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post #101 of 1560
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Originally Posted by mamefati28 View Post
When do you want to come over?
I miss my mother in laws food more than anything...the only thing I craved while pregnant with my DS Fallou.
I can do yassa and mafe, my husband can do supakandja, but we have a hard time with chieb u jen...
gosh, i wish you were closer...
awww, habibti, i wish i were closer too! i love senegalese food and that was the only thing i craved right after i had DS, too. i had an unplanned unasssisted homebirth but was rushed to the hospital after the baby was born because of hemorrhaging. the only thing i wanted once i got to my room was a big bowl of mafe. sure enough, an hour later, our senegalese friend and his family showed up with a huge bowl of mafe and it was sooooooo good. i already have my friends on notice of what i want to eat after this upcoming birth, insha'allah
post #102 of 1560
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Originally Posted by Liquesce View Post
Personally I think being strict in our religion embraces rather than requires an exception regarding being crunchy, food growing (check the hadith about planting the seed from which a person or animal eats being counted as a charity, you know?), etc, etc, etc, and nearly necessitates being down-to-earth goofballs trying to be the best that we can be. But maybe that's just me. :

I agree. Between the food growing, the 2 years of breastfeeding, caring about the environment, eating good and clean food, etc. I think Islam can be very crunchy.
post #103 of 1560
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I agree. Between the food growing, the 2 years of breastfeeding, caring about the environment, eating good and clean food, etc. I think Islam can be very crunchy.
ITA and lets not forget about the gentle discipline and the natural remodies such as honey that the Quran talks about!

Islam is awesome!!
post #104 of 1560
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Originally Posted by din4 View Post
Assalamu 'alaikum, Sisters

My name is Dina and I live in Northern California. I gave birth this March to a beautiful baby girl, called Nakia, Alhamdulillah. I'm originally from Indonesia, but have been living in the US since 1998. I married to a wonderful convert/revert Caucasian American since 2000, Alhamdulillah.

I'm an entrepreneur wannabe and like photography. I attend sister halaqah once a week and I really enjoy it.

I'm really happy to find and joined this tribe...
Welcome Dina and congratulations on the birth of your beautiful girl! I have a few wonderful friends who are from Indonesia. So what are you an entrepeneur in?
post #105 of 1560
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Originally Posted by arizona_umi View Post
masha'allah mame fati, it seems as though you have had some powerful experiences in senegal. i love the country and the people and am grateful that i have been able to maintain bonds with friends from there for a long time.

i do cook some dishes from senegal regularly. my husband is from ghana but loves senegalese food. i make yassa regularly and also love to cook mafe, supakanje, thiou, and whip up bissap when we have the leaves. i know how to make benachin, which is a gambian equivalent to thieboudienne, but i need to master my thieboudienne making skills i also like making jollof rice and some desserts from senegal like thiakry.
Asalamu Alaikum Angelica -

I am also from Michigan. I lived in Southfield for a while and then moved to Lansing and just recently (2 weeks ago) moved to Rochester New York.

My DH is from Nigeria. He is Yoruba. I know a couple of people from Ghana (Hausa) and they eat food similar to Nigerians. Like jollof rice and moi moi. I know how to make moi moi and stew but that is about it.

I understand what you mean about identifying with that culture more than your own (if I understand you right). I feel this way as well. Since I have just moved, I have been looking for some Nigerians at the masjid to befriend. LOL
post #106 of 1560
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i think you are SO right i guess a lot of people just have this perception that a strict muslim and an earthy person are two opposite types of people. i don't personally think that but i get flak from people who do. to be honest, some of the crunchiest muslims i know are also some of the most diligent adherents to the deen.
Oh, I did know what you meant about the muslim perceptions thing. Like, since I've been back in the U.S. sometimes when I'm walking down the street I suddenly think to myself something like "oh my god, I'm not smiling! I'm feeding the perception of muslims as being stand-offish and somber! Must smile!" :
post #107 of 1560
Welcome Dina!!! So glad you are here and congratulations on your little one, what a blessing.
arizona umi- lovin that traditional description of yourself! I am right behind you, somehow though I love having my feet on the ground and my head in the clouds. Trying to keep it all balanced and heart centered!
And how did all these west africans end up in arizona?
How is NY Mama Amina? I didnt realize your husband was yoruba, you should be able to find a lot of community there. Hope you are settling in.
Liquesce- you summed it up with the "gotta smile", that gave me a good laugh!
I am assuming that a lot of you mommas would also join in on the multi-cultural sub-forum that should be coming soon to MDC.
Any of you wanting to move back home or to DP homeland at some point on the future?
I would love to move back to Senegal with DH and live with his family. I have major issues and anxiety about raising my DS here in the states, especially considering that he is of mixed roots. I sum it up as my "inside/outside" battle. Here he has a local Health food store, (sorta clean water), access to good medical care, choices with education, etc.....all outside things...
In Senegal he has strong family ties, values, beliefs, support, all the most important internal makings of a good, strong, loving person...am i making sense? Anyone else who can relate or at least throw some perspective my way?
Jam ak hawal
Peace and blessings
Also, has anyone read any of the poetry of the female sufi Rabia?
post #108 of 1560

