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post #101 of 144


So right now:

Angelo (2) is playing some horrifying song on the organ while standing naked on the arm off our living room chair.

Abby (5) is asking me to help her with her workbook......after I just freaked out because they are not listening.

Dom (7) randomly walking around....I guess he put a new dipe on Mylee

Mylee (8 months) is whining unless she is pulling out what has already been picked up.

Me.....trying to read to them from online books (THEY chose their curriculum!) They will not listen to me!

I just want to crawl in a hole and sleep......for years.

My body (having major health issues) hurts. I can not walk well and can barely pick up Mylee or Angelo.

And the kids are crazy!
post #102 of 144
Sorry you're having a rough day AngelBee. I hope tomorrow's better.
post #103 of 144
Hope it's ok if I jump in here. I'm also a daycare provider, looks like there are a few of us. My own DD is 2.5. We recently became foster parents, but no kids yet (taking 1 or two kids btn 0 and 6). But on any given day I have 1 7 mo old, 2 8 mo olds, 1 13 mo old, 1 21 month old, 1 2 yo (plus my own 2yo), 1 4yo, and 1 6yo, plus I'm a PT student taking classes online, so it gets pretty crazy here. I'm trying towards more GD techniques, but just get so overwhelmed and nothing seems to work. I never want to post here bc I'm seen so many ppl flamed for non-GD practices, even when they're trying to change... but this thread seems pretty supportive.

I really want to let the kids freely create and play, but then it seems like we spend about an hour cleaning up before lunch just every day, from 2 hours of playing. Going crazy just trying to keep everything out of the babies mouths. My own 2yo bit last Friday and then on Monday again, but I didn't catch her doing it either time. Monday the one she bit, it was the daycare girl's first day though... eeks, thankfully her mom didn't flip out.

I think the biggest thing I need to work on is not multitasking during the day. I try to get extra things done, then everything turns into a mess, the kids get crabby, and I get crabby, and everything else then takes twice as long. Hard to not do though.

Anyways, hope I am welcome here, glad to find a place I hopefully will fit in.
Melody
post #104 of 144
Subbing even though I only have 3 (ages 5, 2, and 6 months). Feels like many to me though I know it's not. Here to learn!
post #105 of 144

Pre-teen Mouth!!

Does anyone have a pre-teen that's getting "the mouth" and it's driving you batty? Rolling eyes and 'oh my god, moms' galore! Gahhhh!!!
post #106 of 144
orangefoot- thanks for your post about offering challenges the more I think about your post the more it resonates with me, while the boys get what seems like plenty of physical activity its not always challenging (for them anyway: ). I am going to replase the phrases "please stop wrestling/running in the house/jumping on the furnature" with "hey how about we <insert physical challenge>". Its gotta work better then please stop wrestling/running in the house/jumping on the furnature
post #107 of 144

Lurking on this thread

I'm just dropping in to say Hi, and that I'm lurking on this thread. I have a 3.5 YO DS, a 21 mos old DS and a 7 wk old DD. For me just getting to sit down and type is a challenge these days, so I mostly just surf the net while I'm nursing. (As it is, right now I'm typing one-handed while I nak and my 3.5 YO is hovering beside me with a spaceship he made from lego.)
I'm really glad that this thread got started and if I ever have a question and can actually sit down to type it then maybe I'll join in.
post #108 of 144
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orangefoot- thanks for your post about offering challenges the more I think about your post the more it resonates with me, while the boys get what seems like plenty of physical activity its not always challenging (for them anyway: ). I am going to replase the phrases "please stop wrestling/running in the house/jumping on the furnature" with "hey how about we <insert physical challenge>". Its gotta work better then please stop wrestling/running in the house/jumping on the furnature
Yes, I can totally use this advise, too. When I am trying to think, or get something done (that really needs to be done, like cooking for hungry kids) and they wrestle, jump off the couch, etc. It can drive me batty (especially when the baby is playing on the floor : )... They can jump on their beds all they want--do whatever they want in their rooms, or in the sun room--but their favorite is the couch...

And the explosion noises! There are constantly bombs going off in our living room, car crashes, and jet engines... arg.

