Originally Posted by fluttermama
I'm a little confused...you cannot presume to know that it is not best for your child to run out into traffic?
The running into traffic example always comes up in these discussions.
I've never known a child to say, "I want to get hit by a car." My youngest ran into the road once, because he decided to race us to our car. He also tried to go into the road once to get a pretty rock that was there. Those desires are things that we can find a way to fulfull without any danger of getting hit, and that's something that we can talk about.
As for the impulsive run into traffic, I would certainly stop my child, or anyone, out of instinct. But I also like to keep in mind that I can't ever know what will happen. For any given circumstance, I can think of many things that *might* happen, but I can't know what *will* happen.
Also to consider is that, not only don't I know what will happen, but I can't know how my child will interpret it. A different example for this one:
A relative used to always caution one of my kids about climbing. "Don't do that, you'll fall and get hurt." Her prediction that he would fall and get hurt was certainly one possibility. Or, he could fall and NOT get hurt. Or, he could not fall at all. Mostly, he didn't fall. Once, he did and scraped his leg. Relative was clucking her "I told you so's" and commenting that now he'd "learned his lesson." but ds brushed himself off, said, "It's just a scrape" and went back to climbing.
He interpreted the risk of injury as worth the fun of climbing. I have another child who would not have (I don't think.)
So, I couldn't say, "It's best for you not to climb so that you don't fall and get hurt." Ds wouldn't agree.