As salaamu alaykum - new here

As salaamu alaykum,

I was so happy to see this thread, I have been reading the boards on Mothering for a while. Well, about me - I have a lovely, 3 year old (almost 4) daughter that is the love and light of my life. Recently, I got remarried to my dear husband over the summer. We live in Northern VA and I teach at an Islamic school. MashaAllah, there is a large and active Muslim community here, I am involved in a halaqa/community group called SISTERS. I lived in the Bay Area (Oakland/Berkeley) in college and for some time beyond that - I miss how conducive that area was to living in a crunchy, organic, holistic, sustainable way. It was wonderful being so close to Zaytuna Institute also. It's nice to see West Africa represented on this board, I'm from the East side actually (Eritrea), but I was born and raised in the US. Sufism really resonated with me when I was younger,and perhaps this was influenced by living in the Bay...then I was previously married to a Salafi...over the years, the labels don't really matter, traditional Islam (and scholarship) and tawassuf are encompassed in all these paths. May Allah swt bless and reward you all!
post #109 of 1560
Asalaamu alaykum to you violet lotus!!!
So glad to have you here as well. We are definently forming a beautiful tribe of sisters with all kinds of backgrounds leading to the one!

Do any of you have any knowledge regarding a limit to the # of years or is there one regarding how long to bf your baby in the Quran or hadiths? In my DH country they wean at 2 and I wasnt sure if this was from Islam or their traditional culture. Thanks!
post #110 of 1560
Ok, since I am lurking in this thread, I thought I would post a bit of a hello!

I am not a Muslim (or a mama), but I am interested in Islam. I have had several Muslim friends and I really like some of their perspectives, especially when compared to Christian perspectives on the same issue. I am lurking to hopefully learn more, and so far its working. I am always having to look up words you use (wikipedia is my friend) and am enjoying the conversation.

I am very excited that my city just got its first Mosque, and I would love to go there one day. I am very worried about this though, as I am an infidel with no plans to convert, and I worry that they would not be pleased to have me there. I just want to learn. Its so nice to see. We just got our first Synogogue a few years ago, and we are still 98% white, 93% Christian, etc. I like the little steps towards diversity I see.

Anyway, hello! Hopefully no one minds my shameless lurking.
post #111 of 1560
Mama Aminah, my husband speaks Hausa! the village he is from in Ghana was started by Nigerian expats although it is populated by various west african muslims. my husband's primary ethnic group is Dogon (Mali) with some Fulani and Ga thrown in for good measure

Mame Fati, Islam recommends that a woman breastfeed for at least 2 years. there is a verse in the Qur'an but i have to find it. there is no punishment on weaning before 2, but there are blessings in nursing your child. i'll ask DH for the exact verse if i can't find it.

and i think the africans have arrived in arizona because of the weather and the good jobs. plus the landscape looks a lot like many places in west africa. there is a large contingent of east africans here as well, including somalis, sudanese, eritreans and ethiopians. many of my dear friends are from somalia.
post #112 of 1560
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As salaamu alaykum,

I was so happy to see this thread, I have been reading the boards on Mothering for a while. Well, about me - I have a lovely, 3 year old (almost 4) daughter that is the love and light of my life. Recently, I got remarried to my dear husband over the summer. We live in Northern VA and I teach at an Islamic school. MashaAllah, there is a large and active Muslim community here, I am involved in a halaqa/community group called SISTERS. I lived in the Bay Area (Oakland/Berkeley) in college and for some time beyond that - I miss how conducive that area was to living in a crunchy, organic, holistic, sustainable way. It was wonderful being so close to Zaytuna Institute also. It's nice to see West Africa represented on this board, I'm from the East side actually (Eritrea), but I was born and raised in the US. Sufism really resonated with me when I was younger,and perhaps this was influenced by living in the Bay...then I was previously married to a Salafi...over the years, the labels don't really matter, traditional Islam (and scholarship) and tawassuf are encompassed in all these paths. May Allah swt bless and reward you all!

as salaam alaikum violetlotus! i looooooove Zaytuna Institute! DH and i take online classes with Imam Zaid, Shaykh Hamza and Shaykh Salek. my Maliki fiqh teacher is also from Zaytuna. i definitely think it is a model for traditional, crunchy, holistic Muslim thought. so great to see you here!
post #113 of 1560
arizona umi- thanks for responding
so....am i hearing that going beyond 2 years is ok???
Any of you mommas gone beyond 2?
post #114 of 1560
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Originally Posted by mamefati28 View Post
arizona umi- thanks for responding
so....am i hearing that going beyond 2 years is ok???
Any of you mommas gone beyond 2?
From my limited understanding, it is okay to go beyond 2 years. There is no harm in it. I am currently nursing my 28 months old daughter and see no signs of stopping. If anyone knows anything different, I would love to hear. Then I would have to wean and Aminah would NOT be happy. :
post #115 of 1560
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Originally Posted by dealic View Post
Ok, since I am lurking in this thread, I thought I would post a bit of a hello!