We live in a dense, urban place--we don't have a yard : ... so when they play outside it is in the front, supervised, or at the park around the corner... there is really no place (outside) for them to freak out without me watching or walking with them to the park. We probably won't be able to move for at least 6 months, and it just breaks my heart... But we do get out everyday or swim... but it really makes me feel bad that they don't have their own yard, ykim?
post #109 of 144
Thread Starter 
This is one of the most honest ebay "descriptions" I've ever read
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...m=130144061675
post #110 of 144
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This is one of the most honest ebay "descriptions" I've ever read
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...m=130144061675
$142.00 ??? That's crazy.
post #111 of 144
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
This is one of the most honest ebay "descriptions" I've ever read
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...m=130144061675

I like how she mentioned my very favorite part of having three children:

"You certainly have your hands full!"

Oh, really?!?
post #112 of 144
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
This is one of the most honest ebay "descriptions" I've ever read
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...m=130144061675
Did I write that in my sleep and not remember? It sounds like one of my shopping trips.

That was the funniest and most honest thing I have read in a long time. I wonder if she is a MDC mama? I'm going to check out her blog.
post #113 of 144
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Originally Posted by GinaRae View Post
Does anyone have a pre-teen that's getting "the mouth" and it's driving you batty? Rolling eyes and 'oh my god, moms' galore! Gahhhh!!!
We're right there with ya. I've really found that giving DD her space helps. We homeschool which means we're all here together all day, so we really need to have peace. It's hard at times for me to control my anger when her behavior gets hurtful, but I remind myself not to take it personally and so far when I avoid taking the bait and just walk away she snaps out of it within the hour. I'm trying very hard to avoid putting a wedge between us because I know we're going to need a very strong attachment to get through the next few years!
post #114 of 144
I read that ebay description, it was sent to one of my homeschool lists...very funny. It touches on the most difficult thing for me about having 4 kids, which is grocery shopping. I keep telling myself I'm going to get a system set up with menus and lists and planned trips to the store, but I've developed such a fear of grocery shopping that I put it off until the last possible minute. My 3yo and 6yo will have a fist fight every time we go, no matter what time of day or how hard I try to head it off.
post #115 of 144
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
This is one of the most honest ebay "descriptions" I've ever read
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...m=130144061675
: : OMG that IS exactly why I DO NOT take my kiddos with me to the store & I only have three. I would rather do triage shopping every night at 10:00 then take them....in fact I gotta run to the strore right now
post #116 of 144
Haven't finished reading all of this but wanted to say thanks for the inspiration and ideas.
post #117 of 144
Thread Starter 
Here's a question--when you have something to do, like haircuts or physicals, do you find it better for discipline and sanity if you schedule everyone at the same time (or one after the other) or do you take them all at different times?
post #118 of 144
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Originally Posted by GinaRae View Post
Does anyone have a pre-teen that's getting "the mouth" and it's driving you batty? Rolling eyes and 'oh my god, moms' galore! Gahhhh!!!
I've had a couple that tried that but they got *black out* immediately. It ended their misconceived notion that they can be snotty b/c they're teens/pre teens.
post #119 of 144
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Originally Posted by annettemarie View Post
Here's a question--when you have something to do, like haircuts or physicals, do you find it better for discipline and sanity if you schedule everyone at the same time (or one after the other) or do you take them all at different times?
Different times for sure. A couple at a time, three at most. Now that I have a 15 year old to help babysit I don't find it necessary to drive myself insane
post #120 of 144
Great thread! We have four kids, all boys- almost 6, 4 year old twins and a 4 month old baby. I'm keeping lots of these tips in mind and wrote down the three guidelines from How to Talk...

I love the "get in the van and get drive through ice cream" idea. Dh is totally on board and we either already think the same when it comes to the kids, or I tell him stuff I've read and we agree it makes sense, and he helps keep me in check by quietly reminding me "Remember how you said you read..." when I'm not following the advice we've heard/read. I know I'm very lucky for that.

One thing I've been trying really hard to do lately is to go to them. No more talking AT them from another room. No more expecting them to stop doing something they think is fun because I said so. I'm stating what and why, then helping with a distraction that I'm involved with if necessary.

We've been reading a lot of books. If things are crazy, I say "Hey, let's read stories!" If we have time, they each choose one. If we only have five minutes, I choose (usually Guess How Much I Love You).
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