Originally Posted by nonconformnmom
JennnK - I wasn't referring to kids rebelling when I said "whole new ballgame". I was referring to the influence peers have over our kids beyond our ability as parents to shield or really even to influence. They *will* go the mall; they *will* see the clothes their friends wear, and they *will* develop their own ideas about what is appropriate and appealing - and many of those ideas will be shaped by marketing and advertising.
I figured that's what you meant. And that's what I meant by my mom putting her foot down. I didn't
go to the mall without my mom, wasn't allowed to until I was 16, and I only ever got $10 (IF I got money at all) when I went and most of that was spent on food (slice of pizza, drink, and a cinnabon, mmmmmm cinnabon). My mom didn't care if other girls were wearing short skirts and "90% bitch, 10% princess" shirts, she made it perfectly clear that she thought those things were trashy (her words, not mine), and even more clear that no daughter of hers would be allowed out of the house wearing something ridiculous (again, her words). Of course, my mom once pointed out a kid with a green mohawk and told me "If you ever come home with your hair like THAT, I will shave. your. head.
" I was three. And when my friend pierced her nipple, my mother said, "If you ever do that, I will tear it out myself." My mother doesn't understand marketing or advertising, but she does understand what she believes, and she believes that this type of "fashion" that we're discussing in this thread is unacceptable and trashy and makes people judge you as less than you are. She believes the same of torn jeans, stained shirts, and clothes that don't fit properly, and constantly gave my male friends hell when they came over and their underpants were showing. She even pants'd my boyfriend once, then told him he should stop wearing his dad's clothes. He wore a belt every time he came over, even after we broke up, still does to this day.