Hi! Can I join in here? We have a boy that will be 6 next month, 4 year old twin boys and an almost 5 month old baby boy.
I recently (as in earlier this week!) read Connection Parenting. I'm totally on board with it being the way I want to parent. My issue is that it seems so hard to do with multiple kids. Our biggest issues are usually between the big boys. We can't just let them work it out because it ends badly always. I can't sit by while my kids beat on or pinch each other. So I'm really struggling with how to be respectful to all of them all the time.
It has really been helping me to do the "think twice speak once" thing. And before speaking, I've been pretending they're an annoying relative that I need to deal with nicely because we're family.
I did great a couple days ago but by last night, not so much. They just drove me crazy. And just now. Opening the back screen door and standing there. They don't want to go out, they just want to open the door. Which means flies are coming in to drive us crazy.
Me: Let's leave the door closed please. I don't want the bugs to come in.
Twins: But we want to open the door.
Twins: We want to. (opens door again)
Me: (closes door myself) Leave the door closed please.
Twins: But we want it open. (opens again)
Me: I said leave it closed.
Twins: (opens door again, then one twin blames his brother- mom, he's opening the door)
Me: Stop it both of you. Go out of the kitchen. There's no need for you to be in here now. I said leave the door CLOSED!
That kind of stuff frustrates me so much. Just leave the damn door closed.