Daycare Teacher

[punkrockmommy]

Okay so my dd is in daycare and i love the daycare that she is in. She is a very spirited social critter and i need to have her there so we both have downtime. She gets the socialization she needs and i get a break from her neediness. Sorry that is the truth. She just moved up to the 3 year old preschool class. I love her lead teachers and the new opportunities that she has in that class. They go on field trips and do group activities and show and tell time. But her closing teacher that is with them from 3:30 to 5:30 is horrid. I really do hate her. She is not warm at all with the kids. She is not welcoming. She is very matter of fact and I really hate dropping my dd off while she is there. I dont think that she is abusive in anyway. She is not even verbally abusive to my knowledge.
Well monday night i pick up my dd and she is socking wet from an accident that she had had. This teacher didnt even attempt to change her clothes, she had even told the co teacher to not change her because it was her second accident that day!!!! I was pissed off. The director talked to her about it. solved i thought. Wendsday i pick her up from daycare and she has had three accidents!!!! The teacher told me she had brought her potty every thirty minutes!! then she proceded to tell me " this is not a daughter issue this is a parent issue!" implying that it is my fault that she is having accidents! She has no issues at home with this! None! I was so upset after this that again i told the Director my boss. We had a group meeting with both of us but she defended herself and acted kinda put out that i was upset by this. I dont know what to do. I am at a loss. I have never not liked a teacher there. I get along with all of them awesome except for her. What would you do?

[kirstenb3]

I had a similar problem with a (Ex) teacher at my DD preschool.
Have you talked with other parents? Are there other who share these feelings about the teacher with you?
I would make file a written complaint with the preschool director along with letters from other parents if possible.
If the teacher is only there from 3:30-5:30 could you change your drop off - pick up hours so DD isn't there with this particular teacher?
I have been a part of my DD board of directors for 2 years because I wanted a say in what teachers were working in the school.....
Good luck.

[LynnS6]

I would file a written complaint with the director, stating explicitly what you see as the problem and what you want the teacher to do/not do. I'm very clear that it's completely unacceptable for her not to change your dd when she was wet, but I'm not quite clear as to what happened the next time - are you upset because they are taking her potty every 30 minutes? Are you upset because they seem to be shaming her about potty accidents? What do you want them to do differently?

I would also talk to other parents, as a pp suggested and see if they've had any problems, and ask them to write to the preschool director too. If this teacher is going to be fired, they need documentation.

I would also talk to the morning/drop-off teacher(s) and see what they do that works well with your daughter. Put that in the letter of very specific things you want this teacher to do/not do.

Are you really surprised that the teacher defended herself? Of course she's going to do that! That's why you need a very detailed letter explaining what's wrong and what your expectations are. It's harder to argue against something concrete and written.

[punkrockmommy]

I am upset because the second time she was blaming me for my dd having accidents at daycare. And i feel like she just blew me off at the meeting she was constantly rolling her eyes and shakeing her head. I feel like nothing got resolved. I still feel very put off by her. Pretty soon parent questionairs are coming out and i am intrested to see how they come out. (for my sake as well, i am fairly new teacher and have pircings and tattoos)

[AbbieB]

Sudden potty accidents only happening around this new "not nice" teacher would be sending warning bells off for me.

When I was a 1st grade teacher I had a student that suddenly started wetting her pants. She had recently stopped wearing stockings that covered her ams and legs that were covered with burns from an accident she had at the age of 3. I immediately started looking for reasons for the behavior. I also had a private chat with her about going to the bathroom if she needed to go with out waiting for my OK (in classroom bathroom). I also quizzed the class (she was not present) about what was going on when the class was not with me (lunch, art, music, ect...). Turns out that she was being teased pretty nastily by other kids. When I asked the class to help me look out for her (again, she was not present) things improved very quickly. Kids would share if something happened and would stick up for her and the wet pants stopped.

My point is that kids don't just start wetting themselves for no reason. I wonder if this teacher is somehow coming across as intimidating or scaring your child with her gruff attitude?

[mommy68]

I would definitely talk to the director and let them know you will report her to the State if she doesn't do something about this lady. She has no right to talk to you like that. She has no right to say it's your fault your 3 yr old child isn't going potty correctly.

This woman sounds lazy, like she doesn't want to worry with a child that still wets herself. She should be in a class with children ages 4 and up IMO or perhaps she should be fired or atleast that would be MY recommendation.

Actually, since you've already complained about this once before I would turn them in to the state. The state will go out and observe the daycare and the workers and will most likely go by when they least expect them to be coming. I think it sounds like this is what they need.

[CarrieMF]

Sudden potty accidents only happening around this new "not nice" teacher would be sending warning bells off for me.

I agree. If this teacher is only there from 3:30 - 5:30 & she had 3 accidents in that time something else is going on. Even if the teacher has days where she's there longer but this was not an issue before she moved to this class or when the morning teacher is there something is going on with this teacher.

Is there an observation room or anything?

[punkrockmommy]

No oberservation room. But of course i can hang out with her when ever i want to. I am conflicted because i do work here. I have to be in staff meetings with her and see her on a daily bases. yesterday she had no accidents i dont know about today. Monday her teacher comes back. I agree though she should not be working with kids. IMHO