Originally Posted by Spring Flower
I'm curious what you would do if your husband did make a comments like that. I ask only because when I was working and planning to be a SAHM, I said the same kinds of things, that it would be our money and if DH ever said something like that, it just wouldn't fly. I wouldn't put up with that, you know?
Off the top of my head...
- Invoice him for all your "services" (cleaning, meal prep, child care, etc.)
- Stop doing anything that isn't for you or the kids. Don't do his laundry, don't cook his food, don't buy any groceries for him, don't set him a place at the table, don't clean up any of his messes, etc.
What I think would really be best is to have an open discussion with him. Let him know that he's being incredibly disrespectful of your work and your position in your family. Tell him how you're feeling. Tell him what you want your relationship to look like and how you'd like money to be handled within your family.
I tend to have problems approaching DH about issues, so I write him letters. That way it's easier to bring things up and I have the time to sort through my thoughts properly. Maybe this could work for you if it's difficult to sit down with your DH.
to you. It sounds like your DH really doesn't get it and I hope the two of you can sort things out.