Originally Posted by pranava
Well, the full moon inlluminated a BFN. Depressing. I was really trying to not get my hopes up, but I seemed to have so many signs? Fuller breasts, cramping that I never get before AF, bleeding when I brushed my teeth this morning. I know it's only 11DPO, but it hard to keep up hope. I just had to share with you guys cuz DW isn't nearly as dissapointed as I am. She's right, it's only our first try, but I've been wanting this for years so I feel like it should just happen. Obvioulsy, patience is not one of my strong points.
It's true though, that 11 dpo is early, especially if you're not using super-concentrated urine. Try tomorrow with fmu? Fingers crossed for you!
You know, this whole process is such an emotional rollercoaster, and it's totally understandable to be really, really sad when it doesn't work out. I got pregnant the first time, and then lost the pregnancy at 3 weeks. It was so early that if I hadn't been trying, I might never have known I was pregnant, and yet, I could not stop crying for two solid days. My GF tried to be supportive, but I don't think she really understood. Her attitude was, "well, if you get upset every time it doesn't work out, you'll make yourself crazy." And that's true. But it's also okay to take the time to feel sad, especially the first time, when you have so many hopes riding on it all. What's really important is to find ways to nurture yourself along the way, and to give yourself the space to feel whatever you feel, because this is a big, emotional process, and your feelings are indeed valid.
I became convinced this morning that I'm not pregnant, because when I was last time my breasts were sore at 4dpo (today), and they aren't this time. So now, instead of doing work, I'm obsessively browsing sperm donors and repeatedly poking my breasts to check for signs of tenderness. At this rate, they'll be sore by the afternoon, regardless of whether I'm pregnant or not...