I read the responses to dh and he feels a bit better, he wanted to make sure we were prepared, and my answer was why do we always have to be on a schedule or prepared? Life is not something you prepare for. but he wanted me to ask and I really didnt know the answer, but to me I figured we would do normal daily things and I know for a fact that we always run into math. counting blueberries at the patch dividing them among egg cartons and if we have 20 in each slot and there are 12 slots how many do we have..normal stuff. im not worried about it, but the responses just added to what i thought and made me more comfortable. in other words, i feel i have support!
I also figured that maybe my children wont want to go to college. I never had an interest, not once. I definitely did not want to go to college, instead I went to BOCES which is a vocational school during high school and i was fine with that. I didnt really enjoy my job though and soon found the best job ever, being a mom and a doula! And to be a doula, you dont have to take a course, though you can and it looks better. My daughter, who is 7 told me she wanted to catch babies when she gets older. If this interest still carries over when shes older, i will have her come to births as my junior doula in training lol! i want them to find something that they will love doing---not become a nurse like I did just because everyone in my family was a nurse and it looked good and made money. Id rather made little money and be happy than make alot and be miserable. I want them to nourish their interests and I can definitely support that.
When i was younger (17) I left home. I was with my boyfriend who later became my husband. When confronted with my mother once after I'd left, she said to me, with him in the car, "Why would you want to take the road you are taking? If you come home, I can give you more, I can buy you a new car, Ill pay for college and I'll get your rich ex boyfriend to go back out with you so you wont have to worry about money. You are taking the peanut butter road with him, come home and you can take the lobster road. Why take peanut butter when you can take lobster?" and my response was "Because Im allergic to lobster and love trumps money." and i left. Unlike my mother, I dont believe my children need to find tons of money to be happy, just enough to be comfortable and doing what they are passionate about and if they wish, share it with someone they love. That is how life should be and this is an important lesson I will teach my children