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post #81 of 93
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Originally Posted by Hoopin' Mama View Post
Well, it's here. In all it's bright yellow plastic glory.

So, no one wanted to listen to me, the just popped ds in it and let him go. He almost immediately took down 90 year old Nana, and then they took the keys away. Why this surprised them I dunno, because I told them over and over again it was not a good idea to just put him in and let him drive it.
Is it terrible that I started laughing so hard I have tears streaming down my face? Maybe now they'll get why it wasn't such a great idea.
post #82 of 93
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Is it terrible that I started laughing so hard I have tears streaming down my face? Maybe now they'll get why it wasn't such a great idea.

Yeah, since no one got hurt, it was pretty funny. Nana doesn't talk much because she is hard of hearing, but I imagine a string of cuss words going through her head.

Someone has video of it, the whole thing lasts maybe 90 seconds. The whole time he is yelling to the dog "Watch out". No one panned the camera to me, standing there looking horrified with my hand over my mouth.

I had already decided to get through that day, I was going to have some beers.
post #83 of 93
I'm glad no one got hurt
post #84 of 93
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Originally Posted by sofiabugmom View Post
You're taking this much better than I would. IMO, if Grandma thinks this is a such a terrific toy for your DS, then she should be willing to keep it in her house for him to play with.

: I would be fuming!

We already made it clear to my MIL (impulse buyer of awful stuff including, but not limited to ridiculously oversized toys!) that anything we don't deem appropriate stays at her house, or we will donate it. End of story. She has 3 huge bags of toys at her house and a monster-sized playtent

I'm not compromising my values to make her happy.
(But then maybe I have more issues with my MIL than you do )
post #85 of 93
I just read your update!

Sometimes I think certain family members get joy out of "crazy toddler antics". My heart would have been in my throat!!

Glad everyone is safe!
post #86 of 93
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Is it terrible that I started laughing so hard I have tears streaming down my face? Maybe now they'll get why it wasn't such a great idea.
I know, that cracked me right up, too! Hoopin' Mama, I think you've handled the whole thing perfectly. Sometimes it is hard to stand up to parents that make silly choices about such things.

I can relate w/ you on several counts - not only does my mother think a toy is no good unless it makes a bunch of noise and flashing lights and crap : but she also LOVES Dobson. (BARF)

And guess what, I love my mom. Sometimes it is hard to have that line of "picking your battles" and whatnot.

You've handled it great, and kept a good sense of humor. Kudos to you!!

back atcha.
post #87 of 93
Guess I am a weird one here b/c I plan to buy each of my twins one of these (not the hummer though) for their 3rd birthday. I always wanted one as a kid, so dang right, they are going to have one for each of them.
post #88 of 93
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Guess I am a weird one here b/c I plan to buy each of my twins one of these (not the hummer though) for their 3rd birthday. I always wanted one as a kid, so dang right, they are going to have one for each of them.
Well that's fine, because it's a choice you are making. But it is pretty clear we are actively trying to move away from this kind of stuff. Imagine two large things you didn't like showing up in your small yard, when all your child really needs is a tricycle?

Two kids can easily fit in one car, if they decide to share. If you get two, that might be a fun game of bumper cars.
post #89 of 93
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Originally Posted by Hoopin' Mama View Post
Well that's fine, because it's a choice you are making.
I agree. DS2 has a similar toy 4-wheeler, but it was something that DP bought him, after checking with me. (actually, he got it for free... just had to buy the battery)

It's not the kind of toy you just buy for someone else's child w/o checking first, imo. I'd be PO'd, too.
post #90 of 93
Hoopin thanks for the update! Funny... and doesn't it feel a little bit good to be able to look at them and think "I told you so!" Even if you never actually say it, being right about your own child feels good. Lol!
post #91 of 93
Just had to give my support.

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Originally Posted by grahamsmom98 View Post
Well, I think that is plain rude, not to mention cowardly. They thought enough to want to spend some money on your child and you hand it off to the neighbors as a freebie? If I was your mil, I'd be hurt and angry at your total dishonesty and callousness toward a well-meaning gift.

If you don't want your child to have it (by the way, it is listed for children age 3 years and up, so your son is too young for it anyway), show some backbone and tell them honestly. Thank them for the thought and ask that they return it and get their money back as it just isn't something you want your child to have.
Tell them you appreciate the idea (they were just trying to do something nice, for gosh sake, not ruin your child) but that it just isn't the right time for such a toy. That you don't have the room for it at your place nor a safe area for it to be used and that your child is too young for such an active toy in any case.

And, if you son't like it for your child at your place, don't be a hypocrit and allow it at their place. Don't want your child to have the toy? Then don't allow him to have it anywhere.
First, I don't think you are being disshonest by keeping the peace. I would be hurt by her dissregaurd to your feelings and parenting style.

Second, I don't think they were 'trying to ruin your child' but sounds like they are blaitantly questioning your parenting stlye, and your rightfull discisions as a mother. I don't think 'doing something nice' is reason to drop all personal veiws on a subject that you obviously feel uncomfutable about. IF that were the case, many of us would be compromising our veiws.

Third, You are NOT a hypocrit by asking them to keep it at their place. It is not black and white. By asking them to keep it at their house you are doing a few things:
1) allowing DS to enjoy the toy, and still keeping within a safe invironement appropriate for his age.
2) Keeping the large toy out of your house.
3) allowing room to explain to DS that some toys are for ocasional use, and not everyday use. (this can be a special event at grandparents home, giving them special time with him, etc.)
4) Standing your ground with MIL that you will not bend just because she made a 'nice' effort, but at the same time not placing judgement or taking away her right as a grandmother.

Way to go, and hang in there, stand your ground, and you are right to be respectfull, after all, she is Ds's grandma, and as different as the veiws may be, there should be a bridge of love and commen ground.
post #92 of 93
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Originally Posted by Hoopin' Mama View Post
Yeah, since no one got hurt, it was pretty funny. Nana doesn't talk much because she is hard of hearing, but I imagine a string of cuss words going through her head.

Someone has video of it, the whole thing lasts maybe 90 seconds. The whole time he is yelling to the dog "Watch out". No one panned the camera to me, standing there looking horrified with my hand over my mouth.

I had already decided to get through that day, I was going to have some beers.
OMG, you can sell it on craigslist before Christmas and make a profit, then you can send the video to one of those awful TV shows and get $$s for it. Come to think of it, I'd pay $$s for the laugh of seeing 90 yr old run over by the Hummer. You could set up a website and charge people to view. C'mon - be creative, make some money out of this fiasco!!
post #93 of 93
Don't worry about it....he won't be able to reach the gas peddles. My 5 year old has a power wheels car and he drives it fine, but my 2.5 year old who is actually tall, can't reach the pedals correctly and can't put enough pressure on the gas pedals to even get the thing going....no worries....it won't be fun, he won't be able to do it!!!
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