How do I throw a "I became a woman" Party?

[flutterbylvr]

I really want my DD to be comfortable with this change, and since my experience was so awful, I would like to change that for my kids. I need some ideas on what other people have done for this. What have you done or heard done that maybe good for this? Thanks everyone!!!!

[tuansprincess]

I want to do this for my dd(s) as well. I to had an awful intro. I don't own the book, but have read it and I know there are a couple of good ideas in the book "Cunt". http://www.ingalagringa.com/cunt/

This a good site http://www.birthwithsol.com/firstperiodkit.html (I actually bought my birth pool from them )

Anyway, hope you find what you're looking for.

[medicmama]

What a great Idea!!!! I have a long ways to wait my dd is only 13 mos. I hope it goes well!!!

[mtiger]

You may also want to give your daughter some input. Mine is totally cool with the whole menstrual situation, but said that she would not want to have a party centered on it.

[SamuraiMom]

When our neighbors dd got her period the mom's threw a little party, just for her close friends. I thought this was cute, though other's may not. Her mom made little "pads" from sponge cake and then spooned strawberries on them to signify the menstruation. I think we did other things that were life change related, but that is the one thing I remember. I think throwing a little party is a great idea, it's a huge day to remember, so why not celebrate! Even if it is just the 2 of you as well, she'll remember it clearly in a positive way.

[iamama]

sing this (nak)

women am I
spirit am I
I am infinite within my soul
I have no beginning and I have no end
all this I know

Then you change spirit with other words like happy, strenght and growing etc.

[candipooh]

Toni Wechler has a book for teens too

Cycle Savvy: The Smart Teen's Guide to the Mysteries of Her Body by Toni Weschler

I would love it if my daughters would want a party with their friends but I don't think they will. A party with just mom might go over better with them.

[SusanElizabeth]

Originally Posted by mtiger

You may also want to give your daughter some input. Mine is totally cool with the whole menstrual situation, but said that she would not want to have a party centered on it.

Same here. I have two daughters who have both gotten their periods, and both have said they would be mortified (if I had a party for them) I also don't know of any girls from other families who have had these parties. Maybe it's where we live???(outside of NYC)

[SequoiasMom]

well, you could let her throw a party for her friends, and just you and she know what the party was really for. I mean, I don't think teenage girls would really want to participate in a "period party" but I could be wrong. I personally love the idea of having a celebration, totally embracing her venture into being a woman.
She can choose to tell her friends if she wants.
You could even theme the party as a more adult party. You could make "mock-tails" instead of cocktails, just serve colorful non-alcoholic drinks out of martini glasses, let them do "make-overs" maybe wear dresses, or dress nicely to the party, make it a classy ladies event, kindof an interpretation of adulthood, for fun.
Of course, I have no idea if any of this is feasible, if you don't let your daughter touch make-up, or if you would think they would get inappropriate ideas from the party. But, it could be a great way to represent this change in a subtle manner.

[mtiger]

Originally Posted by SamuraiMom

When our neighbors dd got her period the mom's threw a little party, just for her close friends. I thought this was cute, though other's may not. Her mom made little "pads" from sponge cake and then spooned strawberries on them to signify the menstruation.

Yeah, I don't think that's cute at all, personally. Sort of akin to spooning custard on a sheet cake to celebrate my boy's first wet dream. I mean.... really.

[Ackray]

Originally Posted by mtiger

Yeah, I don't think that's cute at all, personally. Sort of akin to spooning custard on a sheet cake to celebrate my boy's first wet dream. I mean.... really.

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I would have been mortified if my mother threw me a party for getting my period. Do people really do this!?

[CaraNicole]

Originally Posted by mtiger

Yeah, I don't think that's cute at all, personally. Sort of akin to spooning custard on a sheet cake to celebrate my boy's first wet dream. I mean.... really.

Originally Posted by Ackray

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I would have been mortified if my mother threw me a party for getting my period. Do people really do this!?

: to all of the above.

[Dunkles]

Originally Posted by CaraNicole

: to all of the above.

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[pumpkinyum]

Originally Posted by SamuraiMom

When our neighbors dd got her period the mom's threw a little party, just for her close friends. I thought this was cute, though other's may not. Her mom made little "pads" from sponge cake and then spooned strawberries on them to signify the menstruation. I think we did other things that were life change related, but that is the one thing I remember. I think throwing a little party is a great idea, it's a huge day to remember, so why not celebrate! Even if it is just the 2 of you as well, she'll remember it clearly in a positive way.

Excuse me one moment. :Puke


Strawberry shortcake shall never be the same.

[flutterbylvr]

Thank you for all of your wonderful ideas and input. Although I got some reactions that I was not intending for, I am lmao at the thoughts of some of these things. I was thinking for something more along the lines of her, her best friend, who she already told and myself going to do something. I am not sure what, I think we decided on pedicures, but not a all and out PARTY per say. Not to mention, what the heck would her dad think????? Still lmao, everyone. Hugs.

[SusanElizabeth]

I find myself thinking about this thread.....I've seen this question on here several times before. I would love to hear from a woman whose mother did "celebrate" her first period in some form and what her reaction was to it.

I'm wondering if it's a "cultural" thing with me. I was raised to think that some things were private, and not discussed in a public way. I find, for example, that my husband's family will make a lot of jokes about sex at the dinner table, and that would be a real no-no with my family (He is from a completely different ethnic background than I am). And likewise, the whole "celebrating body changes" thing is difficult for me to imagine. I asked my daughters and they had the same reaction.

[Ann-Marita]

Here are some old threads with great information about having a first menstration party (aka "red party"):

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=371164

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=335054

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=131026

Some really good information there!

[NaomiMcC]

Originally Posted by mtiger

Yeah, I don't think that's cute at all, personally. Sort of akin to spooning custard on a sheet cake to celebrate my boy's first wet dream. I mean.... really.

That is the funniest thing I have read on the 'net in months!! I may use that as a signature line somewhere....:

[jennnk]

My dad's second wife took me to Victoria's Secret & got me my first matching bra & panty set. Of course, I was still flat as a board & the bra didn't fit for a few years and my mom was PISSED that this woman had the nerve to do something like that (not to mention my mom thought it was totally inappropriate for a 13-year-old to have stuff from VS in the first place), but that's what was done for me. To be honest, I wish nothing had been done at all. I hate blood, no matter where it comes out of me - knee, finger, vagina, doesn't matter, it's all blood, and I really didn't want to acknowledge that I was bleeding at all, ever. Now, your daughter seems willing to do something special, and that's cool. In that case, I'd do something "grown up" like pedicure day and maybe a makeover at the MAC counter or something (demos are free! bonus!). Serve her favorite foods for dinner & dessert, get her a pretty necklace or pair of earrings, and remind her that no matter how old she gets, she'll always be your baby

[Sandrine]

I have 3 dds, so, I want to celebrate with them but i'll won't do something big.

My dds ears are not pierces, so if they want they can when they get their first period. Then i thought of takinig them out for lunch at a special restaurant just them and me. Also, maybe go for a pedicure/manicure if they want. Doing a whole girl's day with them.