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why don't more people babywear?

post #1 of 27
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i live in a fairly progressive place and see a reasonable amount of babywearing, depending on wear i'm hanging out--but never a ton, unless i am with my BWing friends

in the more mainstream places, like a shopping mall, i get lots of looks and interested comments. but i guess my question is, why is it not more popular? especially for grocery shopping or other errands where you need hands, it's so much easier than pushing a stroller. and i HATE having to open doors and push the stroller through. it's virtually impossible! so i was really happy once i healed from my c/s and could start getting DD used to being worn. it is literally 100x easier in most situations.

so why? is it the intimidating factor (looks hard), the crunchy/weird factor, or just a lack of info/knowledge that BW even exists?
post #2 of 27
I think it's all those things, plus our culture that thinks that holding babies spoils them, but thinks letting them cry in plastic containers is just fine and dandy.
post #3 of 27
Its not in brick and mortar stores and mentioned in mainstream baby books.When my oldest was a baby I read all the baby books my bookstore had.I found one that suggested the Bjorn would be a nice option.I told DH if we didn't get a stroller then I needed the Bjorn even though it was super expensive.(If its more than 20 it is expensive)We only got to use it til DS was 3 months because he grew too round for it.I looked at Walmart,Target and baby's R us and only saw even more expensive backpack style carriers so I used to use a sheet when I really got desperate.It wasn't until I had my second baby that I had greater access to the internet and found the out about slings and mei teis.I still don't see them sold on street corners and they are still kinda expensive.I have seen more and more mamas babywearing than I did 5 years ago which is really cool, it may become another option to use instead of a stroller or with one.
post #4 of 27
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why don't more people babywear?
I use a Didymos and am getting lots of comments and questions on it. People seem to love the idea, but have never seen or know where to get a good carrier

There is a baby boutique in Placerville that carries Maya's but thats the only place I have been to that carries anything decent to carry a baby with. I told her about Didys, she was going to look into them.

The nasty carriers that a person can get a most stores is enough to turn a person off baby wearing IMO Been there done that.
post #5 of 27
I agree that most people just don't know about the good babywearing stuff and where to find them. I've had so many people ask me where to get the wraps and slings that I have and it makes me so happy when I see them later using one. I wish some main stream store would carry them. Doesn't target now have a good one? I think I remember a post about that.
post #6 of 27
When I'm at the mall or wherever I have at least two people ask me where I got my sling from and another 5 who tell me that it is such a cute idea to carry my DS around on my hip. I guess there's more and more people getting into the babywearing, it just takes a while. I really thought that carrying around the carseat is such a good idea until my DS hit 16 lbs and I couldn't get the seat out of the car anymore. I needed something easier than that. I got the tip from another mom in another forum and I'm glad she actually told me about slings and wraps. I love my Hotsling more than anything.
post #7 of 27
In my town, the only stores where you can buy a carrier are:
Wal-Mart - Snugli brand junk
The Circus Shop - that nasty nylon bag-shaped sling with all the buckles and grommets - you know, the one all the celebrities use and look so horribly uncomfortable in?
Bear Cub Kid Fitters - Baby Bjorn, Kelty

That's IT. I'm hoping that the babywearing workshop I'm holding on Thursday will bring in a few interested people, so I can show them how to carry their baby more comfortably than those high-tech buckly contraptions in just a length of muslin from the fabric store. It's certainly something I wish I had known about earlier!
post #8 of 27
I go to a new moms group once a week and most of us head out to lunch afterwards. Now picture 10 or so moms, all with kids under 5 months, heading to a small resturaunt. Mammoth strollers, out of the way! And me, my babe in his sling. Funny, each week at least a couple of the moms comment on how much easier it is for me to grab ds and go, and yet they don't try it themselves. I just don't get it.

I do agree that part of it might be mainstream availability. I prefer to buy things that I can touch and try, rather than online. Sometimes though, just break down and order from a store with a good return policy!
post #9 of 27
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Originally Posted by PatchChild View Post
I go to a new moms group once a week and most of us head out to lunch afterwards. Now picture 10 or so moms, all with kids under 5 months, heading to a small resturaunt. Mammoth strollers, out of the way! And me, my babe in his sling. Funny, each week at least a couple of the moms comment on how much easier it is for me to grab ds and go, and yet they don't try it themselves. I just don't get it.

I do agree that part of it might be mainstream availability. I prefer to buy things that I can touch and try, rather than online. Sometimes though, just break down and order from a store with a good return policy!

Yep, I'm always getting comments on how cute DS and me look with him in the sling having a good time. I hear the "Oh, I have a carrier too but my DS/DD doesn't like it" or they don't want to spend the 50 bucks on a sling/pouch etc.
post #10 of 27
These are the same people who look at me like I'm crazy when I tell them that it was actually easier to co-sleep and breastfeed...

I agree about the availability thing--I think this is why you see so many moms with infants in Bjorns or Snuglis (shout out to Target for carrying Hotslings!). The first carrier I bought was a Maya Wrap because I could see it in person and compare it to the one other sling they had in the store. And I never would've bought my Mei Tai if I hadn't tried one on at a babywearer's club.
post #11 of 27
I think a lot of it has to do with unfamiliarity. I honestly don't know anyone around me who has anything other than a snugli/bjorn/kelty/etc. I would love to try a mei tai or Ergo, but I don't want to spend the money without knowing what I'm getting into.