I am not a Muslim (or a mama), but I am interested in Islam. I have had several Muslim friends and I really like some of their perspectives, especially when compared to Christian perspectives on the same issue. I am lurking to hopefully learn more, and so far its working. I am always having to look up words you use (wikipedia is my friend) and am enjoying the conversation.

Anyway, hello! Hopefully no one minds my shameless lurking.
Hello Rebecca -

Welcome. I can't speak for everyone but I don't mind you lurking. I hope that we can teach you something. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask.

I would encourage you to go the the new mosque in your area. I love it when non-Muslims come visit our mosque. It is always nice to share our religion with people. I have never looked at them as an infidel. Please don't feel this way. Allah has created every human being and we have to respect Allah's creation!
post #116 of 1560
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Originally Posted by violetlotus View Post
As salaamu alaykum,

I was so happy to see this thread, I have been reading the boards on Mothering for a while. Well, about me - I have a lovely, 3 year old (almost 4) daughter that is the love and light of my life. Recently, I got remarried to my dear husband over the summer. We live in Northern VA and I teach at an Islamic school. MashaAllah, there is a large and active Muslim community here, I am involved in a halaqa/community group called SISTERS. I lived in the Bay Area (Oakland/Berkeley) in college and for some time beyond that - I miss how conducive that area was to living in a crunchy, organic, holistic, sustainable way. It was wonderful being so close to Zaytuna Institute also. It's nice to see West Africa represented on this board, I'm from the East side actually (Eritrea), but I was born and raised in the US. Sufism really resonated with me when I was younger,and perhaps this was influenced by living in the Bay...then I was previously married to a Salafi...over the years, the labels don't really matter, traditional Islam (and scholarship) and tawassuf are encompassed in all these paths. May Allah swt bless and reward you all!
Walaikum Salam - and welcome to our group! I am so happy to see that Sisters are finding us here. I love all the diversity.
post #117 of 1560
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Originally Posted by mamefati28 View Post
How is NY Mama Amina? I didnt realize your husband was yoruba, you should be able to find a lot of community there. Hope you are settling in.

I am assuming that a lot of you mommas would also join in on the multi-cultural sub-forum that should be coming soon to MDC.

Any of you wanting to move back home or to DP homeland at some point on the future?
I would love to move back to Senegal with DH and live with his family. I have major issues and anxiety about raising my DS here in the states, especially considering that he is of mixed roots. I sum it up as my "inside/outside" battle. Here he has a local Health food store, (sorta clean water), access to good medical care, choices with education, etc.....all outside things...
In Senegal he has strong family ties, values, beliefs, support, all the most important internal makings of a good, strong, loving person...am i making sense? Anyone else who can relate or at least throw some perspective my way?
Jam ak hawal
Peace and blessings
Also, has anyone read any of the poetry of the female sufi Rabia?
I don't think I want to move to DH's homeland. He lives in a very rural part of Nigeria. I have been there and, being a spoiled American , found life to be very difficult. His mother's house didn't even have a bathroom, just a hole in the ground. We have since built her a new house that has facilities. Also, life there is dangerous, in my opinion. With all the corruption in both the private and government, it is not really safe to do business there. I wouldn't mind going back to visit but that would be about as much as I could do.

I understand what you mean about your DH's homeland. That makes total sense to me. I just don't see that in where my DH came from. I want to raise an honest Muslimah that knows her religion. I don't see either of those qualities in any of my DH's family. Reigion in Nigeria is very cultural. I saw that first hand when my MIL was here for over a year.

That's my two cents. Ihope I made sense. Aminah just woke up and is wanting attention so it was hard to write that. :
post #118 of 1560
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Originally Posted by Mama Aminah View Post
Hello Rebecca -

Welcome. I can't speak for everyone but I don't mind you lurking. I hope that we can teach you something. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask.

I would encourage you to go the the new mosque in your area. I love it when non-Muslims come visit our mosque. It is always nice to share our religion with people. I have never looked at them as an infidel. Please don't feel this way. Allah has created every human being and we have to respect Allah's creation!
Thanks! I have contacted the mosque for information before, which they were happy to provide, but now they have an actual building! Its very exciting. I may go one day. Should I drop in or call? What time/day should I go?
post #119 of 1560
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Should I drop in or call? What time/day should I go?
If I were you, I would call and let them know you want to visit. They may have some special activities that you can join or may just have a time that is better for you to visit. I am happy to hear that they were helpful before. This is important!
post #120 of 1560
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Originally Posted by mamefati28 View Post
Any of you wanting to move back home or to DP homeland at some point on the future?
Salaam aleikum

We are both Norwegian reverts, me and my DH, but we are planing on doing Hijrah fisabilillah, to Algeria inshaAllah.

I was married to an Algerian man before, and we have two children together, so we want to move there, its easier... Easier than Middle East hehe, there you need MONEY and education, and we dont have money lol. And also I have bounds to Algeria through kids, and for the sake of keeping a good relation to their family, we landed on Algeria.

If it was up to my husband, we would leave... uhm... yesterday hehehe, to anywhere in the world, almost. He wanted to go to Somalia, but its not safe for the children there, sadly.

We will see... We aim for Algeria, but... Allah only knows where we will end up
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