another one here
: ...although I think there are varying degrees of radical-ness in unschooling, and just unschooling alone when thinking of it in an academic sense is pretty radical!
I find in the "non academic areas" such as bedtimes things are going to depend on how old your kids are, the setup of the house, and yes mama in the forest
how many you have! For example, when my kids were smaller and dh was working night shift, and I was very newly postpartum with ds, I would be upstairs in pj's with them at 6 pm nursing both of them to sleep and would try to sleep even that early myself as dd was waking up almost as much as ds
: I was not comfortable leaving dd downstairs alone, she had only just turned 3, and I would accept that some nights she was just not tired then, but would put the gate up at the end of the hall so she could not get out if I fell asleep, set out something quiet to do and a snack, or she could play in the room quietly beside me, etc. Now at 7 she knows how to turn off the lights, and most often joins us or goes to her own room about a half hour after we do. I do agree with previous posters about things like quieting down, etc. That is totally different from just saying you HAVE to go to bed at such and such a time BECAUSE I AM THE MOM THAT'S WHY!
I think it is about trying to come to a compromise about meeting both your needs and it is going to look a lot different when your kids are young vs older. Also, each kid is different. My ds has no problem telling me that "mama me tired, me need to go to bed" then falls asleep in 5 min
while dd can look/act exhausted and doesn't always recognize it and sometimes needs some help in winding down
I really think that radical unschooling get some people rankled as they believe people just let their kids run wild. As is quoted in other places on the Web...unschooling is not unparenting! TV...we don't have restrictions as to time watched, I lifted this about a year ago and have finally become more relaxed about it, the forbidden fruit aspect is gone and when I truly did pay attention and watched with her I saw how much they are learning. We do have lots of dialoge about what she is watching.
As far as my favorite resources:
Yahoo groups such as AlwaysUnschooled (for up to age 8 or so), Shine with Unschooling (lots of moms with "special needs kids" but focuses on seeing them for their strenghts), unschoolingbasics
Life Learning Magazine
Live Free Learn Free magazine (folkypoet on this board edits/publishes that one)http://connections.organiclearning.org/
(an online mag, will need to pay something like 10.00 per year I think but can read a sample issue.)http://www.sandradodd.com
(this is her website, on messageboards some people find her a bit harsh and she tells it like it is, but I have always gotten the kick in the pants I have needed when I express doubts!
(under articles look at the section on "learning")http://home.earthlink.net/~fetteroll/rejoycing
(Joyce Fetteroll, lots of great stuff about respectful out-of-the-box parenting, quieting fears regarding school subjects "how will they learn math?" etc. I have used tonnes of ink cartridges printing stuff off of here!!!!)
Books: all written by unschoolers
The Unschooling Handbook by Mary Griffith
Moving a Puddle by Sandra Dodd
Parenting a Free Child by Rue Kream
Challenging Assumptions in Education by Wendy Priesnitz (who edits Life Learning magazine)
Hope this helps ya!
Tina, dp James, dd Stephanie (7) and ds Jonathan (4) here in Manitoba Canada eh