Originally Posted by mamayaya
My 3-year-old dd is put down to sleep in her own bed in her own room at 8 pm at night for bed. We've done nightlights, leaving lights on, blinds open, blinds closed, open door, closed door, reading stories, snacks, everything we can think of to get her to either go to sleep or at least stay in her bed and she will not. She constantly defies us and no matter what we say will come out of her room, run around the house crazy, not listen. We are really fed up and our patience is constantly tried.
Any ideas on how to get a 3-year-old to go to sleep?!
NO. But I will be watching. In reading the other responses, it sounds like most people have 'sleepers'. Some kids are NOT sleepers and no amount of parenting to sleep works for the 'non-sleepers'.
For us, ds NEEDS a early bedtime. He refuses to nap, gets up about the same time if he goes to bed at 7 pm or 11:30 pm. So earlier is better. I NEED a couple hours to recuperate before I go to sleep to be able to better handle the spirited preschooler the next day
One thing that
works for us is the 'turtle nightlight' it's on for 45 minutes and we count the stars together from his bed and go with that. This method works for a week or so at a time.
We, as a family, have tried the bath, teeth, stories routine and every variation and it's a JOKE. Getting our child to bed is really not cool.
I think it's very difficult for some people to understand how some kids refuse to sleep. My son is this way and it sounds like the OPs is too. I have one of the children that people with good sleepers effectively cannot understand. I certainly didn't understand the concept before I found myself with one. In our home, we have even tried the 'let them go with their own sleep time' thing. A 4 am my child was still going at full steam. Everytime. He flat out REFUSES to go to sleep with, or without, help.
I am going to take a PPs advice on the secret of parenting book. We are desperate, too!
OP-I feel for you. It sucks to have one that needs to be sleeping and you are right, your marriage needs to be strong and you have to put a priority on that. Is taking a drive an option? Sometimes we have to take a well timed drive to get ds to sleep. It's not something we want to do daily, as we want to help teach good sleep habits and we don't feel that is doing so, but it's nice to have a night every so often that is just peaceful in the sleep zone.