Originally Posted by ThreeBeans
For those of you who are getting the hairy eyeball, has it occurred to you that parents are being forced to keep their kids away from the slide while your child goes haywire on it?
Well, it is my opinion that no one is forced to do anything (in *normal* situations, I am not speaking of like, political prisoners and such) --- parks are to be played on and my child is free to play however she likes so long as she is respecting others and staying safe ---
If someone is across the park feeling "forced" to keep their child away from the slide, to me that is their issue for not speaking up, not mine. In other words, a few seconds of observation would show them that I help dd stay respectful of other sliders (in that she moves or I help redirect if others want to slide) -- Also, if their child wanders near the slide, I will usually ask the child if they seem to be holding back "did you want to slide? You can take a turn!" (in a friendly way, then explain to dd the child is wanting a turn and dd has had no issues moving aside) ...
So I really don't understand the mindset of "forcing" someone to stay away from anything -- other people's fear of asking a question is not my concern -- I could easily say those people are trying to "force" my child to play the way they dictate -- but I don't -- I mind my own business, act friendly, make it known (without actually taking their hand and leading them to the slide) in my mannerisms and words that anyone is free to use the slide (dd has never had an issue sharing it) --
Where is get the hairy eyeball in my understanding of what I have seen and heard is when a parent is lying to their child or saying some nonsense about it being against the law orthe "park people" are going to come get them in trouble or some such, and then dd is climbing up the slide and the kid wonders why she can do it -- continuing a deception a parent started in order to keep their kids from doing something they don't want is not my job. I really respect (even if I don't understand) when parents simply say "I don't want you to climb up the slide for ______ reason" and explain that dd is doing it because I said it was okay. Strange, don't get the hairy eyeball from them.