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post #22 of 81
You have my deepest condolences. It sounds like you're making the best of a tragic situation. I'm glad you and the girls are out of the abusive situation. It would have been nice to have a different outcome for your husband but in the end only he could get himself the help he needed. I wish you and your girls all the best in the years to come.
post #23 of 81
I'm so very, very sorry...
post #24 of 81
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Originally Posted by Ann-Marita View Post
catlvr976, I am so sorry. I can't imaging what you are going through.

Like the pp, I'm glad that you are no longer in the abusive situation. But I'm so sorry that THIS was the way out.
What she said.

I'm so sorry.
post #25 of 81
What a tragic situation... I'm glad you got away from the abuse you all were suffering, but I'm sorry that your H didn't get the help he needed... You and your DCs should look into counseling, too, to help you process all that has happened.

s best wishes!
post #26 of 81
This is a horrible situation to be in. I'm so sorry for everything you've been through. I hope your dh is a peace now and I hope that you find peace too.

post #27 of 81
I'm so sorry, it must be so confusing for you. I hope that time brings peace and comfort to you and your dds.
post #28 of 81
I'm so sorry for the loss for you and your children.
post #29 of 81
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Originally Posted by catlvr976 View Post
Thanks everyone for your replies. And thanks for the link captain optimism, I'll have to check that out. I was wondering if there was a support group in my area.

It's hard to read books and things about suicide b/c they all seem geared to people that have had normal relationships--I haven't really found one that dealt with suicide after an abusive relationship and the feelings that it entails.

I do wish that things had turned out differently and do wish that I knew what he was thinking, and why he chose to end his life so alone. I know that I'm only human and can't save everyone, but that doesn't make it any easier. I just wish he wouldn't have been so stubborn and gotten the help he needed. He never talked about suicide, never gave any hints, or maybe he did but they were so subtle that I or anyone else he talked to, never saw them; this just came out of the blue.
Hey mama, my dd's father, who abused me, hung himself on Christams Eve of 2006. I experienced a lot of what you are feeling... such a huge conflicting mess of emotions. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk.

to you and your girls.
post #30 of 81
I am sorry about your loss. I wanted to let you know that I'm doing a walk for suicide prevention through outofthedarkness.org, maybe there is one in your area if you wanted to walk in his memory.
post #31 of 81
Oh Jessica,my heart aches for you and your girls,you sound like you really had a tough time before this happened.I hope you are finding strength and support around you,you and your little ones will be in my prayers tonight.
post #32 of 81
I'm so sorry your babies' daddy had to die to find his own peace. I'm sending you wishes for peace in your heart too

~diana
post #33 of 81
I'm so sorry. No matter the relationship issues at the end, you must be feeling very sad. Please try not to let others get to you - you were the one living the situation, you know the truth. May you and your girls find peace.
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post #35 of 81
I couldn't read your post and not respond.

I am very very sorry. I hope you and your dds are surrounded by the strength you need to get through this horrible tragedy. You are a strong mama and I hope you find peace.
post #36 of 81
As horrible and sad as this is, I am just glad it was him and not you and your three children. Sadly, that is the story you usually hear with an escalating abusive husband after pfa and things start happening. Maybe he knew that if he would hurt you and the children and couldn't bear the thought of doing so. Please try not to feel guilty. You have no reason to. There was help available and it sounds like you stuck it out until you truly felt you were in physical danger.
post #37 of 81
I am so very sorry. My heart aches for you and your children.
post #38 of 81
s I am very sorry for your loss.

No one deserves this. Give your girls the best mama they can have, and keep the memory of their Father alive. Someday they will know why, but not now.
post #39 of 81
My uncle killed himself when his sons were like 3 and 5. It was a very rough time and the ripple effects are still happening 20 years later. In addition to getting some support for you (which is so important!), I hope you are able to get support for your girls too. They'll have a lot to process and it will certainly be an ongoing thing.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Wishing you and your littles much peace.
post #40 of 81
I am so sorry
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