriously, isn't this toy a little outrageous? I think so, at least. And I am not a super crunchy person by any means.

For ds' first birthday, MIL gave him (among other things) a time-out bench and the paddle that she used to spank dh with. I didn't react rudely to that, I'm certainly not going to be rude to them over this.

They got him a license plate for it that says 2Fast4U
post #35 of 93
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Originally Posted by Neldavi View Post
To me, a Hummer, and by extension a child's replica of a Hummer, represents the excess and arrogance of American culture. That's not something I want my child playing with on a daily basis. I feel like if I let that into my home it's telling my child that this thing is something that I like and value ...

So yes, that is affecting the upbringing I give my child.

And about affording a Hummer, no, they may not be able to, but that's not the point. I don't want my child to WANT a Hummer, regardless of whether they can actually have one or not.
Well said. Thanks for getting where I am coming from.
post #36 of 93
I think having it live at Grandma's house is the best solution.
Otherwise get rid of it.
post #37 of 93
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Originally Posted by Vypros View Post
Have you ever seen one of these things move? They don't go that fast at all, even downhill. The wheels only turn due to the mechanics of the motor propelling it. When it is sitting still, it's near impossible to move cause the wheels aren't "loose".
I noticed that this particular Hummer has a 12 volt battery. (Most driving toys for kids have a 6 volt.) And it has two speeds 2.5 mph and 5 mph. 5 mph is pretty darn fast for a 2 year old. Ds has a 12 volt Kawasaki dirtbike riding toy. I can't even take him out on it. It FLIES going downhill, and we live in a very hilly neighborhood. It's also very heavy. I've almost been knocked over and run over when I tried to stop it. Needless to say, dh is the only one who takes him out on it now.

OP: I'm with you on keeping it at grandma's house. I think that seems like the best solution.
post #38 of 93
Totally unsafe for a 2 year old. My sister in law has one for her kids and I will not allow my 4 year old to drive it because its really hard to control and um.. she's 4. No way would I allow a 2 year old to drive it. Let them concentrate on learning how to walk without tripping, falling into the wall, falling on their face.. ...

If I was gifted that, I'd put it outside and turn it into a planter. You haven't wasted the gift, you've simply given it a new use!! :
post #39 of 93
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Originally Posted by Vypros View Post
Have you ever seen one of these things move? They don't go that fast at all, even downhill. The wheels only turn due to the mechanics of the motor propelling it. When it is sitting still, it's near impossible to move cause the wheels aren't "loose".

And I don't get the hate for hummers here, which is why I think this is a big deal. I know they aren't environmentally friendly or whatever, but it's not like a toy for a two year old:

1. Is going to affect the upbringing you give them
2. Suddenly make it so that the child can afford a hummer when he/she grows up.
well actually I have, one of the kids in the block across from my dad has one, and they drive it around on sundays so I've seen it in action for a while now, these things do not move slow, they are pretty swift from what I've seen, I wouldn't allow my 2 year old in it.


You know my other issue is no the child may not grow up and be able to afford a hummer, well right out of school BUT it's teaching them to associate bigger is better/more fun.
It's indoctrinating that this old hulking beast is just fine and normal, and it ain't!!
My family, my morals and my rules, go find the kiddy vw bug.
post #40 of 93
You mention a patio...how big is the backyard? Or is it just the patio? Those things will drive on grass, so maybe just driving it around the yard would be possible?

If not, it needs to go live at Grandma's. Maybe minus the Hummer decals. I mean really, if she's got the storage space and a safer place to drive it, it just makes sense. There was no reason to bring it to your house in the first place.

Oh, and we have a Power Wheels Jeep...you CAN "lock out" the high gear, and I definitely would, no matter where you keep the thing. (on ours, there's a screw that goes through the gear shift that you have to take out to access "high") 5mph doesn't sound very fast, until they take off on you, headed for the street.
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