Well it looks like I get to quit my job anyway

[Beckula]

I'm sorry that it seems like all's i do is post negative things, it just seems to be an issue for me. Well the midwife sent me an e-mail telling me that she has to stop practicing or she will be arrested. There goes my homebirth right down the toilet. my husband is not comfortable with a UC and frankly neither am I. Whats worse is that I'm a VBAC so I'm going to be sent up to the big hospital up north about 1.5 miles away from my home or I'm basically stuck with a c-section. Alls i wanted was this homebirth and i was working so hard for it and now I'm angry thinking of all the time i was misreable at my crappy job that i could have spent with my DS and family. Oh well... theres months i'll never get back. I hate my life and my luck sometimes.

[Grace24]

I'm so sorry! It's so unfortunate that it's so hard for midwifes to practice now. No fair.

[LittleBrownDog]

Oh I'm so sorry I guess if it's that hostile of an area for MWs there aren't any others you could try to switch to?

[Curlita]

Sorry to hear this. It's always such a blow when you work hard to get all the elements together and then things fall apart through no fault of your own. Hope you can regroup, recup, and find a birth option that will include the things you want most. Hugs!

[boogiemonster]

Mama.

[lisalulu]

I'm sorry! I hope you find a good alternative.

[*GreenMama*]

Oh mama I'm so sorry! How ridiculous are these rules nowadays? I can totally commiserate with the up-your-butt hospital stay. Hugs to you!

[Beckula]

This sucks so much, I can't stop crying. Alls that i wanted is to bring this baby into the world surrounded by love, and now its going to be the complete opposite of what i wanted. Cold sterility (the enviroment not the actualness), anger and fear because I will fight for my VBAC and I know how hostile that will make the staff of Labor and delivery. Instead of the warmth and gentleness of a waterbirth at home. Of course my Mother gave me the "its a healthy baby that really matters" speech. I did all the research, spent all this time making the phone calls and this was my only option for a homebirth and now its over and gone. I feel like my time was wasted and my heart is broken.

[Valerieg]

I am SO sorry to hear that you're dealing with this. I'm currently researching HB myself and I know I'd feel exactly as you do if I went through all this just to have it taken from me. You poor thing.

But I did want to offer a glimmer of hope. My friend had wanted a VBAC in Chicago and nobody would let her have one. So she set up a scheduled c-section for sometime around or after her EDD. She started natural induction stuff around 37 weeks with the intent of going into labor on her own. She labored at home so long that she arrived at the hospital pretty far along so they allowed her to VBAC!!!!!

I hope that this works out well for you real soon.

[scheelimama]

I'm so sorry. Will you get your money back? If so, at least you can feel like you've racked up a good savings. Maybe you can go on a baby shopping spree with the money to make yourself feel better. I'm so sorry mama.

[Beckula]

Originally Posted by scheelimama

I'm so sorry. Will you get your money back? If so, at least you can feel like you've racked up a good savings. Maybe you can go on a baby shopping spree with the money to make yourself feel better. I'm so sorry mama.

I'll get a partial refund on my deposit because she is still taking out what she used in the pre-natals. I'm not sure what that will be but hopefully not much because I only had two visits with her. I probably will or give myself a nice haircut or something for my birthday from the $ I had saved and a nice baby shopping splurge. At least I get to quit my horrible job.

[Googy]

I'm so sorry to hear about this. I know how much pressure there can be with a VBAC. Can you go to a different hospital that is more VBAC-friendly? Where I'm going they strongly encourage women to do VBACs and have lots of support for them. Is that possible near you??? If you need links to VBAC-friendly hospitals in your area I think I could find some and send them to you.

[sorteep]

Ohhhh I am so sorry ... does your sstate restrict HB MW's ?? try try try to focus on delivering a healthy baby (any way it comes...) and just do your best.. many hugs..

[Beckula]

Originally Posted by Googy

I'm so sorry to hear about this. I know how much pressure there can be with a VBAC. Can you go to a different hospital that is more VBAC-friendly? Where I'm going they strongly encourage women to do VBACs and have lots of support for them. Is that possible near you??? If you need links to VBAC-friendly hospitals in your area I think I could find some and send them to you.

Yup definatly going to the ONE VBAC friendly (or just tolerant) hospital in the state. It was always my backup plan which i thought was a joke because i thought I wouldn't need it I just wanted to be prepared.

[Beckula]

Thank you Ladies for taking the time to comfort me, this is not the first time and i am extremely grateful to all of you and this site for just being here.

[Grace24]

Here's a thought...how bout using the money you would've spent for a doula? It can significantly improve your odds of a VBAC. I met mine yesterday, she's awesome... I think if you had a doula on YOUR side at the hospital you'd feel a lot safer.

[LittleBrownDog]

Originally Posted by Grace24

Here's a thought...how bout using the money you would've spent for a doula? It can significantly improve your odds of a VBAC. I met mine yesterday, she's awesome... I think if you had a doula on YOUR side at the hospital you'd feel a lot safer.

Now THAT is a fantastic idea!!!

[yogachick79]

The idea of a doula IS an awesome one. Oh hun, I am so sorry. Our birthing center that we had planned on using (and midwife) shut down when we reached our 25 wk mark with DSs pregnancy. It was so horrid, because like you I wanted a more peaceful birth outside of a hospital, and I felt absolutely awful for my midwife (she lost her practice due to inflated malpractice insurance rates). We ended up having a very good hospital birth (with hospital midwives) but I understand your whole fear of having to fight for a VBAC (watched my mom go through that).

[Beckula]

Well i contacted the one Doula I could find on-line. Turns out that all the info was from 6 years ago and that she could never get her certificate due to hostile Dr.s and L&D nurses. Supposedly the Hospital on its website had a number you can call if you are interested in a labor Doula. I called it and it just gave me the childbirth classes voicemail, so we will see though i am doubtful. If anyone knows of a Doula in Delaware please PM me, I'm getting desperate. Thanks ladies.

[yogachick79]

Have you tried posting in the tribal area over here on MDC? I've gotten lots of good health care provider information by posting an ISO in my state's area before. Good luck hun!