Originally Posted by ryansma
For some woman it IS joyful despite being hard.
I do remember the 'joyful despite being hard' times. That was true for me - in the beginning, maybe the first eight years? I was fine through pregnancy, birth, nursing and all the difficulties then ease of that, potty training, traveling with kid(s), sick kids, dp who travels every month for work, and all the rest.
What has gotten me (and it breaks my heart really - because I am the biggest sibling proponent you'll ever find) is the increased chaos, noise, bickering of three kids. It is really hard to find the joy....
I have a sister and a brother that I love dearly. And I want that for my kids - as did my dp who grew up an only child. He wished then and today that he'd had that. Before we got married, he made sure I knew that our minimum number of kids was two - he didn't want to have an only after being one.
So this is the hard part. I chose it and we'll get through. But I wish my mom was still alive so I could apologize for what she must have gone through with us.
I had no idea that the baby and toddler stages were the easy part. They were joyful; I do remember that. I just had no idea when I had the three kid family that I dreamed of that it would be more than I could reasonably handle. You don't know your limit until you are past it I guess.
But this is summer; I'll be much better in September!!!