DH is stressing

[crunchymommy26]

Which makes the tension level in the house very high.

I know that he wants everything to be "perfect" when she's born, but he needs to relax.

Any ideas on how I can help him?

(Don't say sex!)

[momuveight2B]

I don't know, mine is a royal PITA and I never feel that way about him. Last night I told him don't even bother showing up for the birth, take care of the kids and I'll do it myself. I know that was evil and his feelings were hurt. He is just so uptight and it adds to my anxiety. We are fighting a lot about stupid stuff like what type of massage oil will be used during labor.

[josybear]

mine is sooooo casual about everything. he's repeatedly gone to work without leaving me a contact number, he's not interested in rearranging our room so there's somewhere for the baby to sleep, etc. could we just throw the guys all together in a mixing bowl and come out with a happy medium?

[mama2walden&luna]

My dh has put off all of the remodeling jobs that need to be done before baby gets here, and now he's having to bust his hump to get them done. That's what he gets - ha ha!

[NightRose]

Originally Posted by crunchymommy26

Which makes the tension level in the house very high.

I know that he wants everything to be "perfect" when she's born, but he needs to relax.

Any ideas on how I can help him?

(Don't say sex!)

Maybe you could let him know that him being so tense is really getting to you, and explain that the most perfect environment to bring his little girl into is a low stress one where both parents are happy and relaxed? In our case, I know sometimes we tend to think so much about the physical environment that we are bringing our little one into that we tend to lose sight of the emotional environment and have to stand back and take a deep breath.
Best of luck to you mama!!

[Groggie]

Does he like backrubs etc.? You could just surprise him with a nice massage ... it's sort of along the same lines as sex but could also be relaxing!

[cornpicker]

Yes, my DH also gets into this mode where everything has to be done TODAY or else! Apparently, once the baby is born the shops will all close and the streets will be deserted and no one will be here to lend a hand! The world will stop spinning and we won't emerge from isolation for 3 - 6 months, if we're lucky!!!! For the love of god. I will try to calm him by doing something on the list, and also doing something nice together-- dinner out, reading, massage, etc.-- to help us remember that we like each other and everything will be ok.

Good luck!