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I wouldn't know where to look for the new Duggar thread...
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I wouldn't know where to look for the new Duggar thread...
Well, I am guessing this is the one, as I don't know of any other. But beware! It is ONLY 17 PAGES long and ONLY has over 500 posts!

Michelle Duggar has 17th Child
post #23 of 147
Thread Starter 
I wouldn't bother, ladies. Page one has lots of dizzy smileys, page 33 (the last one as of the time of my post) is about racism at BJU or somewhere :

Which does, however, raise an interesting question. I was told by a mother of nine (big age gaps- there's twenty-odd years between the oldest and youngest) that she tries to actively discourage her toddler from visiting and playing with his older siblings when they come home after school because they've been working hard all day and she doesn't want them to feel responsible for him. Am I out of line for not actively directing Skye more at this time? Generally, she does what she feels like doing just like she does the rest of the day : Sometimes it's with me, sometimes it's with her brothers or grandad, sometimes it's by herself. Problem?
post #24 of 147
Flapjack, I don't see it as a problem at all. My "little ones" miss the "big ones" when they are at school. They all seem happy to see each other when they come home. I wouldn't put the older kids in charge of the little ones, or anything like that, but I think it is nice if they want to play together, talk about their day, share a snack, etc. My kids are all close in age though - 7,6,3, and 1 so perhaps that makes a difference.
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Anyone else having fun on the new Duggar thread?
A blast :
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Please remember not to link to or negatively reference other threads. /mod hat off
post #27 of 147
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Generally, she does what she feels like doing just like she does the rest of the day : Sometimes it's with me, sometimes it's with her brothers or grandad, sometimes it's by herself. Problem?
My four year old does what she wants most of the day. I am so bad I don't even make her clean up after herself. I used to be a lot better about this but as I have gotten older I guess I am lazy. She does have minor chores like feeding the fish and I do try to get some homeschool and reading in with her each day but it is not really scheduled. She is a super easy child though who can stay busy for hours playing games that she has made up. She likes to play with her sibs too or go places with other kids. She just seems to do fine without a lot of structure. Some of my other kids couldn't have done this at her age.
post #28 of 147
I wanted to join all of you. I subbed to the last thread but never posted. Baby #5 just joined our family 2 weeks ago. Everyone seems to be adjusting quite well. My dds are just smitten with their new little sister. My boys are more into making sure that *I* am taken care of(they are big mama's boys : )

I sure can't complain!
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A blast :
It really is, isn't it?
post #30 of 147
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I wanted to join all of you. I subbed to the last thread but never posted. Baby #5 just joined our family 2 weeks ago. Everyone seems to be adjusting quite well. My dds are just smitten with their new little sister. My boys are more into making sure that *I* am taken care of(they are big mama's boys : )

I sure can't complain!
Congratulations on your newest baby! Take a big whiff for me! They smell SO SWEET at that age. Nothing else seems to smell so sweet. :
post #31 of 147
Subbing here too. I saw last month's thread but never got a chance to read much or respond as we were on vacation most of the month. So I guess I'm "new" here Our stats are in my sig.

The only thing hard about doing a 3+ week road trip with many kids is the amount of looks/comments on how we must "be better" people than the rest of society for even attempting it. : It went well and we had lots of fun otherwise.

The best comment we got was from a good friend of mine who we went to visit: "I'm so glad you guys took the big trip and came out here. It is pretty inspiring too because I have one friend here who freaks out when she has to take her baby on a 1 hour drive. Makes it sound like a huge ordeal...".

Congrats to all the new babies being born. That's the best thing thing about groups of big families - there's always new babies to love!
post #32 of 147
I've been meaning to ask, what do you all do about birthdays for your kids? We have gotten into the routine of having a family dinner celebration (inviting the grandparents) and a friend party. With 4 kids, and birthdays that are spread out, it seems like I am constantly going nuts organizing parties. Also, since we have 4 in attendance already, that limits the number of kids we can invite (to save my sanity & financially). Any ideas?
post #33 of 147
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I've been meaning to ask, what do you all do about birthdays for your kids? We have gotten into the routine of having a family dinner celebration (inviting the grandparents) and a friend party. With 4 kids, and birthdays that are spread out, it seems like I am constantly going nuts organizing parties. Also, since we have 4 in attendance already, that limits the number of kids we can invite (to save my sanity & financially). Any ideas?
We have 'Birthday Seasons'. Mid-March to Mid-April we have four birthdays and from late October to late November we have four birthdays, with two odds, on in June and one in August.

We do not have big 'invite everyone over' birthdays as they would all be within days or weeks of each other.