Jen
post #12 of 27
i think a lot more people are! i saw hotslings at target last week! we have a pretty big babywearing community here in dallas.
post #13 of 27
Alot of people don't know anything about it. Here in WY I've never seen anybody else babywearing. I always get questions about my carriers and most people say they've never seen anything like it, just the walmart type ones. Up in Fargo where we were and are going back too, I saw one person with a hotsling at the mall once.
I wish more people knew about it. I think it's sooo much easier.
post #14 of 27
I often wonder about this too. I have mainstream friends with two kids. How do they get stuff done? I wouldn't get anything done (cooking dinner, tidying the house) if I didn't wear my DD. I just don't know. I still have my 2 year old ride in the cart at the grocery store and I put my DD in my MT - how do they do that with two kids without babywearing? I don't know.

I lent a friend a sling and she swore that her DS hated it. I didn't believe that she was using it correctly. She said her DS kept trying to stand up in it. I still haven't gotten it back though. I should get it back.

I let another friend try my MT with her 8 month old DD at my house. She had it on for like 5 minutes tops. Her DD started wiggling and so she said that her DD didn't like it... But she wouldn't take my suggestion to walk around.

Maybe its because they aren't babywearing from birth? I didn't sling DS until he was about 6 weeks old, but used a snugli from 2-6 weeks I think.

Maybe its because they don't know about all of the options of carriers. Maybe the one type they tried isn't the right carrier for them. Right now, I'm in love with my MT. I have a really hard time with a sling with my DD, but my DS loved it. I also didn't really dig the pouch. I like wraps at home, but I think I would be overwhelmed in public. So I can easily see how someone who doesn't know the options would be totally turned off. If I would have tried to put DD in a sling and that was my only babywearing experience - I would have been turned off too.
post #15 of 27
Thread Starter 
yeah, i hear a lot of the "my baby hates being worn" comments, too. i always tell them all babies hate it when they're not used to it. my DD hated the hotsling when i first got one at around 6 weeks. now she loves it; i can even wear her in it sitting down. just takes perseverance!! we're working on the MT now
post #16 of 27
i had a sling for my first 3 (the padded sides and adjustable ring type) that i used but never felt 100% comfortable with it and then a couple of weeks ago i bought a moby wrap for my 4th baby (who is close to 4 months old) and i LOVE it!! it is really easy to use and there are so many options for wrapping it. i wish i had a wrap for the other kids!!

maybe some people try to wear their little ones but just don't end up with the right carrier and they quit.
stacey
post #17 of 27
When my brother-in-law saw DH wearing a Moby, he laughed and laughed...until he saw how calm DS became as soon as placed inside! I think we're slowly making believers out of the in-laws.

It seems to me like babywearing is slowly gaining interest in my neck of the woods. Two of my friends are trying it out, and slings are selling like hotcakes at our local boutique.

I have three different slings, and have found that it is really important to encourage people to just take the first step and give it a try. I started out with a peanut shell, and was given a Moby as a gift. The Moby looked too confusing, so I didn't bother with it for weeks until DS was a screaming, colicy mess and I tried it out as a last resort. Now, it's my favorite sling!
post #18 of 27
I don't know if it's availability - every one I know has a Snugli, and they use them, but only for the first few months and that's it, even though Snugli holds up to 35 lb. I think mainstream people just don't believe in holding their babies past a certain age. Playtex makes the Hip Hammock for older babes, but I never see anyone using those.I think by that age they expect the kid to just walk everywhere, or sit in a stroller, but in any case not be held by the parent. I mean, even if you didn't have internet, there are carriers available, even if they aren't the absolute BEST option. But I think the majority of people won't use them because it's not the mainstream parenting philosophy to hold your baby.
post #19 of 27
I think one reason is (as crittersmom mentioned) that you don't see a lot of options in mainstream stores.

Second reason is todays life style. The fact that most moms have their children spend so much time in strollers, exersaucers, highchairs, car seats & baby swings, is the me lifestyle. Sure these are all useful devices, but many are over used. In addition to this, the stroller & car seats are part of our vehicle lifestyle, think about the number of three person families you see driving minivans. I have always wondered why such a family would need such a large vehicle or want to spend that much on gas if they didn't need to. Also think of all the people who drive to a store that they could walk to in 20 minutes or less. I think excessive stroller use is an extension of this lifestyle.

Strollers look easier (put baby in & push rather then carrier the weight of baby). But if you've used both you know what is easier. How many people try new things unless it looks like less work?
post #20 of 27
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Originally Posted by readytobedone View Post
yeah, i hear a lot of the "my baby hates being worn" comments, too. i always tell them all babies hate it when they're not used to it. my DD hated the hotsling when i first got one at around 6 weeks. now she loves it; i can even wear her in it sitting down. just takes perseverance!! we're working on the MT now
Yep, I got one just today..." I have one of those carriers (ref. to my hotsling) but my son hated it"...I don't know what it is about my DS but he hated the Baby Bjorn we have and he loved the sling as soon as I sat him in it. He never complained ONCE and I can even still carry him in the cradle position although his legs are hanging out of it by now.
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