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Wow, there are a lot of responses. I'm not sure I explained myself clearly. I did not call her a liar. I did ask her what happens if you are a liar. Lately, she's been lying a lot and for the most part it's been about not-serious stuff. Example...I found some artwork I made in the bathroom trash can. I knew she put it there. I asked her if she did it. She said no. I said something along the lines of, "Did you pull on it (it was hanging from the ceiling) and pull it down?" She said no. Then later she told me she did it but said no to keep herself out of trouble. We've "caught" her doing this a lot. Probably more than 5 times a day lately. I'm trying to explain to her what happens when you lie...even if you lie to protect yourself from getting in trouble...if you lie to be mean..or lie to be sneaky..etc. I see the appeal of lying but it never works out well for her. We always catch on to what she's doing and then the level of punishment is higher because she is in trouble for more than one issue.

Also, I was not giving her time outs. I asked her to think about it and she did. I also don't think she was trying to hurt me...she either honestly feels that way or she's testing out limits and all of that. It just shocked me. It never occurred to me that inside her head that would be a good reason to not listen to me.

Whoever suggested that she was setting us up to have a discussion about the mom situation...wow. I never thought about that. I mean, I give her a lot of credit for being intelligent but I never thought that she might intentionally in some way be trying to have a conversation that she did not know how to start. I wouldn't blame her for having questions and we address the ones she voices but maybe we should talk to her about that kind of stuff before she brings it up?

In the end I do believe she was being slightly manipulative. I'm not saying she's unique...I know all kids lie at one time or another.

Sometimes I feel like I'm a battlefield and I have to plan strategies or I won't survive.
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>>Sometimes I feel like I'm a battlefield and I have to plan strategies or I won't survive.<<

sounds like you have a smart kid!
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