who co sleeps?

[wannathird]

thank you for those who were helping me

[alegna]

I cosleep but never used a special pillow.

-Angela

[hubris]

We also cosleep with our babies, and I've never used any sort of special pillow, positioner, or cosleeper. Just me, DH, and baby.

[kerikadi]

Originally Posted by alegna

I cosleep but never used a special pillow.

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[Ks Mama]

Have/do cosleep with both my babies, and just kept the bed as "normal" - my regular pillow. No pillow (other than my arm - my DS likes to rest his head on my arm) for the babies.

[rmzbm]

I cosleep...with just the regular stuff.

[clavicula]

me too.

[thefreckledmama]

We never used anything special.

[wannathird]

at least i am trying

thankyou for your response

[wannathird]

Originally Posted by kerikadi

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using a pillow does not make me a bad person

[attachedmamaof3]

We co-sleep, but no pillow/special thingies here either.

I don't think anyone here was judging you....co-sleeping w/pillow or extra stuff is fine...just not something some people have used. No big deal!

[kerikadi]

Originally Posted by wannathird

using a pillow does not make me a bad person

I never said using a pillow makes you a bad person. Where on earth did you get that? :
I simply quoted Angela's response and added a happy little smiley. Some of us are nursing while typing and don't have two free hands so if a previous poster summed up our feelings we just post the : smiley.

Nobody said anything negative about using a special pillow. We simply stated that we don't use one.

Keri

[BensMamacita]

We cosleep and at first tried using the cosleeper, but ds never liked it, so we eventually just took it down. Do you have any specific questions about cosleeping, or were you just looking for some conversation? If the latter, check out this thread http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=724719, it's really sweet.

[Phantaja]

Co slept. With stepchildren at that. And while I didn't use pillows (still don't. Prefer to rest my head on DH) DH had pillows and I never even thought about it. I think that a lot of people, especially those whose babies sleep at breast level, as mine did, even though I didn't breast feed, use pillows, or maybe their husbands/partners do. There's nothing wrong with that, at least I don't think that there is. What I do think that previous posters were saying is that either they do not use pillows or nothing special that they didn't have before having children/ co sleeping/ catching a good sale on pillows at Target.

[danotoyou2]

Wow, I think that Wannathird took things completely the wrong way. It didn't look to me like anyone was being rude. You asked a BRIEF question ("do any of you use a special pillow?") and they gave you some BREIF responses.

No one called you bad, or insinuated that having a special pillow was a bad thing. You just didn't hear from anyone that DID use a special pillow. Maybe if you'd phrased your question: "Who used a special pillow, and what were your feelings on them?" then you would have gotten responses from people that used them. Instead, you asked a blanket question and got a blanket response.

Jeez, all these women showed was that co-sleeping is possible in all sorts of situations. No one was JUDGING you.

[onyxravnos]

also dont use anything special just dh me and ds

[gottaknit]

I don't know what a humanity bed is, so I can't "judge" you. Is it like a special body-length pillow to keep little ones from rolling out of bed? Just guessing.

We co-sleep, but just used our regular one pillow for me and one for DH. DH has a habit of clutching his pillow to his chest while sleeping on his back, so usually I snatched it away and threw it on the floor when DS was an infant. It made me nervous that he would roll over and smother the baby.

I don't think sleeping with pillows (or sheets or PJs or whatever) makes anyone a bad person.

[DucetteMama21842]

Just me, DH, the bed and babies..

[Mrs.Floyd]

(((HUGS))) mama. I don't think anyone was trying to judge you, I think they were just giving very quick responses.

[wannathird]

Thank you for your response. My son was born 7 weeeks early it would of been great to know more about co sleeping. I spent so many nights looking into the bassinet and never sleeping staring at him.

Same with my daughter. i am trying to learn more about it the reason i wanted the pillow was more for the wall my room is small and the bed has to be against the bed and its where i sleep.

you get one side of many people in books and studies that say dont do it then you get people that say do it but do it this way. Its hard to find the right way. i think i am really understanding that its comfortable for people to do what is good for them may it be your pillow from your bed or a co sleeping pillow or nothing at all.

It was not many people it was one person i took it personally maybe my hormones or maybe just a feeling. I think what makes us human is to have feelings and to be able to feel them may it be wrong or not understood they are still feelings.