I can do it.

[caricandothis]

My son's 9 month wbv is in a little over an hour and yet again, I'm nervous about it. My peds office is pro-circ (they even do them there in the office!! : ) and at all his visits I have to fight them to keep their hands off his penis.

I HATE confrontation and have big-time anxiety issues when I know that I'm going to be faced with confrontation. There is no question in my mind that I will say something to the NP before she goes for his diaper but the thought of doing it makes me sick to my stomach and light-headed.

They've given me the friggin lamest excuses as to why they need to check his penis. I just simply say "NO, you don't. Please leave it alone."

We're moving (hopefully soon!) and I'm going to be switching peds when we move to our new area but until then I have to stay where I'm at. I don't take my kids to the drs very often (pretty much only for wbv's to keep their insurance) so this isn't usually a big deal.

Please send me some strength, mamas. I'm going up to re-read the retraction sticky right now too.

[Super Pickle]

Good luck. You can do it!

[baybee]

Don't allow the diaper to come off.
There is no reason to take the diaper off in a 9 mo wbv. If you have that protection, you can relax. If they want to know why, explain that you have concerns about the general attitude in the office toward the male foreskin.

[stacey0402]

good luck momma : I had to stop our NP from retracting my son at his 2 week wbv. At our next visit I will be giving her a pamphlet about caring for an intact penis. I will let her know before the exam even starts that I do not want her to retract his foreskin for any reason. I know they want to look at it (they looked at my girls when they were babies) and I don't have a problem with that. Not sure what they're looking for, but whatever.

You can do this :

[lovethyspirit]

You can do it momma! He is your son and your responsibility. They can't just do whatever they want without your consent.

[mamasophy]

I'd say, "before I remove his diaper, please put your hands behind your back! I hate to sound condescending, but the attitude in this practice towards intact boys leads me to believe that you will harm my child, so as we say to the kids, look with your eyes not your hands!"

[stacey0402]

Originally Posted by mamasophy

I'd say, "before I remove his diaper, please put your hands behind your back! I hate to sound condescending, but the attitude in this practice towards intact boys leads me to believe that you will harm my child, so as we say to the kids, look with your eyes not your hands!"

I will have to remember to say that to our NP!

[mamasophy]

We have to remember that we are paying MDs for their services and have every right to set boundaries. And now, a joke: what's the difference between God and a doctor?
God doesn't think he's a doctor!!

Disclaimer: the above doesn't apply to all MDs of course, but is funny and too true in some cases!

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

How did the visit go OP?

What kind of insurance is it that you have to do WBV?? I have never heard of that before.

[caricandothis]

The visit went very well. DS kinda saved me although the words were right at the tip of my tongue anyway. He started freaking out when she undid his diaper (he hates diaper changes bc he doesn't like having to stay still, lol) and I said "don't worry baby, she's not gonna bother your penis!" and then I said to the NP "he's a little sensitive about his penis these days since the ER doc we saw last week messed around with his foreskin even after I told her not to."

She looked down there (with her eyes) real quick and put his diaper back on with this bewildered look on his face. And that was the end of that!!

YAY!

Oh, the kids are on Child Health Plus and they get a lil antsy if you miss routine check-ups.

Thanks for all the encouragement, mamas. I totally appreciate it!