I do agree with you. I HATE that this is just hurting my kids. All I have wanted is for him and me to get along and for him to have a relationship with the kids. But, he has some major issues. He has told me he wants nothing to do with my teenagers. They are 19,18,15,and 13...all boys. He tried to get them to live with him, my 15 yr old did for a while. I told them they could make their own choice. WEll, they are smart boys and they realized on their own what he was like. Now he says I turned them against him. He doesnt even want to admit that his actions has caused it. Trust me, I was all for them going with him every other weekend.. He!! yeah, a break from teenage drama for a weekend
He will not follow any court orders, he harrasses me non stop. I have had child welfare here so much because of him. They now know that everything he says is just lies. The only reason he took them was to hurt me. His girlfriend has 4 girls by 3 dads and doesnt have custody of any of them. I can see losing custody to one father, but three proves it has to be her, you know?? Its a bad situation...and he sees nothing wrong with any of his behavior.
So, yeah I am torn, I dont want to go thru this again, so I cant risk him taking them again. They have talked to him everyday, I
never say they cant. I just hope that someday we can actually work together with the kids. ANd as pi$$ed as I still am, I feel a little bad for his legal stuff he'll be going thru if and when they arrest him..but he did it to himself.
Anyway, I also want to say thank you to everyone for being supportive. I does help.