Too Many Kids!!

[bdavis337]

We all know the newborn stage is intense, but WOW. I can't be alone in my inability to find time to even pee without having a child on me.....Now that there are THREE kids in my life, I can barely even breathe without someone hanging on me, begging for something, crying, whining, needing me, wanting my attention....it's nice to be needed and loved but wow. WOW. The intensity of how MUCH NEED is overwhelming. Seriously demandingly overwhelming. I feel right now like I don't have enough to give even 1 child, much less all 3.

[phathui5]

I know exactly what you're talking about. Since I've had ds3, I've missed a meal most days (breakfast or lunch) because in the midst of taking care of the baby and feeding the older three, I end up not having time to eat myself. I managed to scarf down breakfast this morning, but I had to fight ds2 for it, because he finished his and decided he wanted mine.

It seems like I could wash diapers every day. I'm using disposables that someone gave us in order to avoid doing laundry. I think I need a bigger diaper pail, because with two in diapers again we fill the thing up in a day and a half.

And there's so much laundry. I thought I had a lot of laundry before, but with ds3 making baby messes (me leaking milk, him spitting up or peeing/pooping while I change him) and everyone else's laundry, it's taing over my life.

Every time I turn around either someone wants something, or someone has made a mess for me to clean up. I'm only getting to come on MDC now because I'm letting the big two play video games.

[Juvysen]

It's really such a change for me too, and I've only got two, now. I hope things start getting better soon for all of us in this situation. My toddler seems to demand about twice as much attention from before, so I hope she gets used to this sibling thing soon and can go back to being my happy little girl.

[Panthira]

I'm feeling waaaaaay overwhelmed and I haven't even been alone with them yet. I can relate to what you're saying. OMG. My DH has been taking care of the 2 older boys and he says it feels like he just works, works, works and sleeps. Rinse, repeat.

[ahdoula]

I am right there with you with dc#3. DH hasn't even gone back to work yet and I am anticipating how much harder it will be on Monday than it has been the last week as I have re entered real life from my baby moon. They have been needier and they hover over me and the baby all the time. Seriously, they seem to always wanted to be cooing and poking at her. Really, she can't stand all the stimulation. She wants to be left alone with ME as much as I want to be left alone with HER! I figure I get it figured all out in time. The kids will lose interest in the novelty of a new baby and I'll readjust my standard of mothering to something that fits our new unit of 5. I am a very organizing person, I just need to re organize this family!

[sleet76]

Yes! And, sadly, that's all i have time to write right now...

[soybeansmama]

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and I only have TWO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am terrified about being alone with them. Thanks goodness Atticus seems to be a much more peaceful baby than Sawyer was. There are rinsed poo cloth dipes in the tub, dirty dishes in the sink, and a bunch of crap stuck to my feet from walking on the dirty kitchen floor. My mom comes over to help wih Sawyer so I can at least rest my aching, vagina but I am watching the dust and dog hair collect on things and I might loose my marbles. My mw told me to stay in bed for a week...do people really do that!?

My son is having issues with daddy right now. Mommy has to do EVERYTHING. From pouring his bowl of cereal to turning on the TV. When my husband comes through the front door my son says things like: "I want you to go back to work, I don't like you!" I am still unsure about how to handle that...

Anyway, My mom (who raised 4 without too many catastrophes) assures me that you just adjust in time. Waiting for the overwhelming feeling to subside

[bdavis337]

I only have time to write this b/c Jeffers is napping, T is still outside playing and I just put MT down for his nap.

Being alone with them is actually easier for me than having someone here to help, b/c when I'm alone I can just GET IT DONE. When Tom is here, he waits for me to ask him to do xyz, which infuriates me. Plus, MT gets all worked up with both parents home, he always has, so the noise and crazy level just gets amped up to unbearable.

I swear though - if they TOUCH ME one more time today I might explode.

[Juvysen]

Originally Posted by bdavis337

Being alone with them is actually easier for me than having someone here to help, b/c when I'm alone I can just GET IT DONE. When Tom is here, he waits for me to ask him to do xyz, which infuriates me. Plus, MT gets all worked up with both parents home, he always has, so the noise and crazy level just gets amped up to unbearable.

I know what you mean... my mom keeps over-helping and asking me too many things or doing things differently than I like and it's making me crazy: At the same time, though, I'm terrified of being alone w/my kids.

[BAU3]

Today w e were all sitting outside.. 6 yo holding baby.. we were getting ready to go somewhere... loading car.. in and out of house.. at one point i ctch a glance at 6 yo in neighbors yard playing... dads loading car... wait a minute..... where is the baby?????.... in the chair.. in the backyard.. blanket gently drapred over her head to keep the sun out of her eyes....
Innocent looking 6 yo.."what?? she's fine....."

[imgr8ful]

dude, i hear ya! 3 is a lot more than 2! i was on my own for the first time last week - it wasn't too bad, just so busy! and babe doesn't appreciate being put down too often - thank god for the moby wrap!

i am however terrified of packing everyopne up to take ds1 to preschool starting monday...