Originally Posted by Hoopin' Mama
I don't think it is the job of the daycare provider to police the toys. And, some of the problem is what other kids are wearing. She certainly shouldn't have to address that issue.
The mother should look for a new daycare, perhaps a Waldorf inspired one. No offense to the op, I bet your daycare is lovely, I just mean it's her issue so she needs to take care of it.
The fact that she doesn't want her dd to play with girly stuff, but doesn't mind that her ds does, suggests to me that she is trying very hard to break down gender barriers. I can appreciate that, but it sounds like she might be taking things to extreme.
Thank you everyone.
I thought about this, and this morning, I told the Mom, that I would bring the Polly Pockets out only a few more times before school starts. (they are a summer only toy) and that is as far as I am willing to go with this.
I told her that I would NOT take the shoes off her feet, or the pretty headband away from her. BUT, I reminded her that when school starts in two weeks ALL the kids will be back, and the competition for those toys would mean that she wouldn't have them as often.
Her dd quickly pointed out the cinderella t-shirt the other three year old was wearing. Mom just shuddered. LOL
"I can't do anything about that"
What I DO do for them is, I NEVER give these kids anything processed or from a package. I feed them differently than I do the other kids. THAT makes me feel bad, because if A child brings in a birthday cupcake, these two can't have one. They don't know what they are missing, but they see how attractive these things are, and obviously, they want one too. If it's a holiday, I have Mom bring them muffins, so they have something to unwrap.
I decided that this is MY daycare. If she doesn't like my policies, she can keep looking. BUT, she wont find anyone else. I am one of the only in our area that uses gentle discipline, wears the babies, willing to feed them the way they choose. Willing to use cloth diapers.
There are no waldorf schools around here. If there were, they would be in Scottsdale where people can afford that type of center. What is available out here are a few large chain centers with a high teacher turnover rate. On the west side is a few montessori schools, but they are also extremely high priced. The average family can't pay for that. Especially with the cost of living out here.