How do I throw a "I became a woman" Party? - Page 3

[magikalmoon]

I have tried to do research and find sites and groups for mothers raising daughters and got very frustrated because there is nothing. So I started a group for mothers raising daughters, step-daughter, adopted or foster daughters to come and chat, laugh, cry, ask and tell the joys, challenges, heartaches and tears of raising our daughters. We talk about everything...puberty, school, friends, peer-pressure, sex, drugs, alcohol and so many other topics related. Share stories. Share resources...what ever is needed. I did this and is dedicated to my dd who is 9 and educating her as I never was. So please, fix a cup of tea or coffee, don't forget the chocolate, pull up a comfortable chair or some pillows and stay awhile...

[url]www.groups.yahoo.com/group/MothersRaisingDaughters

[ThreeBeans]

Originally Posted by pumpkinyum

Excuse me one moment. :Puke


Strawberry shortcake shall never be the same.

Is your bucket big enough for more puke :


Seriously, people :

[ThreeBeans]

Originally Posted by mimim

I think the idea is that if you treat it as a positive thing it seems more like a positive experience. If we act as if we are "cursed" by menstruation, then it's going to seem like an awful experience. If we act like it's a productive part of life, it's going to be easier to tolerate and seem like less of a nuisance.

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No amount of airy-fairy positive thinking would have made my period a 'positive experience' when I was a kid. It was sheer hell. Agonizing pain month after month, vomiting, fainting, missing school, the mess, the smell, the embarassing leaks.

Granted, not everyone has that bad of an experience, but let's not belittle people for not wanting to celebrate what was really quite hellish.

[karina5]

Originally Posted by ThreeBeans

No amount of airy-fairy positive thinking would have made my period a 'positive experience' when I was a kid. It was sheer hell. Agonizing pain month after month, vomiting, fainting, missing school, the mess, the smell, the embarassing leaks.

Granted, not everyone has that bad of an experience, but let's not belittle people for not wanting to celebrate what was really quite hellish.

LOL at "airy-fairy positive thinking"

[kafka]

I'd suggest taking the day off from work/school and going out to lunch together at a really nice place. The party idea sounds ghastly. My aunt did this to my cousin (my age) and I can honestly say she never recovered from the mortification.lol

ETA: lol...Just saw you decided upon basically the same idea. Have fun!

[angelcat]

Originally Posted by pumpkinyum

Excuse me one moment. :Puke


Strawberry shortcake shall never be the same.

My thought's exactly. If my mom had done that, I'd have had to find all new firends after that. Not. cute.at.all.


I'd say just go out for a special lunch, if she's into it. And NO illustrative foods!

[laoxinat]

Red Flower

Red Flower is a book for girls experiencing or coming up on menarche. It has some great positive info about menarche and such. Though I must say I haven't read it in a while....
Puking aside, : and : I have to agree with PPs, my daughter just looked at me (at the suggestion she might consider a menarche celebration) and said "Uh, no....but thanks for thinking of me". At this age girls generally are mortified at the thought of people both knowing they have gotten OR have NOT yet gotten their periods!!! Pretty much anything regarding menstruation is just WAYYYYY TMI....
OTOH, my now 16 y o DD is totally without shame and happily discusses periods, etc in the presence of her DSF, who is also without shame. Thank Earth! At first it freaked me out a little, but the fact that neither is bothered by the discussion, and in fact welcome the chance to gain understanding made me relax about the whole thing.
laoxinat

[CaraNicole]

Originally Posted by ThreeBeans

No amount of airy-fairy positive thinking would have made my period a 'positive experience' when I was a kid. It was sheer hell. Agonizing pain month after month, vomiting, fainting, missing school, the mess, the smell, the embarassing leaks.

Granted, not everyone has that bad of an experience, but let's not belittle people for not wanting to celebrate what was really quite hellish.

I've had the same problem EVERY month and no amount of "positive thinking" would change the dread I had every month. Not to mention having to plan off days (when I worked) around my period and explaining to male managers, No I can't come in that day I'll be sick. Which of course always lead to "How do you know your going to be sick 2 weeks from now"