WWYD MW going out of town

[lyttlewon]

My midwife wanted to go out of town tomorrow and would have been over 3 hours away and would have been unavailable for about 11 hours. She asked if I was ok with her going. She was fine with staying home. DH and I talked about it and although there is a good chance nothing will happen tomorrow what if something does? So I asked her not to go. Now I feel bad for her . She told me not to worry about it. What would you have done?

[josybear]

does she have a backup?

[QueenOfThePride]

I would have let her go. I'd be OK with an accidental UC, but that's just me.

My DH is going to be six hours away from Sunday to Wednesday this week. I don't think I'll go into labor, but so what if I do. I'll just call him and he'll have to come home early.

[NightRose]

Originally Posted by QueenOfThePride

I would have let her go. I'd be OK with an accidental UC, but that's just me.

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My midwife is a doll but she will be here more for dh's comfort that my own. However, if were I not comfortable going it alone I would have evaluated how I was feeling and if I thought there was a good possibility baby would come soon, I most likely would have asked her not to go.

[hypatia]

It's a week before your due date. You are absolutely within your rights to ask her to stay.

On the other hand, whatever it was she had to go to must be pretty important for her even to bring it up with you. I would hate to have her miss her sister's funeral, or something like that.

What if you touch base early in the morning? If you're not in labor yet, the chances are pretty slim you'll have your birth before your midwife comes back.

[ladyleigh]

I wouldn't have felt great about it at all! But this is my first and I am feeling like a needy client. That kind of thing would totally stress me out and make my early labor more difficult. I wouldn't feel too bad. I guess like pp it depends where she was going.

[lyttlewon]

She was going rafting.

[ThreeBeans]

Personally, I don't think it was very professional of her to put you in the position of having to say no. I am quite certain my m/w would never do that. My m/w has a backup m/w and I still would have said no. I am paying her 3000 to BE THERE. Not 11 hours away rafting.

What an odd thing of her to even ask.

[lyttlewon]

Originally Posted by ThreeBeans

Personally, I don't think it was very professional of her to put you in the position of having to say no. I am quite certain my m/w would never do that. My m/w has a backup m/w and I still would have said no. I am paying her 3000 to BE THERE. Not 11 hours away rafting.

What an odd thing of her to even ask.

I thought it was ok to ask I was just wondering how comfortable other people would have been letting her go.

[danotoyou2]

For me, it doesn't seem like a big deal, just because my MW is ALWAYS 3 hours away! But I can definitely understand the level of discomfort that you'd feel if you went into this thinking that your MW was 'on call' only to have her that far away.

I wouldn't sweat it. I personally would have felt okay with her going, so long as you weren't having any signs of going into labor yet (and she gave a call in the morning to check on things), but she ASKED you, which means that she was okay with either a yes or no answer.

I just think it's cool that your midwife goes rafting.

[Momsteader]

Originally Posted by ThreeBeans

Personally, I don't think it was very professional of her to put you in the position of having to say no. I am quite certain my m/w would never do that. My m/w has a backup m/w and I still would have said no. I am paying her 3000 to BE THERE. Not 11 hours away rafting.

What an odd thing of her to even ask.

YIKES I'd hate to think for $3000 you 'own' her life. OUCH. Is a MW required to be at the complete beck and call of a client? And not do anything but sit by the phone waiting for "the call"?? From what I'm reading it wasn't 11 hrs away, it was 3 with a total 'gone' time of 11 hours.

To the OP....I'd probably have told her to go. 3 hrs doesn't seem too bad. Most midwives around my area are a minimum of 2 hours away anyway.

[pookel]

Or maybe she wasn't that into the trip anyway and thought that asking you to decide would make it an easy decision for her. If it were important to her, she probably wouldn't have asked.

[mamamoo]

I don't blame you for wanting her to stay. I would feel the same way, especially for my first hb.

[queendom lady]

I don't feel comfortable with the idea of a uc either so I would've told her I was honestly a little nervous about it but if it was really important to her and she had a back up then ok go. But I don't think I'd be too happy about it.