Is anyone else still keeping the pregnancy private?

[Artichokie]

Is there anyone else who still hasn't made their pregnancy known? We have told our immediate family and a couple of close friends, but in generally we are still keeping it private. My DH and my friends are pushing me to start telling people, but I am just not ready. It is so private. I'm not showing at all unless you were to see me naked, so hiding it has been very easy.

Am I the only hold out left?

[bumblebeej]

Well, I didn't tell my church family yet. People keep asking though, cause I cant hide the belly.

[Nic 1103]

I told all family once i knew (everyone knew we were trying again after loosing last 2) then everybody else from 12 weeks but do you know what ... sometimes i wish i had kept it quiet for as long as possible some days ... just so people cant get involved and give you there endless opinions and watch everything you do and say and make out that it has anything to do with them when it really has not... so if you have managed to keep it between just you your DH and close people i think that is sooooo lovely and soooo special ... and i have even talked to DH about if we were to do it again i wont say anything to anyone for as long as possible ... 9 mths springs to mind lol .... good for you and there is nothing wrong with it i think its a really sweet thing !!

[MCKH]

We were open to telling at 12 weeks after hearing the heartbeat, but I have definitely not called every single person I know just to make sure they're up-to-date. I assume the good news travels fast enough for me not to make that kind of effort. There are still some people in my extended family that I have to wonder if they know or not.

I think you should do what you want, but gosh isn't it hard not to tell people by this point? I am very cautious about who I tell during the 1st trimester but it's fun to tell after that

[Artichokie]

Originally Posted by MCKH

I think you should do what you want, but gosh isn't it hard not to tell people by this point?

Nope. We told three friend-couples from church, and our immediate family. It is such a delicious secret. I will be sad when everyone knows. My friends keep asking when I'll let the cat out of the bag, but right now it is so wonderful... I can't explain it. Its like, the world just keeps on spinning and hurrying like crazy and everything is so busy all the time, but ME, I'm growing a baby. It cannot be hurried. Its this wonderful little thing my body is doing in secret, yet right out in the open.

[Spirulina&Sage]

yep.. still havn't told anyone..its seems like as the weeks go by it will be weirder to tell people that im now 4..5 months along :
and the longer that goes by the more im enjoying having it just be our special thing. ive told my kids, but they dont seem very interested at all. im starting to show though so sooner or later if people ask ill say yes

[crsta33]

I emailed the ppl we don't see regularly after my 19 week u/s. If you see me in person there is no doubt and I've been obviously showing since before 12 weeks, so it wasn't a secret we could keep from friends and neighbors.

With the last two, I told everyone immediately. I've been much more reserved this time...trying to assimilate things myself since this pg was a surprise.

Christa

[Spirulina&Sage]

Originally Posted by crsta33

I've been much more reserved this time...trying to assimilate things myself since this pg was a surprise.

Christa

thats so true for me as well. im still getting used to the idea, so having other peoples negative or whatever thoughts just doesn't even make me want to tell anyone.

[DucetteMama21842]

Well.. I told my mom immediately when I found out because

1.) I can't seem to hide ANYTHING from her no matter how hard I try.

2.) She'd be mad if I didn't tell her and my first trimester was a hard thing for me to handle. She likes to help and give me opportunities for rest.

3.) I needed her to cover for me for my prenatal appointments with my babysitter. My prenatals are a little over an hour away... so it's almost like a day trip to go.


Everyone else ended up waiting until we hit 15 weeks... And I haven't been super blabby about it I don't think... but DH has a hard time not saying it to each person who doesn't know. He's so excited for our first homebirth it's like he FINDS ways to bring it up to people.

[stellimamo]

I told my mom immediately and then we told dh's mom and dad a month later. A few good friends know but thats about it. I still haven't told one of the moms I do daycare for.. I'll probably do that soon...maybe.

[cravenab00]

the only people who know, are online, and just a couple choice friends. No family. My family has been awful about ALL of my pregnancies. Nothing but negative comments. Actually, they dont like anything I do, period. They tell me everytime they see me that i need to "get back to work and real life" (i'm a SAHM) They tell me my children's lives will be forever destroyed unless I put them in school. (we homeschool) basically every AP practice we choose, they slam. It's very frustrating. So we just decided to keep any and all negativity out. zI'm overweight, so you really cant tell i'm pregnant at all, and probably wont be able to for awhile. I'm hoping that once i start to show, it will be time to start wearing a jacket.
Sigh.

[Belleweather]

We told my mom and his parents and my sister, and we've told our close friends (well, and anyone who reads my blog). But I haven't gone out of my way to tell family at all, and am kind of dreading it. My mom let the cat out of the bag to her family (because they bought me a bottle of my favorite scotch and I didn't drink any and they felt bad...) and I'm happy not to have to do it. I haven't told my dad's family and will probably be forced into it this weekend. I'm NOT PLEASED and would really rather just send them a birth announcement when she is born, but my mother feels strongly that I should tell and knowing her will engineer a situation where it comes up and I can't get out of it.

[mama2rey]

Pretty much everyone knows now. The only people I have not told are some clients (I work as a psychotherapist). I've been advised to wait until later in my pregnancy as it can make clients check out if you tell them too early.

I am starting to show though-so I probably will start letting them know soon.

My extended family in South America does not know yet. I need to tell them soon, but I've been putting it off. They don't know about my same sex relationship, nor would they understand it-and I don't know what will be more scandolous-me having a baby without a husband, or me being a lesbian-so I am procrastinating!!

[minsca]

Originally Posted by expectantmami

My extended family in South America does not know yet. I need to tell them soon, but I've been putting it off. They don't know about my same sex relationship, nor would they understand it-and I don't know what will be more scandolous-me having a baby without a husband, or me being a lesbian-so I am procrastinating!!

Sorry expectantmami... I had to laugh at this one. I totally understand. I'm the black sheep of my family too. My dh is always after me as I procrastinate telling my family anything. But it's just because they don't approve of anything I do, and I hate the silent judgement I get. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.

Anyways I can't keep secrets... at least not good secrets. I found out I was pregnant at my inlaws at Easter. They knew something was up as I refused a glass of wine with my dinner. Plus there is no way I could hide it from about 12 weeks on. I just popped out early on!