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[ColoradoMama]

Good for you for standing up for your son. I hope he has an infection free, fun time at camp.

[orangebird]

Originally Posted by Ruthla

Can you press charges on her for assault? I mean, is this something you can press criminal charges for, in addition to a malpractice suit?

jesus, no kidding. I hate how doctors are so ignorrant about the normal penis in this country. i am not normally in favor of lawsuits but this seems to be the only way to make sure medical personal (sp?) are trained about NORMAL anatomy. Argh! I would talk to her first, if she acted like a B, I would sue.

[forthebest]

It's unbelievable how many stories I've read on MDC about this obsession with genitals . Yes this is an assault, absolutely, I would charge her or at least attempt to. My 9 yr old son would not let anyone near his bits and I,like you op, have left my son to his own devices regards his genitals and he doesn't bath often and there is no problems. These ignorant people are making the problems and hurting children. I'd watch out for the mud in camp now that she has broken his skin, much easier for infection to get in. She has violated your ds and needs to be brought to task. Am so upset for your ds and you.

[foreskin friendly]

dear mama,
straight from the mouth of Marilyn Milos-NOCIRC...
"leave it alone!" the foreskin should protect what is underneath...some vaseline to sheild the open sore from urine wouldn't hurt, but beware that if you are retracting to expose the sore in order to apply vaseline, that might hurt! It could also encourage scarring, compromising future elasticity...open the sore up for infection... etc... I would discourage any sort of retraction for a day or so... If it was painful, but tolerable to your son.. he will more than likely be just fine in a day or two. LET THE POOR GUY GO TO CAMP!
Then you will have some time to fight these idiots!
I have a certain surgeon in mind that maybe we could stand side-by-side with Ms. Ignorant NP and clunk their heads together in hope that some common sense might prevail...
I obviously just went through this whole ordeal, except my 2yr old son's was barely retractable and he was in for hernia surgery (not foreskin surgery!) ...so after the Dr. had a go at it...it became a HUGE open wound.

I shook in anger. I cried violently... and for the first time EVER in my life I felt so violated and so betrayed and so aweful that I didn't protect my son that I shook my fists in a fit of rage at the sky to whatever or whomever might be listening as I cried.


Your son seems old enough to be educated on the purpose of the foreskin which should help him understand why he may need to protect himself from ignorant medical professionals (and why HE should be the only one to retract his foreskin).
Have the INTACT CARE AGREEMENT put in your child's file at the peds at the very least.
Does anyone have that link again?

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

I am glad to hear that the Dr. in charge is taking this very seriously and isnt blowing it off. I would still let the lawyer send a letter so that it is really drilled in that what she did was assault and she could be charged with it.

Keep us updated if you can on how things progress.

[KBecks]

My recommendation.

I suggest you call and firmly request a meeting with whomever is the boss of the practice -- the most senior doctor or the principal owner of the practice -- to have a face-to-face meeting to discuss your concerns regarding poor quality of care and poor attitude by the nursing staff.

I would absolutely try to have this in a face to face meeting and not a phone call, but you could possibly do it via phone as well. But you must communicate to the decision-maker at that practice what the problem is. Keep the emotions out of it and focus on the facts -- that your son was intentionally forcibly retrated in defiance of your explicit instruction -- that your son was harmed and the retraction was a) unnecessary and b) harmful, and c) that the nurse overruled your authority as the parent and guardian.

I'd express to the decision-maker your dissatisfaction and tell them they need to change. Offer a few suggestions on what you think may be helpful, such as a disciplinary meeting with the nurse and education on parents rights and proper care of the intact penis. Then ask the decision maker what they will do to address these flaws in their quality of care.

I hope that helps. I would try to deal with them directly before sending any letters about lawsuits, but if they do not take you seriously, then sick the legal dogs on them.

Good luck,
Karen

P.S. I see your update and am glad the doc has responded with an apology. Perhaps you should send a letter that re-caps your discussion and what you expect them to do to improve their care.

[incorrigible]

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[Jane]

Link to update:
http://mothering.com/discussions/sho...d.php?t=720497