Originally Posted by MarcyC
Thanks all! Sorry it's been busy around here. I'm supposed to be on total left-side-only bedrest, so needless to say, sitting upright at the computer isn't high on the priority list.
Most of this info I already knew just from my own research, and most of it I had already talked with DH about. He seems open to my arguments and is willing to listen with an all out blow up fight, but he still isn't swayed, kwim?
I'll keep trying. I'm trying to do this with gentle persuasion. One problem is that we are pre-registered at the hospital. Well, I was on a heavy dose of stadol & phenergan when we were pre-registering (long story...I've been admitted 3 times for complications with high blood pressure and pre-eclampsia). Anyway, I'm on stadol & phenergan and was pretty out of it so the nurse is sitting there on the computer going through our pre-registration stuff and she says, "are you going to have him circumcised?" and DH immediately says, "YES!!". Well, I wasn't in an shape to argue right there at all so I need to try to stay alert the next time we're at the hospital so I can talk to the nurse myself.
I'm so sorry you're having so many problems with this pregnancy.
You need to write a letter and send it to the hospital -- and call them -- stating that you do NOT consent to circumcision. If you don't, and you go into labor or have those yucky mind-altering drugs, your son WILL be circumcised because a) that's what they have in the file for him, they have your consent and b) your dh will consent, whether you want him to or not.
The fact that he piped up and stated that your son WOULD be circumcised without looking to you to talk to you about it is NOT a good sign IMO. If you have a very traumatic birth or a c-section and you're out of it after the birth, my guess is that he will go ahead with a circumcision.
I think the time has come to stand up (figuratively speaking) and put your foot down to your dh. Gentle persuasion isn't working and he's taking the position that it's YOUR job to persuade HIM to refrain from cutting part of your son's penis off. You need to let him know that this is not going to happen except over your dead body, or you will have a circed son.