I have been reading and rereading this book as per an mdc mom's suggestion and it is very helpful but I really need some help with the concepts. I could really use a group of moms doing the same approach to bounce ideas off of.
My dd is six now and I am working hard to try and determine her triggers. She is very verbal and has been since she was two but doesn't seem to have the skills to help her when she is angry or anxious so she can blow up violently.
We have always had issues with her that tend to ebb and flow. We keep thinking that it was a phase that she would grow out of. Now at six, we realize that we better come up with the skills to help her instead of seeing her moodiness as a phase. I am starting to believe that anxiety may play a role in her issues. She is very slow to try something new.
The author describes a child in the book that is chronically inflexible and irritable. This fits her pretty well. It saddens me because she seems so unhappy sometimes.
We have been using the plan B approach but unfortunately it tends to be an emercency plan B because I just never seem to know what is going to set her off or when. We have also recently used plan C in regard to sleeping arrangements. My dh and I agreed that we just wanted to take that issue off of the table for a bit until we get some other more important issues taken care of.
We both tend to want to use plan A too often because it is still hard to feel like she isn't walking all over us when we negociate.
Anyway I am babbling. I am hoping others are using the same plan at home so we can get a discussion going. Maybe to brainstorm using specific situations.
My dd is six now and I am working hard to try and determine her triggers. She is very verbal and has been since she was two but doesn't seem to have the skills to help her when she is angry or anxious so she can blow up violently.
We have always had issues with her that tend to ebb and flow. We keep thinking that it was a phase that she would grow out of. Now at six, we realize that we better come up with the skills to help her instead of seeing her moodiness as a phase. I am starting to believe that anxiety may play a role in her issues. She is very slow to try something new.
The author describes a child in the book that is chronically inflexible and irritable. This fits her pretty well. It saddens me because she seems so unhappy sometimes.
We have been using the plan B approach but unfortunately it tends to be an emercency plan B because I just never seem to know what is going to set her off or when. We have also recently used plan C in regard to sleeping arrangements. My dh and I agreed that we just wanted to take that issue off of the table for a bit until we get some other more important issues taken care of.
We both tend to want to use plan A too often because it is still hard to feel like she isn't walking all over us when we negociate.
Anyway I am babbling. I am hoping others are using the same plan at home so we can get a discussion going. Maybe to brainstorm using specific situations.
