Another month, another baby for the May '04 Mamas! ;) - Page 3

[TurboClaudia]

Originally Posted by A&L+1

Sex change?

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(sorry, i don't mean to be rude if it is... but the idea of that is just funny right now...)

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[DucetteMama21842]

No to all of Lisa's.

[A&L+1]

Originally Posted by DucetteMama21842

No to all of Lisa's.

Dang it, I thought I was onto something

[DucetteMama21842]

Originally Posted by TurboClaudia

1. is it something health/medical related?
2. are you jumping out of an airplane? (i don't think they'd let you do it pregnant, but i'm having a hard time thinking of anything so i'll keep it.)
3. are you moving to a different state?
4. a different country?
5. adopting a child from a different state?
6. a different country?
7. ooh... does it have something to do with your church?
8. oh, maybe with LLL?
9. hmmm... are you renovating a home?
10. come to think of it, are you buying a home? (or is that just crazy us...

this is a fun game! this should be a new mmf tradition! weekly surprise announcements of random origin that include a fabulous buildup and ten questions game. *insert random clapping noise*

~claudia

1.) Hmm.. Health related... possibly mental health as it has to do with something from my past that horribly upset me for this long.
2.) Not jumping out of a plane.
3.) Not moving out of state.
4.) Not moving to a different country.
5.) Not adopting from another state/country.
6.) See above.
7.) I guess it could have something to do with my church's RULES... but I'm not delving into that too deeply. I'll explain that later.
8.) I would crack up laughing if it ever had to do with LLL... although LLL members have been known to do this frequently. (That one will get you thinking.. Where's the evil laughing smiley? )
9.) Not renovating a home... but that's always been my dream.
10.) Not buying a home... we just bought ours last September.. I would die if I had to move this soon again.

[DucetteMama21842]

And FTR,

Just so you ladies know.. I will never be getting a sex change. I'm perfectly comfortable in the body G-d gave me and I enjoy being a girl almost every moment.

[DucetteMama21842]

This is fun.. we should all take turns doing this with something unknown about each of us. It'd be great.

[A&L+1]

okay, this is heavy, but perpetrator of abuse is getting prosecuted?

[DucetteMama21842]

No.. although that is in my past- but prosecuted and have a current restraining order. However, that is not this situation.

[TurboClaudia]

Originally Posted by DucetteMama21842

8.) I would crack up laughing if it ever had to do with LLL... although LLL members have been known to do this frequently. (That one will get you thinking.. Where's the evil laughing smiley? )

you may have to explain this later if it is not clearly obvious.

more questions in a few...

[A&L+1]

Phew...

Okay, I am out of ideas. Anyone else???

I like the secret-a-week idea, but I can't think of what I would have you all guess about.

I am : at Alison right now. I came into work early on the hopes that I could leave early (without planning this in advance, just took the gamble that it would work out). I wanted to go to Annie's check up appointment. Well, I am one of five supervisors and three are out today so I have to stay late to cover. She is so pissed. I knew it was a gamble, but she "hates my job" and thinks my sick co-workers are "wastes of space." I think that her expectations about my work are really off-base and it continues to come up in our relationship. She has been pissy about me attending birth meetings or bike commuting because she "would think I would want to spend as much time at home as possible." Freaks me out for when I am attending births and I truly can't tell her when I will be home.

Of course, the countless minutes I have spent online today aren't helping the job situation much either...

[DucetteMama21842]

It will become clearly obvious when I tell you later.

[DucetteMama21842]

It's really something simple... but it's a HUGE deal to me. Hopefully it works out the way I'm hoping it will- and I won't have to be embarrassed telling you about it later.

[DucetteMama21842]

No ideas Lisa. Are you a student midwife or doula?

[A&L+1]

wanna be both. ALACE trained doula and volunteer breastfeeding peer educator for now. I have an unrelated fulltime job and two small children, so most of my birth work possibilites are just dreams in a five year plan.

[DucetteMama21842]

Okay... well I'm in college for my RN and Midwifery... I am also a Doula.


It's hard for my DH to deal with the fact that you are almost constantly "on call". Your hours are never definitive.... is this your passion? Have you explained all the reasons this is so important to you? It's just a hard sticky situation I know... I don't really have any advice... just *HUGS* of understanding.

[TurboClaudia]

hey lisa, i've voiced concerns much like alison's to bill. he works 5 miles away, a 10 minute drive at most, and even if he goes in to work early, he still comes home at 630 or 7. i have to be very specific about asking him to be home at 5 or 530 if i have somewhere to be that marek can't or won't go to (doula meetings or LLL (he hates them, for some reason, i think the people-he-only-sees-once-a-month-and-doesn't-know-well factor). and then i am jealous when he goes to play hockey once a week for a 2 hour timeframe because he gets to spend time with adults again. i know he wants to be home with me and the boys but then when he is, he is not always engaged in something with them and then he can get frustrated when they want his attention and he wants to watch tv or look something up on the web or listen to music or be in the garden or whatever. i know it helps me when bill actually says, yes, i want to be at home with you all as much as possible, and then we make some fun plans to hang out or do something all together. it also helps for me to actually hear him say i know it's only 2 hours of hockey but it really means a lot for me to get some exercise each week so i feel better. just some thoughts... take what works, leave what doesn't.

i'm stumped, danile.

tattoo?
piercing?
buying a minivan?
an rv?
a job or some sort?
advocacy?

dude, we gotta wait FIVE MORE HOURS!!!???!!!

just kidding, danile. this is fun. :

[DucetteMama21842]

Still coming up with questions Claudia?

[DucetteMama21842]

That's funny. Your post hit as I was typing my last one.

[DucetteMama21842]

Five hours for you? Man that's brutal. I go to my appointment in three hours. That's brutal for me. Trust me... my stomach is in knots.

No to all of your questions... although the last four of them are possibilities of things happening soon.

[A&L+1]

driver's license test?
inheritance?


Claudia - I was careful when I wrote my rant because the whole time I am fuming about this I am thinking, "I feel like such a husband." :
The feelings I am having though aren't so much about doing/not doing things outside of the house as they are about her attempts to make me feel guilty about things over which I have no control. I already feel bad that I am missing the appointment so I can babysit bus drivers (trust me on this), so her irritation and condemnation is annoying and unsupportive of me. I understand that she now has to take two kids to an appointment alone when she thought I would be there, but it’s not something I can fix even as I am trying to be emotionally supportive for her. She is going to work a little side job tonight and I am solo putting the kids to bed and when she said she wanted to do it I was 100% supportive despite the possible fallout. I feel like she isn’t being fair.

I also feel like this isn’t the place to hash it out…off to call the wife.