Originally Posted by AngieB
This made me think of a question. Do you feel guilty going to friends or families houses for things like BBQ's and parties and bringing all your kids? Everyone else in our family has one or two kids and then we show up with our 4 (who feel like 12) and they seem to take over. I think about all the food they are eating and just the space and attention they are taking up and wondering of others are bothered by it.
I don't worry about the food. But then again I usually bring our own food to contribute. And I usually make it something I am sure my children will eat because at times they will not have something that is child friendly. And when we do bring food, I always bring enough to fee us and more, so they can never say we ate all their food.
When we go to church pot lucks, I usually make two large casserole dishes of something and it is usually the first things gone.
I do feel the space issue when it is in small area, like when my Mom insisted that we all come to her place for a Christmas party.
: She had a small one bedroom apartment. And of course it was freezing rain outside, so I would not be able to send the children out for a while. AND she invited my three brothers with their combined six children, my uncle, and her friend.
Talk about us taking up space! I tried to warn her that it was not a good idea to have the party there, but she insisted. So we just planned to stay a very short time. If there is outside space, I don't even usually think about it because my children love outside.
Originally Posted by GinaRae
I would rather she act like a loving GRANDMA over gifts any day!!!!! But that's not in the cards
This is what I can not bet my Mom or my MIL to understand. Sure children love gifts, but simple dollar store gifts or something hand made, even a candy bar would be just as good as something that costs a lot. AND if they would just be the 'Fuzzy Loving Grandmas' that are all warm and cozy like a snuggly bear and smell like fresh baked apple pies and always had a warm smile and soft heart, that is all the children really want.
What they usually get is a lecture on everything Mom and Dad are not teaching them right, a comment or two (or three) on how expensive it is to buy them gifts and how many grandchildren they have to buy for and how much of their money is having to go to us because we have such a large family, and how much they are not learning because they are homeschooled.