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Who's going to be surprised? Who's finding out?

post #1 of 37
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The gender, that is!

We won't be doing any US so we'll find out sometime in April.
post #2 of 37
Yeah... I'm totally finding out. I hate surprises. :
Hubby wants a girl. Grandparents (who don't know yet, and won't until the end of this trimester if we have anything to do with it) want a girl. I want... a baby. I'm not too picky. You usually have the US around week 20, right?
What does everyone want? If you havea prefernce.
post #3 of 37
We have no plans either way, by which I mean that if for some reason we have to have an ultrasound and at that ultrasound they can tell us the sex, we'd be interested to know it. This happened with #2; I had bleeding at 25 and 26 weeks (scared the banoonoos out of me) and an ultrasound showed a low-lying placenta to be the totally not-dangerous cause (whew). So we found out #2 was a boy.

With #3 we had an ultrasound very early to date her, because she was conceived on the first PP egg and we had no idea how long I'd been pregnant. No more u/s after that one, so we found out her sex on her birthday.
post #4 of 37
I want to be surprised, but DH doesn't.
post #5 of 37
I'm not wanting to find out until baby is born. Last time I didn't want to find out but I got out voted and gave in. I hope I can be strong this time.

I have the feeling in the back of my head that it is going to be a girl. In dh's family leading to him they have all had 2 boys. His great grandparents had two boys his grandparents had 2 boys and his parents had two boys. It's time to break the chain with us. BIL can have the two boys. (he has no kids and doesn't want kids)

And Dh and I kinda would like a girl this time. I'd be happy either way, but I want another little girl!!
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post #7 of 37
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I don't see any point in finding out early so I won't be. Last time I was so expecting a boy and when the doc said it was a girl I started laughing.
This happened to me too! I have the u/s photo with two arrows pointing to a "penis" and all!!

Well she is the prettiest little boy I've ever seen

Oh And I had a whole 5x-5x closet filled with little boy stuff and no girl stuff!
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post #9 of 37
I probably won't have a u/s so I guess I'll be surprised. Though I'm really tempted to find out.

We didn't find out with DD either (no U/S). Always thought she was a girl though.
post #10 of 37
We aren't planning on getting an u/s so we'll be surprised, though we both think its a boy.
post #11 of 37
We're not planning any ultrasounds and hope to be surprised in April.
post #12 of 37
I'm a major planner, so we'll be finding out. Really hoping for a boy.
post #13 of 37
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I'm a major planner, so we'll be finding out. Really hoping for a boy.
Yay! Another planner! Let's hope our USs are accurate!
post #14 of 37
I originally thought I wanted to be surprised, but now I realize that if I don't find out the sex, how will I know whether I can knit dresses or not? So I'm dithering.
post #15 of 37
I am hoping & praying for a fourth girl, but we won't be finding out ahead of time. I do want a u/s to verify dates, but beyond that I don't know if I'll have another one.
post #16 of 37
We didn't find out the first time, and don't want to this time. My joking reason was: The only thing that it will change is that everything at the shower would be the same color, and there's about a 50-50 chance it would be pink... which is NOT my favorite. ;-)

The deeper reason, though, is that we have very, VERY specific cultural notions of personality etc. tied to gender, and I wanted to minimize how much I thought I knew this person before I actually met them. (There's a really interesting experiment I learned about in college that made me realize this... they found that people actually *saw* newborn babies differently depending on what they thought the gender was.)

Not knowing drives my mother nuts! But she has to live with it.

When DH and I were dating, we found out we both wanted two kids, boy and a girl, boy first. We're halfway there, so we're hoping for a girl. Last time, though, everyone thought DS was going to be a girl, including me... so when DH said "We have a beautiful baby boy!" my thought was, "Huh! Imagine that." Then I saw him, and said, "Who are *you?*" because, knowing me and DH, I thought our baby would start off blonde haired (or bald) and blue-eyed, however s/he turned out later... and here was this ball of reddish-brown hair and gunmetal grey eyes looking at me. Goes to show, they're full of suprises!
post #17 of 37
I don't want to find out. DH does, but has stopped mentioning it. Even though we found out with DD, knowing how often the ultrasound predictions are wrong, we still did everything in gender neutral colors. So, I figure if I don't trust the prediction, why even bother?

I have absolutely no preference. I dreamed of a sister growing up, and I would love to have two daughters who share the sister bond that I never had. However, this is almost certaintly our last child, and I would love to have the experience of raising a boy. Plus, I think my DH would make the most amazing role model to show a boy what being a good man is all about.
post #18 of 37
I don't think we will be finding out- I don't plan on having any ultrasounds. However, if it is very important to my DH to find out, I would be willing to- that would be one little concession I could make to him since he has not really had any say in the birth choices I've made. So if he is adamant, and excited about it, I guess we might.

I'd love a girl, but I have a very awesome boy's name picked out that I'd love to use, so I guess I'll take either!
post #19 of 37
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I'd love a girl, but I have a very awesome boy's name picked out that I'd love to use, so I guess I'll take either!
OK, now - no fair! After building it up like that, spill! What's the "very awesome" name? :
post #20 of 37
On the one hand we would like to wait to find out, on the other I would like to know for the sake of my 4yo. He has been telling us for over six months now that he is going to have a baby sister.

Out of the blue one day he told us this. That he can hear her. She is eating and growing and growing and then she will be in my tummy. But she isn't yet, he said. We just kind of said, Oh, really? Months later he brought it up again. Most recently was when he was looking at a baby pic of his little brother. He saw the baby pajamas and asked me where they were. I told him they were in a box and he said that when his sister came she could wear them. She totally exists for him.

So I am totally expecting a girl, but if it is a boy would it be best to find out early to ease his disappointment? I am worried that when he finds out I am pregnant he will latch onto it being his sister, and what if it isn't?
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