Refrigerator Magnets - Page 3

[rachelle-a-tron]

She has some kind of compulsive situation going on... it wouldn't upset her as much as it has if she didn't.

Originally Posted by the_lissa

It's the child's house too. The OP doesn't have OCD. If she did, it would be different to me.

[MillingNome]

So anyway- I was picturing naughyt magnets or bad words.


My 2cents- if it is indeed a huge issue for you to have your pictures on the fridge exactly the way you want them- WHO CARES Don't we all have pieces of our life and surroundings we like a certain way!?! I know I do. For me, it is my bathroom closet and where the toothpaste and toothbrush is located. My kids have learned not to move them and if they must to make sure the are replaced exactly where they were. They have their own shelf.

So in that same vein- if your dsd wants to put things on the fridge, can't she be assigned an area on it that is specifically hers? You should be able to have your space unmessed with. Just let her know you need those pictures that way and if she wants to put something on the fridge, to please do it in another spot.

For my kids and me, it is not a control issue. It is a matter of being respectful of another person's request. If we love each other and want to try to make each others' lives easier, I don't think it is asking too much to have personal items a certain way, even if they are in public space, especially when there are alternative locations for other's affects.

[rmzbm]

If it's really bothering you just move it. I can't see a teenager really caring, I wouldn't. If she asks explain it to her like you did us. She should, by her teen years, be understanding of such a thing.

[treqi]

Just as someone who was recently a teen (me=20) your DSD doesn't care and prolly doesn't even remember putting the magnet there. You are blowing this WAY outta proportion and she would think this whole thread is HILARIOUS.

[mamaduck]

You should show her the thread. Ask her advice!

[rachelle-a-tron]

Thats what I was thinking, she may get a kick outta the thread!

Originally Posted by mamaduck

You should show her the thread. Ask her advice!

[mlec]

Originally Posted by Oriole

*tiptoeing into the Refrigerator Magnets therapy sessions...*

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[mlec]

FWIW I think you sound totally OCD about the magnets...and just like me!

[Kirsten]

1-800-DRPHIL

No, really - I'm glad you are leaving the magnet where dsd put it. All kids need some control, and to let her choose this was nice of you. I know you'd highly prefer to have the magnets the way you like them, but I'd try to let it go and save your "I'm having it my way" points for something like whether or not she can date a 23 year old.

I'm a little OCD about this and that myself. I always pull the door handle after I lock it with the remote. Always. I've been known to go back and check it after we walked away - if dp didn't do it himself when he has the keys and is in charge of locking.

But the other day my dd1 unloaded and reloaded the dishwasher. I'd asked her to unload it - but planned to load it myself as I like it a certain way (bottom rack - all big plates together in the back - facing center of dishwasher, all small plates together in the front - same side as big plates and of course facing center, bowls together in back facing center, kid bowls together in front facing center, all forks in one section facing up, all spoons in the next section facing up, all knives in next section facing DOWN!, potato peelers, etc in fourth section - facing down if they are pointy. Top rack - glasses go glass-plastic-glass-plastic so they don't clink together.

So I come home to the dishwasher not only unloaded but reloaded. I am a little afraid to open it - you should have seen the bowls all facing every which way! But you know what? I just put detergent in and pushed start!

I am more interested in supporting her helping out than I am having all the bowls line up. I am trying not to sweat the small stuff.

I do think the OP would get a little different responses if she were diagnosed OCD. OP? Is it something that negatively affects your life? Do you think that this might be your opportunity to work on it? I would tread carefully so you can continue to form a good relationship with your dsd.

[Tishie]

I can't believe there are three pages on this.