who co sleeps? - Page 2

[Mrs.Floyd]

Originally Posted by wannathird

Thank you for your response. My son was born 7 weeeks early it would of been great to know more about co sleeping. I spent so many nights looking into the bassinet and never sleeping staring at him.

Same with my daughter. i am trying to learn more about it the reason i wanted the pillow was more for the wall my room is small and the bed has to be against the bed and its where i sleep.

you get one side of many people in books and studies that say dont do it then you get people that say do it but do it this way. Its hard to find the right way. i think i am really understanding that its comfortable for people to do what is good for them may it be your pillow from your bed or a co sleeping pillow or nothing at all.

It was not many people it was one person i took it personally maybe my hormones or maybe just a feeling. I think what makes us human is to have feelings and to be able to feel them may it be wrong or not understood they are still feelings.

I think we can all relate to 'being hormonal' or just not understanding the tone of something we see on the computer screen - after all it's not like talking to someone face-to-face. And you surely can't help how you feel - sometimes things will just hit a nerve that you never would have expected. (That's happening *a lot* with me being preggo right now!) It sounds like you're doing a great job of trying to figure out what's best for you and your family.

[pinksprklybarefoot]

We put DS between us. Despite the fact that we have a co-sleeper next me me.

I have a head pillow and a leg pillow. And a snoring pug. It works for us.

I have seen the humanity pillow online. If it weren't so expensive, I would really consider it. Especially now that DS is really into flailing and not into wiggling. But when he was a newborn it might have given me a little more peace of mind, as it took me a while to get used to the co-sleeping thing.

[birdiefu]

I didn't use any pillows with DS, just snugged him up next to my arm. That said, I don't think there's any reason not to use a special pillow if you want to (just not a regular fluffy pillow- possible SIDS risk). I saw a cosleeping pillow that looked pretty handy online the other day- it had a little dim light on a timer so you don't have to get up to turn on a light to make sure the baby's latch is right. I could have used that in the early weeks!

[AbbieB]

I missed your original post but I gather you were asking about the humanity pillow.

is that the thing that looks like a big neck roll pillow with a sheet to go under momma?

I think is looks like a great idea if you are worried about baby (momma, or older child) rolling out of bed! I actually made my own version of this by tucking 2 futon arm rests (basically 2 short neck roll pillows) in the crack of the bed by the wall. It gave me the piece of mind to sleep a little sounder...less worrying about baby slipping into the crack.

I think anything new co-sleeping mommas need to do to set up the bed for piece of mind is OK. For some mommas this may be nothing different. For others it maybe needing different blankets, pillows, bed height, bed position, what have you.

I bought a snuggle nest for when DD was born. thought it would give DD the defined space she would need from flailing DH and deep sleeping momma. Turns out I was not a deep sleeper immediately post partum (the beauty of hormones and co-sleeping making you in tune with baby) and the snuggle nest was to ridged. DD just got rolled from side to side in it if anyone else moved. Plus as another poster said baby slept at breast level kind of in my arms. It did take awhile to get used to this. I aways hug a king size pillow so it took awhile to get comfortable with a pillow just between my knees and hugging my tiny baby (tip for others, this was a big ah ha moment for me: older baby can sleep on a king size pillow you are hugging and nurse from the top breast!).

[wannathird]

the humanity bed was very expenisve i did a layaway plan so it did not feel to much at once. This wonderful women sells them and does layaway with pay pal.

but reading that you can put to roll pillows for less sounds great lol i wish i would of known that. I am looking foward to the co sleeping i think overall its going to be better for all of us especially if i want this breast feeding to work.

When you try to live a new life its hard i think its taken a toll on my parents and friends they are wondering who am i now i am having a home birth and then i want to co sleep and i dont like this and that they are in shock. LOL i guess i just have to figure out what works best for me and the baby. Thank you for all your response i have gotten a lot of great ideas.

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Originally Posted by wannathird

the humanity bed was very expenisve i did a layaway plan so it did not feel to much at once. This wonderful women sells them and does layaway with pay pal.

but reading that you can put to roll pillows for less sounds great lol i wish i would of known that. I am looking foward to the co sleeping i think overall its going to be better for all of us especially if i want this breast feeding to work.

When you try to live a new life its hard i think its taken a toll on my parents and friends they are wondering who am i now i am having a home birth and then i want to co sleep and i dont like this and that they are in shock. LOL i guess i just have to figure out what works best for me and the baby. Thank you for all your response i have gotten a lot of great ideas.

from one stranger to another:
hi, i just stumbled on your post, and i just wanted to tell you it is great that you are making the changes, and learning, and reachingout. there is a great community here and you will get a lot of support when people irl are not very supportive. knowledge is power and you'll do great!!!

[ecoteat]

We built a solid rail-thing on the side of the bed to keep dd on, but then she wiggled too far into my space. So I made something like a mini humanity pillow. I took a piece of fleece (about 2'x3') and sewed a few inches of one of the short ends over to make a tube that I stuffed firmly. DD lays on the flat part, and the bolster part was effective for many months to keep her in her space! It also helped prop up my boob for side-lying nursing.

That worked well for us, and you will discover what works for you. Good luck!