So, for our birthdays, we have a family celebrations that routinely includes decorations (but not always), a special cake, and gifts. The Birthday person does not have to do chores that day, they get to pick out their favorite meals for lunch and supper, and they get to pick out a family game or movie for the night. So it kinda lasts all day long.
post #34 of 147
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We have 'Birthday Seasons'. Mid-March to Mid-April we have four birthdays and from late October to late November we have four birthdays, with two odds, on in June and one in August.
That sounds like a great idea!

Birthdays here are fairly low-key. They get a say in dinner, they get the birthday plate, we bake a cake (we also bake cakes for namedays and baptismal anniversaries. There's a whole lotta cake eating going on here, LOL!) and we have a couple presents.

So far, we have only done parties for the first and seventh birthday. Probably we'll do them for the 13th (welcome to the teens!), 16th (sweet 16), and 18th birthdays, too.
post #35 of 147
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I've been meaning to ask, what do you all do about birthdays for your kids? We have gotten into the routine of having a family dinner celebration (inviting the grandparents) and a friend party. With 4 kids, and birthdays that are spread out, it seems like I am constantly going nuts organizing parties. Also, since we have 4 in attendance already, that limits the number of kids we can invite (to save my sanity & financially). Any ideas?
We alternate the big friends-included birthday celebrations. As you can see in my sig, I have three in Feb and one in May so something has to be done to lighten the Feb load. So the Feb 3 and Feb 28 kids get a party one year and the Feb 10 and May 9 kids get a party the next year. I've also limited big friend-included birthdays for 12 and under so eventually I can phase them out. I think after 12 I'd allow a friend or two to sleep over or go to the movies on the "party" year. But that is purely hypothesis at this point. We'll see what happens when we get there!

On off years, the birthday kid gets to pick the meal and special birthday activity to be done by family only (such as bowling, mini golf, movie, game etc).

I hear you about siblings at the party. Who needs to have friends over, really - we've got our own party in a box!
post #36 of 147
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Isaac's never had a proper birthday party His first, I was living in the womans refuge, got the keys to a flat of my own and broke my foot. His second, we all had hand foot and mouth and had to cancel, and all subsequent years I've been too disorganised to get the invitations out before the end of term This year, we have almost no money for the month but he's desperate for a party, so he has to wait until September.

I feel like a really bad mummy admitting this :

I don't think Alex is getting a proper birthday party this year, but we are planning on taking the whole family up to Alton Towers for the weekend of the birthdays. I have two within three days, and seven years apart, so this is going to be interesting for a few years.
post #37 of 147
Aaargh I had a similarly poor birthday post for you then the baby pressed a key and its gone!

Me and 3 are off to lunch with a friend (and taking food with us so as not to eat her out of house and home!) so I'll re-post it later.
post #38 of 147
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Me and 3 are off to lunch with a friend (and taking food with us so as not to eat her out of house and home!) so I'll re-post it later.
This made me think of a question. Do you feel guilty going to friends or families houses for things like BBQ's and parties and bringing all your kids? Everyone else in our family has one or two kids and then we show up with our 4 (who feel like 12) and they seem to take over. I think about all the food they are eating and just the space and attention they are taking up and wondering of others are bothered by it.
post #39 of 147
It doesn't bother me....if it bothers other people then they just shouldn't invite us. I find that we end up doing a lot of entertaining for this reason though....people would rather my kids mess up my house than theirs. I enjoy myself more at parties at my house anyway because I'm more relaxed about the kids.


As far at b-day parties go I'm really going to be in a fix next year. The new baby was born in July, and we already had 2 other children born in July. Its going to be chaos next year.

Normally we have a special dinner and the birthday child gets to pick an activity. Most of them usually want to go to Chuck E. Cheese which works really well. Our extended family usually wants to join us and everyone just buys their own pizza. The kids get to have a great time and there isn't a big mess to clean up.
post #40 of 147
I do think about the food issue but also the "take over the place issue".

My mil actually asked us not to come visit this spring when others did so that she could visit with them and not be so consumed by the children wanting her attention. I totally understood, we didn't go but we also haven't rescheduled yet. (It is over 11 hours by car w/o stops.)

Funny thing is everyone else (DH's sister and brother) both came here son after to visit with us and talk about how w/o us there they were really put to work.

As to food, I usually bring some with when we go somewhere. I intend to share it with everyone, others do the same. In my circle it seems most families have 4 so it isn't such a big deal. It does however mean that having 2 other moms over for a morning off of the usual or what ever can mean quite the houseful.

In re-reading this it seems my friends understand but my family is another can of worms.
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