I don't know if anyone really completely understands the etiology or physiology well of pre-e. For one thing, it's wayyyyy overdiagnosed. it seems that any sort of rise in blood pressure (even a normal increase at the end of pregnancy) is considered pre-e.
Pre-eclampsia is a toxic disorder of the liver and kidneys that starts with a contracted blood volume (the blood volume expansion doesn't occur - for whatever reason: nutrition, salt restriction, dehydration, or just plain bad luck). This contracted blood volume does not meet the needs of the baby or the mother and takes its toll on the liver and the kidneys, causing the blood pressure to rise rapidly (typically at the start of the third trimester, rather than in the last month of pregnancy). The bp rises because the baby / placenta needs more blood and the volume contraction has kept that from happening.
Swelling in the tissues regularly occurs in pregnancy, but women with pre-eclampsia LOOK swollen in the face and neck. Swelling in the lower legs and feet is normal, especially in the last six weeks of pregnancy.
Protein in the urine is a very, very late sign of pre-e. Many things affect urine dipsticks picking up protein in the urine - usually it's concentrated urine or a lack of getting enough protein in the urine. If I had a woman that I was worried about pre-e with, I'd do a 24 hour urine collection, not a dipstick. Looking at her protein levels over a 24 hour period is more accurate than a one-time dipstick.
Women with pre-e often will have some upper abdomen pain - typically from the stress on the kidneys and/or liver.
here is something i wrote on my blog re: high blood pressure in pregnancy.